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NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 17:18

DD is going into the final year of an Anthropology degree (might get a first but probably a 2:1) from a top RG uni. Has done a Fine Art foundation year. Always worked part time since finishing A-levels (Maths, English Lit, Art), first as a barista/front of house/waitressing, then as an after-school nanny during uni.
She loves working, is highly responsible, great people skills (and people judgement) and quite numerate/commercially savvy. She is a great kid and would be an asset to any team. But… she hasn’t had a single internship so no “relevant” work experience (didn’t get her act together after first year and a long recovery post an operation for a sporting injury after second year) nor does she really know what she wants to do after graduation. She is definitely not pursuing the classic investment banking, Bain/BCG/McKinsey, accountancy, law routes.
I am now feeling highly anxious and helpless as I don’t know how to support/guide her. I did the classic Tier 1 strategy consulting, MBA, corporate M&A so I am spending hours each week helping my friends’ kids who want to pursue this path (mock case studies, mock interviews, CV reviews) but am at a complete loss re how to help my own. I feel that I am spiralling. This is not helped by my being involved in graduate recruitment at my work – CVs I see are all full of Economics/Management/Sciences degrees, multiple internships/work experiences/summer schools – they are highly structured and tick all the boxes (to an extent where I can’t differentiate between them). My DD wouldn’t stand a chance on paper.
Sage mumsnetters, please reassure me that she can get a job without internships and with a “soft” degree? Does she stand a chance with graduate schemes? Should she even bother applying? What potential career routes she could explore?

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Cheepcheepcheep · 03/08/2024 18:14

I’m a business development manager in the city. Lots of interesting strategy, purchasing behaviour, messaging stuff. Currently recruiting for a business development assistant role with a salary of £33-42k, no experience necessary, 5 years in you can be a manager on £70-80k. I’d snap her hand off at the £40k level as a starting salary, would love to have a keen Anthropology grad from a RG (if of course it was something she was interested in!)

I graduated with a 2:1 from a RG and now nearing 6 figures at 35. There are plenty of routes out there - and I say that as someone who worried a lot about not being on a grad scheme 14 years ago.

Fanlover1122 · 03/08/2024 18:14

NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 17:52

To find a job that doesn’t bore her out of her skull (at least not 100% of the time), where she can have impact, good (or at least non-toxic) culture, and where she can make a decent living and get a mortgage.., sounds pretty vague and high level to me.

Well there you go - she doesn’t want a toxic workplace, so that rules out law and finance 🤭🤭

What about looking at graduate schemes, they are not all law/ banking.

Mamma173738 · 03/08/2024 18:11

Can she do a masters with some kind of internship or work experience as part of it?

jamimmi · 03/08/2024 18:10

Try not to panic DS was looking last year and he has a grad job with a 2:2 in a construction related disapline from an ex poly! He didn't get work experience/ year in industry but has worked as bar / event staff for the same employer since he was 16. That's what impressed his interviewer more than the degree. They were looking for someone who stick with a company and knows how to talk to people so bar work and explaining to the groom why he won't give him another drink went down well. Pay is ok but not stellar for the 1st 12 months while he does initial rotation through diff areas on the grad scheme but he then should progress more ,job planed it's not a 12 month contract and comes with car.and health plus pension. As a nhs employee I'm still getting over the all expenses paid trip to London for induction and the Costa voucher for a coffee! Just ger her to cast her net wide and apply for anything even vaguely interesting

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 03/08/2024 18:09

'I feel that I am spiralling'

YOU are spiralling ?!!!
step back / back off

she is not you

your daughter is her own person.

good grief, are you considering filling in application forms for her, and attending her interviews on her behalf ?!!!

Scottishskifun · 03/08/2024 18:08

OP whilst I understand the fear your DD has to find her own path. She also has to have a few rubbish jobs to really decide what she wants to do.

I didn't get into any hint of a career until 5 years after I graduated. The banking disaster played a part in that but actually doing stop gap jobs made me realise what I did want to do. By 31 I reached the job I wanted.
7 years later still doing a job I love in STEM (environmental), 2 children and a house.

