Friends have no interest in my child

Honestly OP I find the Mumsnet take of ‘no one else should ever care about your kids, they’re not that interesting’ really weird. I have one school friend who had her first child 8 years ago before any of us as we adore that kid and the two more that followed. Saw her (with and without the kids) regularly, up to date on the kids key life details, celebrated birthdays etc. I’m now the first of my uni friends to have a baby in the group and my daughter is the same age as yours. My friends have seen her/us probably 3-4 times. They bring her little gifts, ask after her etc. they clearly genuinely care. Your l friends sound like they’re being a bit crap. It may not be intentional but it’s ok to feel a bit hurt, early motherhood is a vulnerable time.

Bit of drip-feeding going on here.

Because that's not what the OP said in her first post.

Tbh I find this extremely odd.

you're currently fannying about on MN, love. You've got time.

Messaging friends once a week to ask about their kids? Who’s got time for that?

I have lots of general friends from various hobbies and interests but the only ones whose children I know by name (and likewise their husbands), are those I met at baby classes or at the school gates.

I have zero interest in my friends children and they don't go posting on the internet about it. This is definitely a you problem.

I agree with some of the previous posters. Your friends were probably concerned about you when you were pregnant, but I'm afraid I can't think of anything less interesting than someone else's baby, particularly if I didn't have children myself.

To be fair, if the baby is irrelevant it's a bit misleading to
A - call your thread title "friends have no interest IN MY CHILD"
B - spend the entire opening post explaining that said friends haven't contacted you since you've had a baby, how long it's been since you've had the baby, that none of your friends have a had a baby, etc....

It's ridiculous to shout at people for responding to the exact question she asked and not the amended one she's since dripfed when the initial responses didn't go her way

I'm clearly in the minority OP, but my main group of friends remained as such when we started having babies, or not.

30 or so years later we are still friends (though most have moved away).

There are many years between the first one having their first to the last friend having theirs. And a few from the group haven't had children at all.

It might be that many of the group were living away from home (different country) so we leaned on each other where others might lean on their family.

It is really shit of them, I think I'd have one last attempt to arrange a night out or something as a group and if it doesn't work leave them to it

Well you've changed your story a bit haven't you? (As well as shown your true colours)
Your thread title made it clear that you were annoyed they weren't contacting you specifically to ask about YOUR CHILD. Then when the majority of people said you were unreasonable you've changed it to the fact they aren't getting in touch with you at all and youre sick of always making the initial contact, which is a completely different question and nothing to do with whether you've had a child or not

Perhaps given your wording (others are STILL single, as if they're somehow lagging behind you?) you come across as quite judgy talking about your baby and relationship all the time and they feel they've outgrown the friendship a bit?

Yes! Because they’re not very good friends if they haven’t!

OMG could people please read the OPs posts? They won't even meet her without the baby. She has been dropped!

You want to drop friends because they show no interest in your baby. Really?

These responses are so strange. I genuinely feel like people go on Mumsnet just to attempt to trigger people and get some kind of weird satisfaction to escape their own pathetic lives!
I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I'd be taken aback if my pretty much lifelong friends didn't bother to check on me after something as huge as having a baby. Isn't that like peak time to be checking in on someone? They're your friends so whether they're childless or not (which you mentioned they aren't) you'd expect them to be there for you regardless of what phase of life either of you are in. As you said, it's less about your child and more about them not checking in on YOU. I'd be very sceptical about how genuine they are, especially as you said you were attentive in checking in on them and their children. You do seem lovely, OP, so no doubt you'll find some great friends in the near future 😊

Not sure why nearly everyone has said yabu! You are entitled to feel sad that your friends haven’t shown an interest.

Like the others said, it's normal. Other people won't be half as interested in your kid as you are.

There’s nothing more boring than other peoples’ children.

The OP has been a bit unclear in her posts but if you read them all, you will see she has asked them several times

They were just absorbed in their own very busy lives and didn't really think outside of their own lives.
I just concentrated on my family and what was important to me.

So you behaved in exactly the same way as your friends then?

I have a baby the same age, nearly 7 months. And some of my friends have met her some haven’t. I don’t care. Not everyone has to like and want to meet your baby. It’s not a big deal.

Have you asked them if they'd like to meet up? Or are you waiting to be asked?

Have you tried putting a msg in the group chat arranging a girls night out? Are they refusing to meet or have you not actually asked?

I'm in my fifties now and I remember really clearly feeling like this. I questioned my friendships with some really close friends, who showed little or no interest in my baby. I was one of the first to have children in my group, at aged 28.
It's not until they had their own children that they started to show more interest. They were just absorbed in their own very busy lives and didn't really think outside of their own lives.
I just concentrated on my family and what was important to me. Don't get too worried about it. They will change if and when they have kids themselves.

I agree with the batshit crazy comment 🤣 seems like MN is full of selfish crappy friends tbh, bit surprising considering it's meant to be a community for mums!