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C4tintherug · 03/08/2024 12:00

Why has Michael Jackson not been cancelled?

I don’t understand why a musical has been made out of his music, and why his music is played at school discos and is still everywhere.

After I watched the documentary where the men described how he raped them, I won’t listen to his music at all, in fact, I feel a sense of disgust when it is played publicly.

I don’t understand why we seem to have cancelled everyone else except him. Is it because he died before he was officially found guilty?

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Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:30

jen337 · 03/08/2024 16:11

Also Are you a teacher?? Shouldn’t you be safeguarding teenage girls not making excuses for nonces.

How on earth is this making excuses for ‘nonces’. It’s pointing out the difference between asking a girl out in the belief they’re older than they are, and asking them out knowing their real age. I well remember being mistaken for at least 18-19 when I was only 14, and a lot of it was intentional on my part. We may not like it, and knowing what I know now, I cringe when I look back, but let’s not pretend it doesn’t happen.

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 17:29

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:26

I think the MJ fan club has been rattled. Bet you this thread makes the newsletter this month

If it doesn't get deleted first like most of the other MJ threads.

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:26

I think the MJ fan club has been rattled. Bet you this thread makes the newsletter this month

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:25

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:19

It actually does you know. Cancelling an artist is about hitting them where it hurts. You can’t do that to a dead person. They have nothing to lose.

No it’s not, it’s about cancelling their legacy and impact on society.

Youre welcome

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 17:24

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:16

Your post literally makes no sense at all

In what way? Did I write it in Swahili?

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:19

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:16

Your post literally makes no sense at all

It actually does you know. Cancelling an artist is about hitting them where it hurts. You can’t do that to a dead person. They have nothing to lose.

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:16

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 16:59

Cancelling an abuser is about not enabling them to profit from a position which they have held during times when they were abusers and may have used, directly or indirectly to procure victims. If Gary Glitter, like Jackson, had died without being brought to justice, chances are his music might still be played. But whilst he is still alive and could still use any profit/status from the sale of his records to continue abusing, there is purpose to cancelling.
There's no point cancelling Jackson. It wouldn't serve any purpose. I still wouldn't be interested in the musical of his life, but since he won't benefit in any way shape or form, I don't have a problem with it existing.

Your post literally makes no sense at all

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:15

Mirabai · 03/08/2024 16:15

It’s not merely opinion that MJ has a face very disfigure by plastic surgery.

I wasn’t alluding to his facial features, I was answering the poster who was ultimately deleted for the comment about MJ fans being bizarre.

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 17:13

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:04

Wow, you’re really reaching on this one. We don’t, just as we don’t know that they were. But there is a jury selection process in which the jurors are questioned as to their suitability to serve and to uncover any bias either way. And defence lawyers don’t ’hand pick’ juries. During jury selection in the US, it’s the judge who decides what questions should be posed to potential jurors to decide their suitability to serve. And the list of questions is drawn up after consultation with all parties, not just the defence.

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No not reaching, I was asking, I am genuinely interested so thanks for answering. Although no amount of talking will ever make me change my mind, I believe he is guilty, I always have and I always will

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 17:13

Ghosttofu99 · 03/08/2024 16:29

You are not wrong op. Any other man would be ‘cancelled’ for regularly inviting other people’s young children into their bed regardless if anything sexual took place because it is entirely inappropriate and grooming behaviour. But because MJ was briefly the most famous person on the planet he gets ‘a pass’ from way too many people.

Most reasonable reasonable people, including MJ fans, who watched the doc you mentioned would be disgusted at his music still being celebrated at public events too.

For context, my DP was a massive MJ fan, had tickets to his tour and was devastated when he died but he will not listen to MJ again.

He doesn't 'get a pass' though, because he is dead. His music gets a pass because he is no longer here to profit by it. There's a point to cancelling an artist by not buying their music/cancelling their stage shows. 1) it's punitive. Hitting them where it hurts, their bank balance or their need to perform. 2) If their position as a result of being wealthy and famous made it easier to abuse, stripping them of those two things along with high public knowledge make it much harder for them to continue abusing.
None of this applies to Jackson because he is dead. There's nothing we can do to punish or prevent his actions now. What would be the point?

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:12

C4tintherug · 03/08/2024 16:50

When a man is not charged with sexual assault but we all know he did it- because there’s no proof- it’s always his word against her word and to convict somebody you need solid evidence.
Is this not the same thing with MJ…. his word against their words…. And he was lawyered up to the max, I wouldn’t have expected any other outcome.

