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I live in social Hosuing, the council want me to attend mediation with my neighbours who have threatened violence and stolen/broken my property many times

29 replies

ausi · 03/08/2024 09:52

I live in social housing and my local council sent and email saying they are aware of our issues and it can't be nice for anyone involved

They hate me because we exist. A bit of background. We're top flat and they are bottom. They bang up if I so much as hoover (I have a normal shark hoover). They cannot stand I go into my own garden which isn't shared, they cannot stand I have guest over (we don't have loud music or drink etc). I have three young children. They make the acceptable noise level (council has had noise equipment to prove this). Yet they harass me endlessly.

They've stolen my parcels, they've broken the kids bikes, they've cut my hose in my own garden. They've treated to "beat me up" many times over my kids playing. They've thrown smashed glass into my garden to hurt the children.

They are miserable people. They can't see anyone happy. A lot of people have suggested racism as my kids are mixed. I'm not with the kids dad anymore it's just me and my three children. As soon as we split they did so much more

They do such stupid things like throwing my youngest bike into the bushes when it's in my own garden. They've emptied their ash tray on my stairs (we don't share these)
Even things like I get my shopping delivered they go mental about that and that the delivery van shouldn't be parked on the street!!!

The council wants me to go to mediation with my neighbours is there anything I can do?? I've said no the only thing to stop their horrid behaviour is myself putting up cameras and I'm more than happy to keep reporting them to the police. I offered all the police numbers to them

Any time they do these things I just report them to the police

Is there any thing I can do??

OP posts:
Whatevershallidowithmylife · 03/08/2024 10:19

Please do go to mediation- even though you’ll have to do it through gritted teeth you have to play the game if you want a resolution which really is going to be that one of you accepts a move or they get an asbo!

cupcaske123 · 03/08/2024 10:01

You can gather evidence, get a video doorbell and take photos of anything damaged.

Keep a diary of all events.Note all crime reference numbers and reports.

You can report it as a hate crime which will be taken seriously by the association. There's an organisation Hope not Hate who may be able to advise. You can also contact Victim Support.

If you have a housing officer, ask for a meeting and discuss. Escalate it to their manager if you're not happy with how it's being dealt with.

There are legal remedies such as a community protection notice and injunctions.

Shelter can also offer advice.

If there's no joy, contact your local MP.

LlynTegid · 03/08/2024 10:00

Perhaps you could insist on only going if the Council chief executive is present and then only if a meeting straight afterwards with the chief executive takes place. Then ask the chief executive why he or she is effectively through their policies condoning racism.

Thethruththewholetruth · 03/08/2024 09:55

It’s a process they have to follow, if you want the situation to be rectified then sadly you will have to go.