do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

I do totally understand that concern yes.

Technology is moving so fast I suspect that this form of tracking will soon become outdated.

No. I got life 360 on family phones after losing my dad for an hour when looking round a garden. We then all stopped using it as it was too battery draining. If I was with my dad I'd get it working on both our phones again but my husband doesn't tend to get lost and we usually have a vague idea where the other one is

Yeah we do. We have teens too though so we have a family group on Life360. I regularly pick each
DH up from the train station so we have the next closest train station as a saved place. When I get notified to say he has arrived/left there it means it time to leave to pick him up. Very handy!

I don’t have any issues but I have questions which I have asked or concerns that I have mentioned. What another family does has no impact on my life. I have mentioned one concern that I have thought of when reading the comments. The normalising of tracking someone. A generation of children being told that it’s ok and learning that this is one of the ways that we show we care. Not the basis for a healthy relationship as an adult. That doesn’t mean I’m saying the get the dinner on people have unhealthy relationships as they are used to a time before tracking was a thing which the young people who are tracked by mum and dad are not.

To be fair there’s usually a website that you can log into and check.

But if you have to remember to check to see if the other parent is stuck in traffic wouldn't it just be easier to go yourself?
Where picking kids up is concerned I would always make a phone call i would never rely on the other parent checking if it was me picking them up.

We share. As others have said, it's useful for knowing when someone's going to be home. Started doing it for timing of dinner as DH got home late and we did want to be eating pretty much the minute he walked in the door. But found it useful in a dozen different ways. Most often so that, when DH has been out doing chores on the weekend, I can have the laziest morning possible while still making sure I'm not slobbing on the couch surrounded by mess when he gets in!

In the case of my kids, it's mainly so I know exactly where they are when they want picking up! Makes it much easier than trying to watch out for the right shop on a street or work out which train they're on when they send unreliable information. My kids didn't have phones until they were 10ish, so it's never been a matter of tracking them in case they get lost. It's only ever been about logistics.

If someone is away we might look and see what they're doing and text with fun facts or asking questions about whatever tourist attraction they're next to - just a small part of keeping up connections, not essential (and neither is the texting) but something we all enjoy.

If I don't want any of them to know where I'm going I turn it off. As do my kids and DH from time to time. And if they do that, I don't ask them about it, and they don't ask me. Because it's our default but it's not something we have a right to, it's fine to be incognito (though not if you want me to be waiting for you at the station when your train gets in and you have a history of getting the timing wrong).

I do find it amusing that so many posters appear to believe that tracking can only mean there’s trust issues and that others are constantly tracking location.

What a simplistic view.
It obviously works for many so why does it bother you?
I notice it’s only those who don’t track that seem to be criticising those who do.

You really can't think of ANY reason not to do this other than trust? That's an abusers charter right there. We really should not normalise this kind of inter-personal surveillance, if only because it gives bad actors of all types types (abusive partners, overbearing parents, etc.) license to press others to comply because well, if you've nothing to hide, why wouldn't you?

Yes, we use the same “find my iPhone” account. It’s helpful, especially when I can’t remember where I’ve left my phone in our house and ask him to ping mine (it’s always on silent) 😂

orrrrr the only reason to is trust issues

No, cannot see any benefit day to day. If either of us are doing “hobbies” where there is a risk we might end up injured and unable to call then fine, but day to day seems pretty creepy and intrusive. All these, useful for starting tea, makes folk sound like 50s housewives who must have tea on the table the minute the man walks in😳

Yes we do, good job as I left my phone at tkmaxx, hubby located it 🤣

Only reason not to is trust issues

Yes but only because we are so busy and all over the place with the kids, and we live rurally so it means we can see when the other is on their way back with one of the DC and stick the dinner in the oven, if we were worried that they weren't back long after we expected them we could check if they were stuck on a country lane etc.

I have no reason to not trust him so it's never a "I want to know where he is because I don't trust him", and the same is true in the other direction - he just uses it to see if I'm on my way back etc

You raise a good point, parents/partners won’t know what their loved one is doing just where they are. The more I think about it we're at risk of creating a generation who a brought up hearing “it’s just so I know you’re safe” then this becomes their normal to track anyone you care about which isn’t healthy.

Too true. 😊

@Magn01a let's not waste our time with goady emoji-galore posters who cannot string a decent argument together.

Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.

I’m not spiteful at all.

busy family life 🤣🤣🤣

that’s just normal life

🥱 Yawn

It’s been explained to you countless times how it’s used to aid a busy family life and in no way impacts on independence or resilience.

You carry on with your juvenile, spiteful and petty posts and we’ll carry on doing what serves us well.

No, I’ve never felt the need to and I doubt that will change.

So independent and resilient you have to track them? 🤣
I don’t think so

Trust me they are. 😊

🤣🤣🤣🤣
your kids are neither resilient or independent

Yes but only part of the wider family sharing on iPhone. It’s mostly only ever used when a member of the family says I’ve lost my phone so we can ping it to find it.