Friends have no interest in my child

and some haven't met the baby

Babies are boring
Other people's babies are really boring
I say this as someone who has 4 children

When mine were babies I was so grateful for those friends who didn't talk about babies and kept me in touch with other aspects of my life.

You have unreasonable expectations of your friends. You'll make Mum friends but don't spend time with them to the exclusion of your other friends who go back to your pre- child days.
Mum friends come about because you're all in similar circumstances but over time these will change & many of those friendships will fall away.

Why not text them and suggest meeting? But don't talk too much about your baby. Other peoples kids are really boring.

the first month. it's now month seven.

it takes 30 seconds to fire off a whatsapp message.

just seems lazy to me. friendships need some nurturing.

Having a baby really shows who your true friends are.

But they did. They texted her in the first months after giving birth and they met the baby. There is literally nothing in the OPs post suggesting they never take interest. Just not enough interest as far as the OP is concerned.

I am sort of split on this, yes if you and most people around you don't have kids it could be hard to engage with the kid etc but they should be engaging with you, if something else major was going on with the friends, causing them to be up all night, affecting their physical wellbeing (at least at first) maybe causing a little social isolation, you'd expect them to check in and see how you are I would think? So they anbu for not being interested in your child but should have remained interested in you and it's sort of a package

I've noticed that a lot of people on MN are at pains to state how boring they find other people's kids.

Have you done any pre baby activities that the rest of the group still do such as drinking? If not then I think its time to accept that your interests and priorities have changed and that's ok x

See, this is a batshit attitude. She’s not asking them to befriend her child, just show a passing interest in her baby. It’s really not much to ask.

OP, find better friends.

I can't get excited about other people's children including family members .

By that token so are other peoples relationships, jobs and homes- but that’s friendship

I disagree with a lot of posters here - if your friends love you then they should at least show a passing interest in your baby. They’re rude not to have at least visited you since the baby was born. I’d be as hurt as you are.

Let the friendships go- and if they ask, say they’ve shown little
interest In your life, because it’s true, it’s not the baby, its your life and the baby is a big part of that now. Just like you hopefully take an interest in all they have going on.

They're friends with you because they like YOU, not your baby. Other people's kids are objectively pretty boring

I'd always keep in touch with new mother friends and ask after them and 'oooh' over a baby pic even if I wasn't that interested. I agree that other people don't find peoples' babies that interesting but they could feign some mild interest in the name of friendship.

Whether you’re being unreasonable depends really, these friends who aren’t contacting you and asking about your baby, are you contacting them and interested in what’s going on in their lives? Maybe if you really think about it you’re so caught up in your baby (which is only natural) that they’re thinking the very same thing about you. Try reaching out and asking how they are? If they ignore you then YANBU. I found being a new mum a great time to meet new friends so don’t sweat it if you lose a few of the old ones. There are friends for a season, friends for a reason and friends for life and that’s just the way it is.

I agree with PPs that most people don't have much interest in other people's children. But having said that, I think that since a child is a big part of someone's life, it's nice for friends to show a bit of interest. I'd say the same about any other significant thing in my friends' lives - their jobs, their partners, their pets, anything they care about really.

Don't ditch good friends over this; check in with them and see if there's any chance of them visiting / catching up with you.
I haven't got children and might forget to check in and find out how someone's baby is, but I'd be interested in him/her if I visited in person.

Babies are tedious until you have them, and they also have no idea what you're going through.

Some of them will catch up. Others may be child free - your relationship with them will change and evolve

The replies on here are harsh. I have friends who had babies before me and I showed interest in how they were doing, visited and built relationships with their children. If you care about a friend you care about their children too. Op you are well within your rights to feel upset and disappointed, they sound like shitty friends. I know not everyone are baby mad but you'd expect at least a text here and there x

This

Why do you need to drop the friends? Just stop talking about babies around them. Other peoples’ babies are boring boring boring.

Exactly what everyone else has said…
Your baby is everything to you (rightly) but nowhere near important to them
Keep In touch with them and if you go out don’t spend hours talking about your baby. You have other things to talk about.
At the same time, make other mum friends and go to baby classes. You can talk about feeding, nappies, development etc with them to your hearts content
As we get older it’s natural to have different friend groups with different interests