Friends have no interest in my child

Children are like farts. Everyone thinks their own are amazing, but can't abide other people's.

No, I do have children myself but honestly not much interested in other people's children. I was the first of my friends to have babies and none of them were really interested in mine. I don't blame them!

I was the first to have a baby within my friendship group, before mobile phones and the internet.
sadly we had little in common,they were having holidays abroad while I was working and managing a baby, husband and home.I was so very sad about it but eventually found new friends who shared my sort of lifestyle at the time.Some of those are still friends to this day.
It is disappointing and I feel your sadness.

From experience once you have kids life becomes so hectic that you go into work / children survival world and old friendships take a back seat a bit

It's natural to make new baby friends now. Lives go in different directions

Move on. Season's change, this is one of them.

I didn't give 2 hoots about my friends kids until I had my own - now I take an interest as it's a common ground. In my early thirties I was still living for the weekends to lie in bed with a hangover. Once they have kids though you'll prob still not feel like they care as they will be talking about babies and yours will be at school

I don't think you understand what bitter means...
nasty, unsympathetic, mean...fair enough, your opinion
but someone can only be bitter (i.e jealous, resentful) if the situation is relevant to or has some impact on them personally, which it isn't/doesn't to me.
I just think a poster who calls others batshit crazy for disagreeing with her is, tbh, a bit of a dick

In my experience everyone’s excited about baby’s pending arrival but when baby arrives, friends with no children do tend to waver off. Don’t take it personally. You’ve had a baby, not them. And at 7 months post labour you may be experiencing hormones and sleep deprivation which are not a good mix. Although sucky that they haven’t checked in on you, I wouldn’t ditch the friendships just yet.

Sorry but kindly YABU but I understand why.
It’s life changing for you and you want your friends. Having been on both sides of this fence there’s a few points I can share;

1. there’s lots of reasons people don’t engage with friends kids - for example someone might desperately want to settle/have kids and whilst I am sure someone like this might be genuinely pleased for you, it might be triggering for them to engage a lot. Try and have empathy for where your friends are in their life journey.
2. it’s very hard to get excited about babies, sorry. I suspect some of your friends may engage better when they can see a little personality coming through etc
3. in my case, some of the above was true but actually despite some of my friends being very vocal about their expectations around their first kids, a few years down the line when they had several and I had one, they have shown very little interest and support (possibly because they are busy!) but it has pissed me off, especially as the contrast is pretty stark! I was one of those friends who tried hard, despite struggling to engage with the whole situation at times.
4. Therefore if the you go down this route be sure to reciprocate when they have their first and you have two or three! or your friends will (rightly) be peeved!

I know it can be hurtful but I wouldn't let it annoy you or throw away the friendship because of it. People are busy, everyone is run ragged childless or otherwise. I have 3 kids, I don't spend loads of time even with my friends who have kids. Im run ragged, its hard to fit everything in and extra plans to meet up on certain days n times is just exhasting also if im honest. Anytime i do see my friends at kid events none of us can even hold a conversation so i dont really feel like ive seen them even if we do meet up for a kid related event. I have just accepted that people aren't really interested in my kids and that's OK. They chose me as a friend, not my kid you know. I know it might be hard going at the minute but it's also nice to have those friends that remind you of you before children as its very easy to lose yourself when you become a mother. Having kids isn't like tv where your friends call over to play with your kids or you go for walks n stuff together. I think people are just so busy in their day to day lives and its not really personal, they do care and I guarantee if you got them in the same room as your kid they would both probably have a good time meeting them but it's just hard to fit everything in. Reach out and spend some time with them without your kid, it will do you good. Your kid doesn't need your friends but having time away and coming back happier makes you a better parent

My best friend in the world - childless - went AWOL for a decade after I had kids ….. now she’s had a child we are back on track. Kids change things.

I think you don’t really understand what it is to be a parent until you are one.
knowing what I know now, as a mum, I wish I’d checked in on my first friend who had a baby more. It wasn’t that I didn’t care, we were just leading completely different lives. We drifted for a while, save for the big occasions. When her youngest was 2 I had my eldest. We are very much back in each other’s lives every week, much like we were in our twenties. We’ve just traded the pub for the duck pond!

So then it's not about the baby. Maybe the friendship group is winding down or going quiet for a while.

A proper friend would enjoy getting to know your baby. I lost loads of friends after having 2 babies. And I’m happier without them anyway

I’ve been in your position but didn’t really begrudge anyone not being interested in my child. Other people’s children are not interesting. Sorry!
Hold tight, when they have their children you will be the experienced one who can offer advice.

Not everyone is interested/fascinated in other people’s children.🤷‍♀️

I read the OP yesterday then headed out, I thought it was going to be the typical case of you being the first to have a baby and things drifting a bit. But reading the updates your friends do sound a bit shit OP.

It's polite to ask after your friends' children - and partners, jobs, parents, holidays etc. You're supposed to take an interest in your friends' lives.

@Polarnight your friends absolutely should be supporting you after losing your mum.

YANBU for expecting your friends to be by your side during the most important experience you've ever had.
Unfortunately, society nowadays is not made for children and people live their everyday life without noticing or even encountering them, so one can't blame them for not realising how wonderful they are. The fact that they are or aren't yours is irrelevant, because children have intrinsical value!

I found maternity leave very lonely indeed, even my family didn't check up very regularly and my siblings have had kids so they know what it's like. I was glad going back to work for that reason.

I think it's pretty shit indeed, but I'm not sure I have done better before I had my own kids. I think if my friends had reached out saying they needed more support I would have been there, and the same way if I had said something my friends and family would have been there for me.

I don't know how much your current level interaction differ from what it used to be like: did they reduce contact? or just maintain the same level when you think they should be there a bit more?
It's not unreasonable from long-term friends but unless you mention it (maybe to the one you feel closer to), it's likely they just don't realise it.

I also think that friendships fluctuates and it might be time to make new friends. It doesn't mean dropping the others.

I agree, other people’s children are just not that interesting. For me, same goes for grandchildren. We have recently become grandparents and it’s just the best thing ever, but I find my friends’ grandchildren very uninteresting. I’m happy for them and look at their photos but I would rather talk about other things.

so Many bitter people on this thread.

This bit is silly. You can't opt out of social media then expect your friends to beg you for photos.

PFB is a pretty condescending term.
why use it when there is absolutely no need?

No idea if the op does this and no I have not read every thread but one thing that would stop me asking about other people's children is when parents can't think of anything else to say except about their children

Having a child can turn some people obsessive and their whole life stops unless it is to do with their children