do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

It’s not about coping. I’m more than able to cope thanks,ditto my son. My dad was always working abroad and unable even to phone when I was a child. Big deal. Not preferable to what we have now I can assure you.

My son requested the app for security in an emergency. I most certainly do get on with my busy day at work and wasn’t able to track him all day. It was just nice to dive down and see him walking around familiar landmarks I love now and again. We like each other and he missed us sometimes so he FaceTimed. He also did a bit of shopping for me and I got to pick what I wanted from the shelves. Tech can be amazing. 😊

I have Life360 with the kids but DH has chosen not to join. I respect his choice. If either of us is going on a long journey we may offer or request to share location on WhatsApp as it is only for a set time.

Yes and with DS too. We don't use it particularly often but it comes in handy. DS can see how far away we are if we're picking him up and driving. We can estimate the cooking of tea if one is on their way home from work. I go out walking a lot on my own so I like the security aspect.

Jesus, I don't know how my parents coped when my only sibling and I lived in New York nearly 30 years ago and one phone calk a week was the extent of our contact. We got on with our busy lives and they with theirs. If my children were abroad working/living I would assume more contact than that given the means at our disposal now but would absolutely not want to know where they are at any given time or vice versa, how intrusive and inappropriate. You become an adult, you live your own independent adult life which most assuredly does not include anyone else knowing where you are all the time, I cannot understand anyone wanting otherwise..

No. I don't tell him everywhere I go and vice versa

Was so lovely seeing him move round NYC in all my favourite places. He’d FT sometimes too. 😊I feel for our youngsters growing up in this tech era but there are some wonderful things to it too.

My kids do figure things out. Brilliantly. Fat lot I can do when my son is abroad however the fact is we live in a far more global world with youngsters having far more access to strangers at an earlier age via Snapchat etc, Ubers, food deliveries….

My kids requested it and I think it gives them peace of mind if something difficult should ever happen. I’m far too busy to follow their every move or asleep. Travelling son also has air tags in luggage. He had to sort all sorts of problems out when travelling abroad and coped admirably. I was always asleep and he’d be far too busy to update me with an issue anyway.

@Magn01a I can totally get on baord with this, long distance is hard enough & if this makes things easier I think it's a good thing

I loved seeing where my ds was when living and working abroad.

I was referring to the additional quote that your replied to

How many teens do you know who would dump their phones?… More likely turn location off and come up with a bullshit excuse

I would say that the current riots are an awful reflection on society.

Tracking loved ones I would say is sensible.

See here's where I see it being really problematic. Teenagers need to figure these things out for themselves, rather than not doing something because mummy or daddy are tracking them. They need to develop their own instincts, their own ability to get out of bother or to learn from it when they do. And far from delivering peace of mind to the parent, it's more likely to cause anxiety I would have thought - why isn't he there, she seems to have disappeared, why hasn't he moved from this spot in 3 hours, etc. Let them live and figure our their own bloody lives for God's sake, I would never ever even suggest this to my children mainly because this would have filled me with horror at their age..

We have never tracked each other or our son! I think it's intrusive. Maybe if son had been untrustworthy, but he was never in trouble and pretty much always let me know where he was. I think back to my childhood and would have hated being tracked!

As for the other half he works away abroad a lot and the kids love to see where in the world he is. He spend a few months on a tiny island somewhere (couldn't even tell you where 🤣) and they could see where he was and the countries around him. They'd even then pop it into a google earth to see more of the surrounding.

@letstrythatagain I think that's quite nice actually

Yes, I don't think using it or not says anything about a marriage. But perhaps I might be wary if DD had a new boyfriend who insisted on it from day one. That might be odd, especially as she doesn't do any extreme sports or travel by herself, like I do.

No but me and my husband are pretty rubbish with phones so it's not something that ever crossed our minds to do. We just text each other if we're leaving a place.

To be honest the thought of tracking family members, knowing their locations st all times makes me feel uncomfortable but I can see why those have it.

Exactly this. It’s an indication of a sad state of mind when people instantly think of this.

We have zero need to check up on each other.

Surely people lifestyles make a difference too.
Can people not see this!?

I think that people who find it weird or controlling are actually the ones who have the problem or something to hide.
It’s never even crossed my mind that DH is checking up on me or to check up on him so I’m wondering why that’s the first thing that comes into their mind

Sooo now I’m not happy.😂😂😊😊

I don’t need to check my husband, I’ve been married 34 years, he works from home with a very needy dog and I have no access to my phone during the working day. He rarely has his near him when working so I can’t text.

I hate driving, he checks I’m ok on long journeys, we keep an eye on our kids out at night, can seen how far away we are when separated by a long journey and how soon we’ll be home, I can see who is nearest to pick stuff up when shopping is needed……

We dip in and out.

To quote you” you do you” and don’t try to trash my marriage because we do things differently.

I do get what you mean, I think we have the ability to access so much information now it can make people worry more not less.

When there was no way of contacting/tracking people/kids we all just got on with it because nobody knew different I think we were less concerned in general.

I think the focus on safety can veer into paranoia very easily.