do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

@llamalines if you think a family is perfect because they don't rudely ignore messages, you've got very low standards. Perhaps taking some of SILs advice would be a good idea?

Ok, no problems. Mistook you for a deeper thinker.

What a great example of a certain kind of person who thinks they / their family are so much more polite than other people, while being incredibly rude! What a staggering lack of self awareness.

It's quite funny really.

I used to get annoyed with SIL doing this, till I realised how absurd it is to be so incredibly rude while talking about manners and it's funny to me now.

They do answer texts but answering immediately for anybody isn’t always possible.

You are unbelievable. You attack and scrutinise our choices whilst accusing me of criticising your parenting when I reply in defence and then accuse my kids of being rude.

Jog on.

@Magn01a I see, you've got the sort of children that don't bother answering texts, mine had better manners.

So yes I suppose it would be useful for you.

What are you on about? I’m being attacked for having it and asked why. I have replied why it works for us.

My kids asked for it and set it up. It’s a working tool for all of us. Gone are the days when I text round, get unanswered, pull over to text, wait for reply, go back and forth etc. I just look and see who is nearest or where people are. Send out “ you are nearest, can you get “etc. My dd knows if she gets into strife if out at night we’ll know where she was, they know there is no point asking for a lift or pick up if I’ve left work….

None of us are in the game of needing to hide stuff and it’s all voluntary. We all find it useful. If that offends that’s your issue not mine.

@Magn01a don't act like others are bad parents with the faux if you don't want to know!

I'm sure your daughter will very soon turn that tracker off, who wants their mum to know their round their boyfriend shagging?

You're going to have to cut those strings soon.

@blueshoes I'm struggling to come either reakxseasons not to have it

It's as simple as this...... I don't want it

That's how simple it really is.

struggling to come up with reasons! What a very funny thing to say.

My adult kids are late teens. Don’t really care if you don’t want to know where your teen daughter is if she needs you late at night or if your son doesn’t want you to know his movements abroad should he get into strife or if as a group you want to know who is nearest to pick up shopping or do lifts, how far on journeys back, made trains, got meals etc. We’re a group rubbing along and looking out for each other and it suits us st the moment. It’s incredibly useful and less hassle than texting.

Your not getting it doesn’t really negate its usefulness for others. 🤷‍♀️

No we don't have an app, but usually we are at work or if out send a picture here and there. Sometime we share a location, but not because either have asked, it's usually just to show we've arrived safely at the location.

We would both have no problem with an app however, neither have anything to hide

You don't get it. That bit is true.

Is it so hard to imagine that other people organise their lives differently using simple tools available which they use in a way which is not obsessive tracking that you seem to be fixated on?

No it wasn't me.

You are focusing on minutiae because you are straining to come up with real reasons against location tracking.

Absolutely not (and I don’t think it’s ever every occurred to either of us).

Why would you even do this? Do you can track / spy on your partner?

Well honestly, I do think that anyone who uses this with adult children are over-invested, over-protective and it is not a dynamic I would ever want or encourage. I literally don't get it, why would you want or need to know where another adult that you're not responsible for is at any given time, just why?

@blueshoes was it you who admitted that you do it so your husband won't huff and be miffed if you've not dove your "chores"?

That's not a good reason to have it!

@oObyeOo

"How many teens do you know who would dump their phones?… More likely turn location off and come up with a bullshit excuse"

We have Life 360 on a voluntary basis but on the understanding of "if I can't see where you are then you can't see where I am "

DD initially refused to share location which I was perfectly fine with. But after having missed the school bus a couple of times and having no idea where I was to collect her or what time I would be arriving and no ability to call me as I was driving and getting massively panicked, she backtracked on her decision, which was equally fine.

So essentially a luddite.

You and other posters have never used the technology so why should anyone else. Detractors of location tracking would rather think up all kinds of sinister reasons and insist that location trackers deluding themselves as to their marriage and trust than accept that they are simply behind the times and people are increasingly finding location tracking a practical tool for everyday life.

Hence they spend an inordinate about of time and energy casting doubt on its practical benefits and insisting the olden ways are good enough and dissing our marriages and parenting. It is almost laughable.

I am sure they would be able to save mankind singlehandedly by not going with the tide and adopting this technology.

King Canute comes to mind.

Thanks for explaining. I had read that but it is not relevant to location tracking. You are taking a side swipe at the poster just for the sake of it because presumably you have no better argument to make on location tracking.

That’s ridiculous. We’re simply replying to the quite unpleasant accusations that because we use modern day tech which works and gives advantages to us as a family we’re in crap marriages and are over protective/ over invested parents.

The implication underlying yours and some others posters is that if this is some kind of measure of how much you like, love, care for your child's wellbeing. It really isn't. It's just a tool, not one I or anyone I am close to would ever want to use but not because I don't care enough or am not interested in broad terms. Though honestly, the minutae their everyday life I wouldn't be interested in.

@oObyeOo "How many teens do you know who would dump their phones?… More likely turn location off and come up with a bullshit excuse"

You make my case for me!

No, I wouldn't agree to this as I was in an abusive relationship previously and the idea that my partner felt the need to track my whereabouts would trigger anxiety in me. Likewise I don't feel the need to follow his.

@theleafandnotthetree I don't think it's about not coping or tracking them every moment while they're away but more a case of a connection, say before bed or whatever, it hadn't occured to me before @Magn01a mentioned it about her kids & their dad

My son is 7 so I've a way to go but I like to think that when, inevitably, he decides to travel, I could see his dot on the map if I'm having a wobble, like The Marauders Maap in Harry Potter

I did with my controlling and abusive ex.
I don't with DP. it's never really come up, if we need to know where the other is we ring and ask. I can't really think of a reason we would need it tbh. We know where eachother is or if we don't it's becuase we don't really need to.

I used to use it to make sure dinner was ready for the second my ex got thorugh the door, or his bath was run etc. He used it to know my every move. Turned out he also used to watch my dashcam footage aswell. And still tracked my car after we split.

My DP doesn't expect dinner ready as soon as he gets in, becuase our household doesn't revolve around him.

No. I do with my daughter though, not my son (though it would have come in handy when he called me at 2.30am lost after a night out)! I did manage to track his phone down using 'find my phone' when he lost it out shopping. It was handed in to M&S which he didn't even go into!