do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

What?? I’m paranoid?? I don’t understand your response?

I know where my husband is during work hours and then when if not at home he tells me where he is going. Why on earth would I need to know more? I completely trust him and if he was going to do anything then I’m sure he would find a way

Yep, and my mum and sister have us both and our best friend has us both (obviously we have all of them too).

It’s really fucking handy for working out how long someone will be. We don’t use it to check up on each other, DH has a really unpredictable job, so I used to worry when I’d wake up and him not be home when he said he would be (calm down MN he wasn’t cheating, we work together - I know he was working!!) especially as that particular overnight shift is dangerous. Now I can see he’s still at work and go back to sleep. He puts the kettle on and makes the babies milk when I’m 20 mins from home. He does look to check where I am when I’m doing long drives etc.

None of us have any issue with it - other than my dad doesn’t have an iPhone so he’s not on it and he’s a bloody nightmare 😂

My DH and I do - as do our two DCs. All four of us can see each other's locations and none of us has had a problem with it. I find it handy and, in the case of the DCs, reassuring.

Or is it that you just don’t want to know where he is because he might be up to no good. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be so worried about sharing your location.

Honestly! Have never heard of such paranoid nonsense.

@theleafandnotthetree no of course not, I've gone swimming & running all by myself too the horror! I was just saying if that other poster gets some reassurance from having her OHs location while he's out hiking then what's the harm?

I was just about to say this! & didn't lots of people say their phone could be out by a few miles (or even countries! 😆)

I don’t worry about it. I been married 25 years thanks. I have no need to track him and vice versa. If someone is going to do something they will anyway.
irs just so weird and people who do this, well I just think it’s massively unhealthy and giving such an unhealthy message to your kids

Thank you common sense at last

Yes, and the kids old enough to have phones.

It's really handy occasionally but never checked for no reason.

I agree @Blanketpolicy , people do what suits them.

Like anything that involves trust, there’ll always be a tiny minority who’ll use technology as a form of control. But those unpleasant people will find many ways to exert control over their partners, not just through location tracking.

If you worry about your partner knowing where you are, you have problems.

I regularly go hiking by myself at weekends and commit the cardinal sin of doing so while being single and having no one monitoring my movements. Maybe I should stay at home just in case 🙄. Even if I was in a relationship with someone who cared to keep track - highly unlikely - I think it would spoil the whole thing for me. If one were going somewhere very remote or dangerous it might be wise to tell someone where you were going and a rough return time but I confess I've never done so. I'm probably a bit more cautious now with dependent children but once they are adults I certainly will do more of what I want and won't be telling anyone..and if the worst comes to the worst, well we all have to go and I'll have lived life on my terms and freely. That to me is everything.

Ridiculous absolutely disgusting makes me so angry. What do you think people did 29 years ago? Either trusted their partner or not? I get the whole vaguely knowing what time someone is going to be home…send a text …leaving now?

Absolute nonsense.Two people have mutually agreed that knowing where each other is is useful. That’s all there is to it.

I think that's completely reasonable in fairness

Maybe I'm reading too much into it but an abnormally large proportion of the proponents and enthusuasts for this on this thread are very free with their laughing and smiling emoji when explaining why they think it's such a good idea. I'm imagining them saying ' oh it's great, I'm able to have dinner on the table just on time' 😃with a brittle, tinkling laugh which I'm just not buying.

No but then it's never come up, we just text each other if we need to know something
In 100 years when my son is old enough to have a phone I'd want to though

To those saying 'if you've nothing to hide, what's the problem?' Should read Dave Eggar's book The Circle. It is not a perfect book but is excellent and thought-provoking on darker side of the 'always on, always monitored, always transparent' school of thought. We are already prisoner enough of our phones without allowing them to enable us to be tracked by ANYONE - yes even the people we love - or indeed to track other people. The thought of tracking an adult child I find especially creepy and inappropriate and I would seriously worry about my child's independence and life skills if they agreed to it, or worse, sought it.

its never mutual.. someone doesn’t trust someone else. I just don’t get it.. why do you need to know where your partner is unless you don’t trust them and if so then it’s not a good relationship

yes we do! we also share 360
with the kids 😀

If location is is shared mutually, who is controlling who?

We’ve enabled the iphone family so we can see where each other are or find each other’s phones - I’ve added my mum on too but to be honest I don’t think any of us have ever checked it, it’s more a safety thing.

My partner and I also share passwords for phones, laptops but never check each others stuff.