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buggeroo · 2024-08-03T15:02:32+00:00

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

Alpolonia · 03/08/2024 18:04

catherinewales · 03/08/2024 16:03

We do. But we use life 360 so we can track the kids too xx

That’s what we do. If it were just DH and I then I wouldn’t.

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 18:04

@blueshoes
Gen Z don't have the same sense of privacy. There are so many presence-detecting apps they are used to "

There is a huge difference between kids finding each other and parents tracking their children.

Tightfishedtwat · 03/08/2024 18:04

We do. All started when DP got a motorbike and commuted 1 hr each way. When doing so by car he'd call me on the way home but couldn't on a bike.

PommelHoss · 03/08/2024 18:01

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blueshoes · 03/08/2024 18:00

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 17:55

@PoetryPlease I am pretty sure that many of the posters on here would not be happy if their child said no.

Gen Z don't have the same sense of privacy. There are so many presence-detecting apps they are used to it.

I was at a uni open day with ds. He opened his snapchat app which told him who amongst his friends were at the same uni open day and where they were at. He then went to look for and meet up with one of them to do an accommodation visit. It is natural to them.

Bluebirdover · 03/08/2024 18:00

@behindthemall I understand that's why you want tracking.... tutting and miffed and lying about dish washing emptying... all very odd.

Luckily my and DH, don't have that sort of relationship...

Hence no over the top tracking and trying to appease the other half.

PoetryPlease · 03/08/2024 17:58

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 17:55

@PoetryPlease I am pretty sure that many of the posters on here would not be happy if their child said no.

The thread is about sharing with a partner though, not a child. If you want to know if I think parents should track children without permission I would have a different answer. Especially teenagers. I think it should always be consent based.

SummerTimeIsTheBest · 03/08/2024 17:58

Yea, we use Life 360.

Stardustmoon · 03/08/2024 17:58

Yea we do. Another one who uses life360. Again as other shave said it is useful to see when they're on their way home.

ASaltyWoman · 03/08/2024 17:57

Yes, because DH often cycles early in the morning before work, and if he came off, I'd want to be able to go straight to whatever remote hedge he was stuffed in.

I don't think he'd know how to check where I was on his phone.

blueshoes · 03/08/2024 17:57

ohtowinthelottery · 03/08/2024 17:53

@CurbsideProphet Most lone workers who work in the Community have a system in place where they check in with their employer/base before they enter a property then check out again when they leave. Unless they are self employed and have noone other than their other half to check in with then there's no need to be tracked by them.

People, the technology is there. It doesn't bite. No need to rely on just pen and paper when there are laptops going spare.

Muthaofcats · 03/08/2024 17:56

Yes we do, super handy. Why would it be an issue unless you had something to hide / had trust issues.

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 17:55

@PoetryPlease I am pretty sure that many of the posters on here would not be happy if their child said no.

behindthemall · 03/08/2024 17:54

Bluebirdover · 03/08/2024 17:51

@behindthemall what makes you think you've got to do your "jobs" prior to DH getting home, what's the consequence if you don't?

So you're constantly checking when he leaves work, to ensure he's not angered on his return home?

Sounds awful, but if it keeps you safe, maybe worthwhile.

He’d probably tut and me and roll his eyes. He might be reasonably miffed I’d not done what I said I would, as should any person in a healthy relationship. But it’s not impossible that I’ve said I’d unload the dishwasher while he was out, forgot and then remembered at the last minute and thought - should I rush before he gets home so I’ve kept my word or see he’s nearly here and think it can wait until later on instead.

HelpMeGetThrough · 03/08/2024 17:54

How do you know he doesn't look at it?

I am the he in this.

More than comfortable if it is looked at, if I'm not home. Some would say I lead an unexciting life, but it works well for me.

ohtowinthelottery · 03/08/2024 17:53

@CurbsideProphet Most lone workers who work in the Community have a system in place where they check in with their employer/base before they enter a property then check out again when they leave. Unless they are self employed and have noone other than their other half to check in with then there's no need to be tracked by them.

Tisfortired · 03/08/2024 17:52

Never even come up, neither of us ever go anywhere anyway it would be the worlds most boring tracker

blueshoes · 03/08/2024 17:52

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Not if both parties consent.

Bluebirdover · 03/08/2024 17:51

@behindthemall what makes you think you've got to do your "jobs" prior to DH getting home, what's the consequence if you don't?

So you're constantly checking when he leaves work, to ensure he's not angered on his return home?

Sounds awful, but if it keeps you safe, maybe worthwhile.

PommelHoss · 03/08/2024 17:51

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Monkeybutt1 · 03/08/2024 17:51

Yes we do and nothing to do with trust or lack of. I run regularly and DH feels better having it so if there is an issue he can know where I am
It's also super useful to know when to put tea on.

TikehauLilly · 03/08/2024 17:51

We do, bit of a non issue. Use it more to see when to put on dinner etc
No trust issues.

Whatever works for each couple / family.

museumum · 03/08/2024 17:51

We have it and I used it to find the taxi he left his phone in once which was really useful. It’s only really for emergencies - he cycles in traffic and I often run and hike alone. It’s good to know we would have a last known location if either of us went missing (accident or injury). Dh once did go missing in the hills as the friend he was with had a heart attack.

Choochoo21 · 03/08/2024 17:50

HelpMeGetThrough · 03/08/2024 17:46

We do. I travel a lot for work, so when I'm travelling, my OH knows if I'm still on the road. More than happy if it keeps minds at rest that I'm ok.

When not travelling, we never look at it, as there isn't any point.

Why does he need to know if you’re still on the road?

Could you not just text him to say you’ve arrived?

If he’s worried then he can always text or ring you instead.

I don’t understand how ‘knowing you are still on the road’ or not keeps his mind at rest.

Do you check up on his location whenever he is out driving to the supermarket?

Summertimer · 03/08/2024 17:50

No, I usually know where he is and if he’s popped into town for a haircut or dentist etc. it’s totally fine