Isnt sexual assault one of the hardest crimes to get a conviction from?

if my child said similar I would always believe them and I am saddened for the poster who is saying that if a jury finds them not guilty then that’s the end of it.. 😔

Anybody accused of what MJ had been would have been foolish beyond reason to stand trial without securing the services of the best lawyers they could afford.

Why then, is it always the assertion on MN that if you can afford good lawyers, you are somehow buying a not guilty verdict ? I saw the same argument applied on a thread some time ago regarding the woman who had a seizure behind the wheel of her car and drove into a school yard, killing two little girls. She had incontrovertible medical evidence of a seizure during which she lost consciousness and was found not to be responsible for their deaths. When it came to light that she was quite wealthy, those who had supported her changed their tune in the same way - her expensive lawyers got her off. It was nonsense then and it’s nonsense now.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:04

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 16:58

Didn't his defense hand pick that jury though? And even if they didn't how do we know they weren't either fans/starstruck or paid off on the sly?

Wow, you’re really reaching on this one. We don’t, just as we don’t know that they were. But there is a jury selection process in which the jurors are questioned as to their suitability to serve and to uncover any bias either way. And defence lawyers don’t ’hand pick’ juries. During jury selection in the US, it’s the judge who decides what questions should be posed to potential jurors to decide their suitability to serve. And the list of questions is drawn up after consultation with all parties, not just the defence.

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 16:59

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 12:25

Ah so only if they’re talented they don’t get cancelled. Gary Glitter should have written better songs

Cancelling an abuser is about not enabling them to profit from a position which they have held during times when they were abusers and may have used, directly or indirectly to procure victims. If Gary Glitter, like Jackson, had died without being brought to justice, chances are his music might still be played. But whilst he is still alive and could still use any profit/status from the sale of his records to continue abusing, there is purpose to cancelling.
There's no point cancelling Jackson. It wouldn't serve any purpose. I still wouldn't be interested in the musical of his life, but since he won't benefit in any way shape or form, I don't have a problem with it existing.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:58

C4tintherug · 03/08/2024 16:50

When a man is not charged with sexual assault but we all know he did it- because there’s no proof- it’s always his word against her word and to convict somebody you need solid evidence.
Is this not the same thing with MJ…. his word against their words…. And he was lawyered up to the max, I wouldn’t have expected any other outcome.

Isnt sexual assault one of the hardest crimes to get a conviction from?

if my child said similar I would always believe them and I am saddened for the poster who is saying that if a jury finds them not guilty then that’s the end of it.. 😔

Then I’ll ask you the same question. If your own child was accused of being a paedophile and maintained their innocence, would you still believe them innocent if a jury found them guilty ? Whether or not you believe in either instance isn’t black and white, as I’ve explained until I’m exhausted, it depends on a lot of things and it’s not black and white. And once more, this is why family members don’t serve on juries. None of these arguments allow for objectivity.

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 16:58

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:50

Of course it doesn’t. But the jury were in possession of all the facts when they made their decision. They still found him not guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. He was accused of abusing children. Inviting them to sleep in his bed - although really odd and disturbing - doesn’t prove he actually abused them. The charges were specific, the evidence didn’t support a conviction. And that’s my only point. If the charges had been inviting children into his bed and spending more time in their company than others thought reasonable, then he would have been bang to rights. Doesn’t mean he abused them.

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Didn't his defense hand pick that jury though? And even if they didn't how do we know they weren't either fans/starstruck or paid off on the sly?

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:50

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 16:41

He admitted to sleeping with those little boys, there are photo's of him in public with the little boys and all the stuff that was found in his house is available for all to see online. Innocent in court does not mean he actually was innocent either!

Of course it doesn’t. But the jury were in possession of all the facts when they made their decision. They still found him not guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. He was accused of abusing children. Inviting them to sleep in his bed - although really odd and disturbing - doesn’t prove he actually abused them. The charges were specific, the evidence didn’t support a conviction. And that’s my only point. If the charges had been inviting children into his bed and spending more time in their company than others thought reasonable, then he would have been bang to rights. Doesn’t mean he abused them.

C4tintherug · 03/08/2024 16:50

When a man is not charged with sexual assault but we all know he did it- because there’s no proof- it’s always his word against her word and to convict somebody you need solid evidence.
Is this not the same thing with MJ…. his word against their words…. And he was lawyered up to the max, I wouldn’t have expected any other outcome.

