Will she know I am preggy? And would you go ahead?

You were settling into being a family with the two children... A third will unbalance that.
He sounds casual even flippant about life. He can be because he lives a simplified life with his job in a mainly male world out in ME. We have worked there. The 'single' status men do have a jokey attitude to life.
I would avoid any entanglement with him of his family. It is inevitable that they will give you a pitch about how good he is.
Did he invite all three of you to meet parents?
Termination must be a preference. Then Mirena.

It’s not a sign.

You have two children already. You need to think about them. What is best for your existing children.

He also sounds a complete muppet.

You sound like your teenage self is enthralled by your school boyfriend and him being so lush and you're so lucky to be with him.

You're an adult now with 2 kids already.

To be honest, I'm not even sure why you told him, and by text, if you're not even sure what you want.

You've now created a whole big drama, when in actual fact, you could have dealt with this without him knowing causing far less grief all round.

You sound like you need to grow up.

Jesus, what a total fucking mess.

It might be worth laying some ground work and putting things off, just in case. Thinking along lines of telling him it's very early and there's no guarantees at this stage and that you don't feel comfortable letting anyone else know until you're safely out of the first trimester.

OP, just read this over and over.

You both (particularly him) sound way too flippant and silly about the pregnancy. It’s a child you will be bringing into the world. For the child’s sake, and you own child’s sake, please seriously consider not having it - it sounds like the kinder option here. You barely know this man. Your children need your attention after the divorce.

A roast dinner isn't going to solve anything.

This is a casual affair. And an unplanned pregnancy.
You already have a family, which you considered complete until you found out you were pregnant. Do you want this added complication.
Do you really love this school-crush man who isn’t even around a lot of the time, and do you want to spend the rest of your life with him/connected to him/waiting for him. You would be rearing his child while he’s away working.

What exactly is he proposing, other than a roast dinner ?

You need to think hard about what YOU want and what the children you already have, want and need. Don’t disrupt your life or theirs, for this part-time man. It’s a situation anybody would easily tire of and find to be very hard work.
Consider your finances and your career and your pension very carefully as they will be compromised by a new baby.
Then you need to communicate with him properly, before he skips off back again to the Middle East to keep his own finances, career and pension going nicely.

Come to a conclusion for your situation before you accept the roast dinner invitation. Look carefully at the cold hard facts. Good luck OP !

So you’re recently divorced, accidentally pregnant by your former teenage boyfriend, with whom you don’t appear to be in a committed relationship, and who works overseas, and whose only response to the pregnancy has been silliness and saying he’ll tell his parents and wanting you to meet themto apparently pressure you into continuing the pregnancy? AND you have two children, at least one of whom would struggle if her mother had a baby by a total stranger?

You’d be crazy to continue this pregnancy.

Sorry to say...but You are vanishingly unlikely to smoothly play happy families.

The fact he wants to sing cringey songs and say you are "preggy" 🤢 and isnt sitting down to discuss how the fuck its going to work with 2 step kids in a mewish relationship when he works abroad....tells me it isnt going to be plain sailing for you.he is immature and has little to zero understanding of what parenting means.

A non verbal son is likely going to be a deal breaker for this guy in reality in 2 years... even if he says its "fine" now.

I would ONLY continue if i was happy to do it totally alone AND was also prepared for your partner to come after 50/50 ie you wouldnt see that child for approx 50% of the time.

Personally i think you would be crazy and it would be unfair to bring a child into this kind of set up for multiple reasons...

His overexcitement, cutesy language and lack of practical thinking about the logistics, makes me think he is very immature. He is in no way ready to have a baby with you.

The main question to ask yourself is, could you do this alone? Only if that is the case go ahead.

The way you said you’re ’thrilled’ to be having his baby makes me feel like at the moment this is all a bit of a game you’re swept up in. The baby must come before this man you’ve been involved with for five minutes, but your existing children and their safety and wellbeing must come before that. Please step away, head before heart, and think this practically first.

This, I’m afraid. I don’t like the way he’s speaking about your pregnancy, and the way he’s taking possession so early and trying to call all the shots. I feel uneasy. You would be best, imo, to focus on the children you already have and put their needs and well-being first.

-Would he continue to work in the Middle East? -Would you be a couple or would you be lone parenting?
-Do you know if you share the same values?

He’s jumping the gun by telling his parents.
You need to work out what you want and discuss expectations.

So he's excited and singing songs and making up cute names, and working out how to introduce you to his parents so he can tell them all about it. But has he said anything practical about how he will support his child? Has he mulled over how it will affect where he can work and live and what he can do? It's also worrying that you told him you weren't sure about keepingit right at the start and he seems to have steamrollered over that and assumed you're going to go with his choice. Has he offered you any kind of support (rather than pressure) in making the decision?

He may have and you just haven't mentioned it, but your posts make it sound like he's giddy about the idea of being a dad in the most shallow ways possible and oblivious of what it would mean for either of you. Not that you necessarily have to envision him being the best dad and partner or even involved at all to want to keep the baby. But you want to be realistic about what the future could hold if you do.

Also agree with all the posters who say - Don't encourage him to tell them. Don't meet them yet. Make up your mind first and if you're going to have the baby, discuss how the two of you are going to deal with things before you start throwing extended family into the mix.

You were casually shagging. This isn't a love affair, you don't really know each other, he doesn't know your kids and haven't even spent a lot of time together. If he isn't working in the UK, you won't even get maintenance. Can you manage a third child as a single parent? You are wanting more, that isn't going to happen. He's acting like a big kid. Until you had decided, you shouldn't have told him. You shouldn't be meeting his family.

I don't know where to start;
1, You are 'recently' divorced. Have you noticed the effect this has had on your existing children? Do they see their father?

1. You are 'recently' divorced and are seeing another man. Fair enough. One of your children those little people whose real father is recently, no longer in their lives full time, has met your new beau 'in passing'. Don't you think you should give them time to process this life upheaval before you introduce your new, occassional, man into their lives?
2. Are you planning to tell your exh before you tell the kids?
3. You 'think' you want his baby but have to work out why? This is a child's life ffs. It also impacts upon your other children. You sound like you are contemplating a new sofa
4. The first time you meet his parents (for a roast, very specific); "hello, mum, dad, brothers, etc, this is @Maybeitismilkagain , my part-time gf; she's divorced, 2 kids and pregnant. That'll guarentee a warm family welcome
5. You 'found' yourself pregnant??????

He sounds massively immature. Does he have the first idea of what it takes to be a father?

OP, you're only just clear of your divorce, your relationship is very new, you are probably on the rebound.

This man works in the ME, so won't be around to help. And you have two very young children, one of whom has special needs. They are both still learning to cope with their parents' divorce. Don't you think they have enough to deal with already.

Honestly, I think you need to calm down, and think seriously about your priorities. It is obviously your choice but you're setting yourself up for a fairly tough 20 years.

Recently divorced … this is such a lot for your kids. Change of family home from their Dad, introduction of new man and a new baby….

Can you afford another baby as a single mum?

It all sounds very tricky OP. Even if your relationship sticks he will be working away for months.

If your relationship doesn’t develop, how will you feel then about having his baby?

Is continuing with the pregnancy a way to keep him?

How long have you been together and are you planning on becoming a couple rather than seeing each other casually? Your children will obviously find this easier if you've been together for a while, but it seems you haven't if he hasn't met your daughter yet. Your daughter will especially struggle as she knows you're already focused on her brother who has disabilities. I also wouldn't tell anyone you're pregnant until you've decided to keep the baby and after the 12 week scan.

What sort of comment is that??? Apart from unhelpful, not based on any facts, purely speculative and complete and utter shite???