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Husband orders expensive alcohol when I am paying

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Prontehpronto · 03/08/2024 23:20

It's all one pot I know but Im getting very irritated by my husband ordering expensive alcohol when we go out for a meal as a family. I don't drink so will have water or soft drink. Sometimes his drink is over quarter of the bill, think its irresponsible as we are trying to watch our spending and bit rich he seems to do it more when I'm paying... I suppose he does pay the mortgage...

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Barryplopper · 03/08/2024 23:51

Life is short, unless you go out 7 days a week I wouldn't be getting upset over oh having a drink he enjoys whilst out for a meal

coodawoodashooda · 03/08/2024 23:46

As above. Depends

Aquamarine1029 · 03/08/2024 23:43

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MrsBungle · 03/08/2024 23:42

Just because you don’t drink doesn’t mean he can’t enjoy his tipple when socialising!!

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 03/08/2024 23:42

Do you mean he orders alcohol (which is more expensive than a soft drink even if it’s the cheapest on the menu) or that he orders expensive alcohol eg the most expensive glass of wine he can find?

LikeAFineMerlot · 03/08/2024 23:40

It's either 1 pot, or you are paying?

comedycentral · 03/08/2024 23:39

I imagine the mortgage is more than whatever wine he orders. It's either one pot or it's not.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 03/08/2024 23:25

If it’s one pot then how are ‘you’ specifically paying?

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/08/2024 23:25

This makes no sense.

Prapsfound · 03/08/2024 23:24

You’re contradicting yourself. It’s one pot but ‘when you are paying?’ Which is it?

Merryoldgoat · 03/08/2024 23:23

Is it one pot or not?

Summerbay23 · 03/08/2024 23:23

Seems odd if you are married and it’s family money, do you never spend more money on a hair cut, clothes, night out, gym membership, travel, your food choice? I don’t understand this separation of finances in all honesty.