do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

No it’s the biggest form of control ever. It’s weird, it disgusts me.

I don't think your guarantee is worth the paper it's written on.

I guarantee that there are people that have posted on the thread stating that it helps for getting dinner ready who are either checking regularly through the day or being checked up on.
What happens when you check and the dot doesn’t move? Let’s hope they’re not ‘working late’.

Doesn't really matter what anyone else does, you do what makes you feel comfortable. Your dh should too.

There will be people on either side of the trust / control fence. Pick your own side.

*People are saying they don’t keep checking the app but then say they use it so they can have dinner ready for when their DH returns.

They must need to regularly check it so they can time it just right.
So many people stay a bit later at work or stop off at a shop or for a drink etc.
So how would they know what time to have dinner ready for, unless they’re regularly checking the app.

These men either finish around the same time everyday - in which case the dinner can be made for the same time every day, unless told otherwise.
Or these men finish different times everyday (or do something on the way home) and so these posters must regularly check the app, which they’re claiming they don’t do.

Surely it’s easier for their DH to text them saying they are leaving and will be home around X time, than have their DWs need to keep checking the app.

If heaven forbid the poor man is stuck in traffic, then his doting wife can just reheat it for him when he finally gets home.*

I'll answer some of your questions but I imagine they will just enrage you even more as you do seem quite het up about it.

The app can be set to send a text when you leave an area. You don't need to look at the app at all.

If you were going to stop off for a drink on the way home, that would be a good day to tell your husband or wife what your plans are. I've never stopped off for a drink on the way home from work but if I did I'd tell dh.

I don't want to inform my husband every day when I'm leaving work or what time I'll be home. I find it more convenient to just communicate about stuff like that if it's an anomaly.

Neither dh or I have the dinner on the table when the other arrives home. Sometimes we will eat about six and other days it can be ten.

We don't reheat each others food if they get stuck in traffic. And not just because we've got a warming drawer and I walk but because we are adults who manage.

I think there’s a difference between both parties having location switched on by mutual consent and an abusive monitoring situation.

In a previous relationship, my exDP made a big point of insisting my location was on and checking it then cross checking for inconsistencies from what I told him. This is clearly an abusive use of the technology.

DH and I have location on, partly because as I mentioned, I’m often a lone worker in a potentially risky situation but also for convenience in terms of food prep and station pickup.

We do, we find it useful but neither of us are controlling or use it in a way that causes the other any distress. I'm under no illusion that by tracking someone's phone you can guarantee they won't do something like cheat as there's always ways around it if they were that way inclined anyway.

if it makes you feel uncomfortable then of course don't do it and if a partner insists you do against your wishes then that's obviously a huge red flag.

we've been together 10 years it's never causes us any issues, I think we decided to start sharing our location about 5 years ago after we watched a show where someone went missing and died but if they'd been found earlier would have survived. If my partner ever started using it in a way that was trying to control me or I felt uncomfortable I'd definitely stop.

I tell him where I'm going and when anyway (we have a small child) so I don't see the difference him being to see where I am.

Fuck no

Are people aware that it is straightforward to spoof your location on an android and, while slightly more work, also entirely doable on an iPhone?

We use life360, I do a lot of walking and running by myself feels nicer someone knowing where you are. Also handy for when you're leaving work etc

I was against this years ago but now we share our locations. Makes it easier for him to start the dinner etc

I have nothing to hide & so does he

I don’t randomly check it to make sure he goes where he says he goes

No. I phone/message him if I need to know where he is. He does the same. Ex tracked me and was controlling in every way.

We do, first of all for the kids but actually it is really useful. My 18 year old has decided to stay on it with us.

No, I would find it weird and controlling.
I don't need being tracked.
Just like I don't feel the need to track him either.

No. I tell him where I am if I’m out when he gets home or I’m at work/walking the dogs. I’d find it a bit odd to have Find my Friends etc.

This is what I don’t understand!

People are saying they don’t keep checking the app but then say they use it so they can have dinner ready for when their DH returns.

They must need to regularly check it so they can time it just right.
So many people stay a bit later at work or stop off at a shop or for a drink etc.
So how would they know what time to have dinner ready for, unless they’re regularly checking the app.

These men either finish around the same time everyday - in which case the dinner can be made for the same time every day, unless told otherwise.
Or these men finish different times everyday (or do something on the way home) and so these posters must regularly check the app, which they’re claiming they don’t do.

Surely it’s easier for their DH to text them saying they are leaving and will be home around X time, than have their DWs need to keep checking the app.

If heaven forbid the poor man is stuck in traffic, then his doting wife can just reheat it for him when he finally gets home.

It’s more work to keep checking on the tracker, than it is to just receive a text.

No, we never have done. These days he is almost always with me or at work.

What happens? Same as what happens in your house. What drama were you hoping for?

Using the app to have tea (I presume this means dinner) on time is as exciting as buying more toilet paper before it runs out.

Yes, it's really handy and saves lots of texts, calls etc. We mainly use it for knowing when to start dinner if the other one is out walking the dog. Or when he was meeting me in a european city recently and the metro was delayed. No hassle if no-one has anything to hide.

No, apart from when he is on a night out with work or something and is coming home late at night or vice versa we will share WhatsApp location while we are on the journey home.

@Monkeybutt1 yes I love the fact that tea being on the table is sooooo important!!

It's just not, do you think they'll die if starvation if they've got to wait 30 mins.

What about if they leave work and the normal journey is 45 mins and you've started "tea" and fuck me, 30 mins into thief journey they're delayed because an accident has happened in front of them...

What happens then?

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Well I'm single and will have no one to know or care if I fall down a ravine or lose consciousness. But I have been married and have teenage children and consider it a terrible invasion of privacy which I would never agree to or want for my children. I think people need more not less time where they do their own thing, the dynamic described by some on here sounds suffocating and weirdly retrograde. I love my freedom to be where not a single person knows where I am and I want my children to have that top.