Josh Widdecombe recently gave a speech to Exeter uni students it's on Instagram I suggest watching it.

She might want to check out civil service jobs large range there but need to invest time in learning how to do the applications

NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 18:07

Crazycatlady79 · 03/08/2024 18:01

Is she feeling anxious/helpless/spiralling?

If not, I'd leave her to it to find her own way as an adult.

No, and I guess she is too relaxed which makes me even more anxious. If she hadn’t been so relaxed she’d have secured an internship (or at least tried).

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Newgirls · 03/08/2024 18:07

Plenty of other places to live than London - and most people don’t earn enough to live an affluent life there. The anthropology grads I know word for an education company and a local solicitor company. Many other jobs out there can give her a nice life

Numbersaremything · 03/08/2024 18:05

CS Fast Track turned down my Oxford educated DC as the computer said they didn't display a willingness to learn! Super competitive. There are many alternative routes to greatness (or simply having a nice life)

FrenchMustard · 03/08/2024 18:05

I did a languages degree at a RG uni and didn’t do any internships or graduate schemes, just took one interviewer to see potential and I had my first job 2 months post uni as an account manager for a large manufacturing company.

She will be absolutely fine, might not get her dream job straight out of uni but it really doesn’t matter.

Catopia · 03/08/2024 18:04

NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 17:57

My ex is an academic - it’s more hunger games than investment banking. The whole “publish or perish”, non-existent full time tenure posts, and in humanities it’s even more brutal than STEM. But in an ideal world, yes, she’d do a PhD and study monkeys in Borneo.

If that's the sort of thing she wants to do, what about applying for VSO or another similar scheme when she finishes, to actually go to the parts of the world she is interested in and work for a bit?

If she is clear she doesn't want to go down the corporate route, corporate internships won't add much. Relevant other work and volunteering might. But something like a local government entry level job or apprenticeship where she can be involved in aspects of social policy etc might be more up her street. You don't have to go to civil service just because you're clever! RG and Oxbridge are very linear-focussed on a certain type of career, which is overwhelmingly with a corporate focus, and if it's not corporate, it's the Bar or the Civil Service or it's management consultancy or academia. These careers in reality are the minority of jobs, even for very clever people!

Laundryliar · 03/08/2024 18:04

NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 17:18

DD is going into the final year of an Anthropology degree (might get a first but probably a 2:1) from a top RG uni. Has done a Fine Art foundation year. Always worked part time since finishing A-levels (Maths, English Lit, Art), first as a barista/front of house/waitressing, then as an after-school nanny during uni.
She loves working, is highly responsible, great people skills (and people judgement) and quite numerate/commercially savvy. She is a great kid and would be an asset to any team. But… she hasn’t had a single internship so no “relevant” work experience (didn’t get her act together after first year and a long recovery post an operation for a sporting injury after second year) nor does she really know what she wants to do after graduation. She is definitely not pursuing the classic investment banking, Bain/BCG/McKinsey, accountancy, law routes.
I am now feeling highly anxious and helpless as I don’t know how to support/guide her. I did the classic Tier 1 strategy consulting, MBA, corporate M&A so I am spending hours each week helping my friends’ kids who want to pursue this path (mock case studies, mock interviews, CV reviews) but am at a complete loss re how to help my own. I feel that I am spiralling. This is not helped by my being involved in graduate recruitment at my work – CVs I see are all full of Economics/Management/Sciences degrees, multiple internships/work experiences/summer schools – they are highly structured and tick all the boxes (to an extent where I can’t differentiate between them). My DD wouldn’t stand a chance on paper.
Sage mumsnetters, please reassure me that she can get a job without internships and with a “soft” degree? Does she stand a chance with graduate schemes? Should she even bother applying? What potential career routes she could explore?

Has she thought about things like civil service, or local government graduate schemes? Also... In my experience 'grad schemes' can be no better than just looking for an entry level graduate role in a large organisation or something like local govt, higher education sector, charities and third sector, big corporates that have large marketing/communications/HR/sales/recruitment departments.

Zanatdy · 03/08/2024 18:02

TrySome · 03/08/2024 17:58

Isn’t the CS grad scheme super-competitive? How easy is it to get in?

