do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

We do. It’s really useful as DH gets home at a different time every day so I can make sure dinner isn’t ready too early by checking if he’s left work or not. I imagine it would be a terrible idea if you had any trust issues or something to hide but if these don’t apply then it’s just an occasionally useful tool

Yes we do, but part of it is that I have a job where I’m lone working in a potentially hazardous environment.

Yes

I’m single, but have adult DC on Find My Friends and they have me on it and various friends.

It is useful when meeting up, travelling etc.

Oh, and that time DD called me drunk as a skunk at 1am and didn’t actually know where she was when trying to arrange for me to collect her…

Is it good to know when they're getting home, so you can get rid of the OW or OM?

Yes we do, find it very useful for seeing when other one will be home, or if they made it to destination safely

How utterly controlling of him! All the "I'm worried about you" is just a rubbish excuse!

Location tracking does not replace normal human interactions. It is just an additional tool. Like CCTV or dashcam. I would not need it and don't notice it most of the time, but when it is needed, it could be a life saver.

Of course I don't know my dh is safe just from knowing his location. But because he told me he was going to be x at y time (we do talk to each other 😱) or I know this is the day he goes into the office, the app will tell me if he is in an unexpected place. I will make a mental note or decide to call him or shrug it off. Or I see he is at a client location and decide to call him later. If he really was in trouble, I would have information for the police as to his whereabouts.

Why would the time of flight make it more likely to be dangerous?

3am for a flight is no different to 3pm!

Nobody needs to know where their partner is at all times.

There’s an assumption here that people with the app are looking at ‘all times’ to see where their partner is. Not in our case. I might look up where my husband is once a week, and that’s when he’s off-road cycling on his own. I might look to check he’s not stationary in a wood (this has happened before when he’s gone over his handle bars). Or if he gets up at 3am to go to Heathrow for an early flight, I might look when I wake up to see he’s arrived. It’s not for ‘checking-up’ because of some sort of paranoia. We don’t have that sort of untrusting relationship.

@Choochoo21 surely the point is that if this poster is late home her DH can check where she was doing home visits in the community and judge whether something has happened to prevent her from leaving? Home visits can be risky and not everyone works for an organisation that has robust lone working policies.

Yes we do. Was really handy a few years ago when I was in a car accident and didn’t know where I was (my phone screen was smashed!)

@blueshoes "How does knowing my dcs location make them less able to manage their lives?"

How does it help them?

And this is the exact reason why couples shouldn’t have it.

How does he know you are safe just by your location?

Why does he need to know where you are?

Why can’t you just text him saying you are leaving work now so will be home around X time.
If you run late and he’s done your tea, then you’ll just have to warm it up.

We don't have anything that tracks 24/7 but if one of us needs to get an uber we'll send tracking to the other through the app.
DW goes out out every so often and does pub crawls with friends. About 5 years ago something happened that really scared both of us so now she updates me with which one she's at when she gets there.

This. Nobody needs to know where their partner is at all times. And "safety" is a spurious argument, because if the person and their phone get separated then it only tells you where the phone is, not the person!

We will use it on WhatsApp if traffic is bad when DH is driving home and due to collect DS from childcare. I can see if he's completely stuck and not going to be back in time.

I can unfortunately understand why someone who works in the community would use it regularly. There are risks to going into someone's home on your own.

I can’t help but think it’s people with potentially creepy, unhappy or controlling relationships that think it’s anything other than completely benign.

My controlling husband will sometimes look up where I am (if I’ve had a day in my office) so he can surprise me with a lovely bath, ready with wine poured and candles lit as soon as I get in. What a bastard.

How bizarre you find this bizarre.

Yes it helps when we can’t find our phones, we share with whole family so if my twenty somethings stay at a friends but forget to tell me I can see and know they’re ok

How does it show him that you're safe?

Surely all it does it tell him that your phone is in x location?

We have "find my" for the whole family, it's actually really useful although I can see the negative side if not used appropriately.

TBH the app for the car shows all the journeys and where the car is (speed travelled etc), it has occurred to me how this could be misused too!

Wouldn’t even know how to do it and not interested at all.