Page 19 | do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

buggeroo · 2024-08-03T15:02:32+00:00

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

blueshoes · 03/08/2024 17:17

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 17:14

I think it actually makes kids less safe. They don't learn how to manage their lives and what to do if things go a little wrong.

That is a massive extrapolation.

How does knowing my dcs location make them less able to manage their lives?

It is not as if they stop needing to get around by themselves rather than clicking their fingers and their ride turns up. Ds 17 does still have to tell us where he is going, with whom and when he is back.

Berlinlover · 03/08/2024 17:17

Idontgiveashitanymore · 03/08/2024 17:10

Yes we do!
my hubby works from home and likes to know where I am and that I’m safe. I work in the community and it can be quite demanding at times . I always tell him roughly what time I’m due home and he can see where I am.

One of the more bizarre posts on this thread.

Bodeganights · 03/08/2024 17:16

No dont have it or use it, see no need.
Dinner is made whenever, it rarely takes more than 30 minutes, so whoever is last in only has to wait that long for food or make something quicker.
I trust DP that he is where he says he is. And if he diverges theres probably a reason for that. And I wouldn't know he diverged until he got home anyway.

But each to their own, if it works for you,great.

BeaRF75 · 03/08/2024 17:15

Absolutely not. There is no need, between competent and independent adults. Each to their own, but I find it creepy and potentially controlling.

namechangetheworld · 03/08/2024 17:15

Idontgiveashitanymore · 03/08/2024 17:10

Yes we do!
my hubby works from home and likes to know where I am and that I’m safe. I work in the community and it can be quite demanding at times . I always tell him roughly what time I’m due home and he can see where I am.

Genuine question, but how does your husband tracking your whereabouts on an app confirm that you're safe? Unless you're showing as being, I don't know, at the bottom of a lake, how on earth would he have any kind of clue you're in danger?

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 17:14

I think it actually makes kids less safe. They don't learn how to manage their lives and what to do if things go a little wrong.

Radionowhere · 03/08/2024 17:11

Yes, on life360. It very handy. Kids too. They're teens and early 20s.

Idontgiveashitanymore · 03/08/2024 17:10

Yes we do!
my hubby works from home and likes to know where I am and that I’m safe. I work in the community and it can be quite demanding at times . I always tell him roughly what time I’m due home and he can see where I am.

kalisimera · 03/08/2024 17:10

We have it- it was useful when DS left his phone on a bus! He rang from a mates phone, got me to track the bus, which reached the bus depot, then when it returned into town he hopped on and grabbed it from the back seat where he'd left it. Can't believe it wasn't pinched!

blueshoes · 03/08/2024 17:06

Yes, dh and teen/young adult dcs. We all know where each other are or can find out. **

namechangetheworld · 03/08/2024 17:05

God no. Not once have I heard a legitimate, non creepy reason for adults using these tracking apps on each other. All of the 'getting the tea on haha' excuses are a bit weak.

Exactly how much effort does it take to type out 'home in 15' into Whatsapp and hit send?

Choochoo21 · 03/08/2024 17:05

SweetLining · 03/08/2024 16:52

Yes, and find it really useful if we're meeting somewhere etc. Neither of us has anything to hide!

Could you not just text/ring each other or say meet at X place at Y time?

Berlinlover · 03/08/2024 17:04

Not in a million years and I can’t believe the amount of people on this thread who consider it normal. What a depressing way to live being tracked 24 hours a day.

Willyoushutthefrontdoor · 03/08/2024 17:04

Never crossed our minds. Haven't shared my location with anyone tbh

Bluebirdover · 03/08/2024 17:02

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I have extremely health relationships with husband and DC, but refuse to have it.

What's your "analogy" about "if you have a healthy relationship and if not it could be problematic"

Total crap you are spouting!

Didimum · 03/08/2024 17:02

No, it’s never really come up. I don’t give a stuff if other couples do and people judgemental about it should pipe down. It’s none of their business.

theemmadilemma · 03/08/2024 17:01

Nope.

Growlybear83 · 03/08/2024 17:00

No. I think it's bizarre to want to keep track of your partner and don't see why it's necessary. I go to a lot of evening meetings as part of my work and drive through some areas where I wouldn't feel safe on foot, so I generally ring my husband to let him know when I'm leaving for safety reasons - it takes 20 seconds - and other than that, it's no-one else's business where I am!

Pepsinotshirley · 03/08/2024 16:58

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AliceMcK · 03/08/2024 16:57

Nup, never even crossed my mind. DD yes but not DH, if he wants me to know where he is he will let me know.

Lentilweaver · 03/08/2024 16:57

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 16:53

It's certainly controlling to track children. It does nothing to make them safer and stops them learning how to manage themselves when outs.

I didn't use it for my DC either. They flatly refused!

I am from a certain culture people think of as controlling, as a pp said upthread, but not all of us fit the stereotype of controlling men and meek women.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 03/08/2024 16:56

NeedToChangeName · 03/08/2024 16:42

I'm happily married, no secrets, no control issues

But, no way would I allow anyone to track my movements

And, I worry that, as it becomes more normalised, women in abusive relationships will be pressured to agree to it. I can just imagine men saying "well why wouldn't you, if you've nothing to hide?"

Absolutely.

The more we normalise stuff like this, the more it can be used by dangerous people under the guise of "well, everyone else does it, so why won't you?".

I wonder how many supporters of it would be happy if their daughters got into a relationship with a man who insisted on knowing her every move?

Lovelydovey · 03/08/2024 16:55

We do but we don't check it routinely it. Recently I did use it when DH told me he was on his way home from the hospital where he'd been for a blood test and didn't reappear after an hour or answer his phone or messages. Turns out he was in A&E being a Good Samaritan for someone who had collapsed while he was waiting for the bus. I trust he'd only use it in similar circumstances. We tend to be quite hot on updating each other on our whereabouts and on the journey home etc so this would only be a last resort.

BobnLen · 03/08/2024 16:55

I have an iPhone so have find my on it. DH has some crappy Motorola phone so have no clue what that uses for location so no, we don't share

earlymorningcurlewcall · 03/08/2024 16:55

No. I'll share it if I'm driving home from the hospital at silly o'clock or if he wants to know when to put dinner on, but we've never shared location other than that.