Isnt sexual assault one of the hardest crimes to get a conviction from?

if my child said similar I would always believe them and I am saddened for the poster who is saying that if a jury finds them not guilty then that’s the end of it.. 😔

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Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:46

Mirabai · 03/08/2024 16:29

I’m inferring you don’t actually have kids as this approach is very strange.

You either believe your kid of you don’t. If you do, you know they’re telling the truth about abuse and the perpetrator is found not guilty - if you took the approach you outlined above you would simply lose your child’s respect and trust for good.

I give up. And yes I do have children. I just don’t believe in standing by a family member if there is any doubt as to the veracity of their accusations against someone, and that, as I’ve explained several times, would depend on the circumstance - whether they were a truthful person, whether their evidence had been adequately weighed during the trial, and whether I had any reason to doubt them even before the verdict had been returned. It’s not black and white.

Let me ask you a question. If your adult child was accused of being a paedophile and they were adamant that they were innocent, would you continue to believe them even if they were convicted ?

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 16:41

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:39

None of which was proven beyond a reasonable doubt in a court of law. I was never particularly a fan of MJ and I agree, a lot of what came out at the trial spoke to the fact that he was definitely odd, but the fact remains that he was found not guilty on all charges. That’s the rule of law. Mob rule, which I get the impression some here would like applied to MJ, is an entirely different beast.

He admitted to sleeping with those little boys, there are photo's of him in public with the little boys and all the stuff that was found in his house is available for all to see online. Innocent in court does not mean he actually was innocent either!

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:39

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 16:34

What is twisted is grooming children, sleeping in bed with them, taking them oit in public like a teddy bear and owning a lot of paedophilic literature.

None of which was proven beyond a reasonable doubt in a court of law. I was never particularly a fan of MJ and I agree, a lot of what came out at the trial spoke to the fact that he was definitely odd, but the fact remains that he was found not guilty on all charges. That’s the rule of law. Mob rule, which I get the impression some here would like applied to MJ, is an entirely different beast.

pam290358 · 03/08/2024 16:36

Ghosttofu99 · 03/08/2024 16:29

You are not wrong op. Any other man would be ‘cancelled’ for regularly inviting other people’s young children into their bed regardless if anything sexual took place because it is entirely inappropriate and grooming behaviour. But because MJ was briefly the most famous person on the planet he gets ‘a pass’ from way too many people.

Most reasonable reasonable people, including MJ fans, who watched the doc you mentioned would be disgusted at his music still being celebrated at public events too.

For context, my DP was a massive MJ fan, had tickets to his tour and was devastated when he died but he will not listen to MJ again.

The last time I looked a documentary wasn’t a court of law. That’s trial by media. And how is your DP’s attitude to MJ ‘context’ ? It doesn’t support anything but his own opinion.

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 16:34

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:32

It still doesn’t prove guilt or innocence, wherever the allegations came from. And there are some here who appear to be prepared to go to any lengths to brand MJ as a paedophile, including presenting their own opinions and ‘research’ as well as random documentaries as fact and proof of guilt, and asserting that there were ‘victims’ when the case wasn’t proven. Not to mention showing their own bias as branding MJ fans ‘weird’. That’s what’s twisted.

What is twisted is grooming children, sleeping in bed with them, taking them oit in public like a teddy bear and owning a lot of paedophilic literature.

Pepsinotshirley · 03/08/2024 16:33

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Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 16:32

Mirabai · 03/08/2024 16:25

The burden of proof lies with the prosecution. In any case, it was a civil case, MJ could have fought til the end but he chose to settle.

For the people who claim JC’s allegations were invented by his father, the second case, was initially brought by JC alone, in which he summarised the abuse, showing that his allegations did not come from his father.

I know MJ fans are weird but claiming that anyone wants someone to be a paedophile is particularly twisted. It’s terrible, terrible shame for all his victims.

It still doesn’t prove guilt or innocence, wherever the allegations came from. And there are some here who appear to be prepared to go to any lengths to brand MJ as a paedophile, including presenting their own opinions and ‘research’ as well as random documentaries as fact and proof of guilt, and asserting that there were ‘victims’ when the case wasn’t proven. Not to mention showing their own bias as branding MJ fans ‘weird’. That’s what’s twisted.

NasiDagang · 03/08/2024 16:32

Magnastorm · 03/08/2024 13:04

Because mj fans are incredibly obsessive about him and his mediocre music.

Personally I think he's music is fantastic. Magnastorm

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