Yes it is. You don’t need to join the grad scheme though, come in at a lower grade and work your way up. My ex was rejected from a fast track scheme but made it faster to the grade they were working to anyway.

Qwertys · 03/08/2024 18:02

TrySome · 03/08/2024 17:58

Isn’t the CS grad scheme super-competitive? How easy is it to get in?

Grad scheme is competitive but a lot is about knowing how to do the application and perform at the assessments.

She could also just apply for a job in the Civil Service. She will progress less quickly but it’s much easier to get in that way - again understanding the format for the application and interviews is key though.

Farting · 03/08/2024 18:01

alwaysmovingforwards · 03/08/2024 17:49

Sorry to ask the obvious question… but who on Earth invests their time in a particular degree without considering how it springboards into their career?!?
Seems either unplanned madness or just an expensive and indulgent 3 or 4 years at uni with no real point.

Yup. As an adult you reap the benefits of your personal decisions.

Or not.

Crazycatlady79 · 03/08/2024 18:01

Is she feeling anxious/helpless/spiralling?

If not, I'd leave her to it to find her own way as an adult.

NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 18:01

alwaysmovingforwards · 03/08/2024 17:49

Sorry to ask the obvious question… but who on Earth invests their time in a particular degree without considering how it springboards into their career?!?
Seems either unplanned madness or just an expensive and indulgent 3 or 4 years at uni with no real point.

An 18 year old?

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Els1e · 03/08/2024 18:00

I know someone who has a degree in anthropolgy and went into careers guidance. She works at one of the universites in Oxford and is on good money. She did a post grad MA in Careers Development.

alwayslearning789 · 03/08/2024 18:00

Winterjoy · 03/08/2024 17:47

Honestly even people with experience etc are struggling to get into or move employment right now (although the market does seem to be picking up slightly).

She would probably be best to get any job and go from there e.g. if she wants to work towards marketing, apply for any job in a business with a marketing team, then network within the organisation and wait for marketing vacancies/opportunities come up as an internal applicant.

This is good advice @NeedXanaxPlease

The first step is always the most difficult and market forces are quite challenging for everyone right now as Winterjoy has pointed out.

Encourage her to keep going with looking the job boards at both 'work your way up roles' as well as various Grad Schemes coming up to keep her options open.

I understand how you feel, as in the same position as you doing recruitment, so understand what you are seeing and realise the competition is really stiff.

With the positive work ethic she has already shown, it will be a matter of just getting her foot in the door

Keep open minded , she's still a recent graduate and with a 2:1 she will find a way with persistence. Best of Wishes

Nannyogg134 · 03/08/2024 18:00

I'm a secondary and sixth form teacher, and I see lots of students head off to do 'soft' degrees each year. We always follow up and see where they end up; this includes graduate roles in local authorities or other public sector services, top up courses (like a PGCE) that puts them in-line for specific roles, and higher level apprenticeships are quite popular at the mo as well.

Leanmeansmitingmachine · 03/08/2024 17:58

I’d advise a masters in literally anything other than anthropology.

TrySome · 03/08/2024 17:58

Qwertys · 03/08/2024 17:56

A lot of her classmates are thinking masters/PhD/conservation/charities

So you do know some of the routes available to her! Does she want to do any of those things?

A research or policy job in the Civil Service or going into the grad scheme also a good shout.

Isn’t the CS grad scheme super-competitive? How easy is it to get in?

summerdazey · 03/08/2024 17:58

NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 17:48

Overinvested - probably, pushy - no. As long as she is happy, I am happy. I just haven’t met anyone poor, unemployed and happy…

Shes not going to be unemployed though is she

NeedXanaxPlease · 03/08/2024 17:57

Fgfgfg · 03/08/2024 17:42

If she loves the subject why not the Masters, PhD, academic/research route?
https://www.prospects.ac.uk/careers-advice/what-can-i-do-with-my-degree/anthropology

My ex is an academic - it’s more hunger games than investment banking. The whole “publish or perish”, non-existent full time tenure posts, and in humanities it’s even more brutal than STEM. But in an ideal world, yes, she’d do a PhD and study monkeys in Borneo.

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