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To think she's gearing up to cancel?

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SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 08:02

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

OP posts:
Khanga27 · 03/08/2024 14:07

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:47

I've had a response!

She has apologised for not getting back to me sooner, she was camping last weekend when I text her and didn't get around to checking her messages. We're both a bit like that sometimes so usually i wouldn't bat an eye, it was just the fact the trip was coming up that concerned me.

She said she went to text me today and that's when she saw today's ones.

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

She doesn't sound like she was looking for an out.

I think I was worrying about nothing as far as her cancelling goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

Please don’t listen to the awful judgemental comments on this post and decide based on your thoughts. You have known this lady as a friend for 2.5 years, and you have trusted her to look after your child for day trips already (with no issues I take it?). The update about her job and DBS check alongside you knowing her personally is also something to give comfort, as well as her being a fellow mother. However you need to feel comfortable as well, just decide based on how you feel. I would suggest if you let your child go still to agree with the other mother about contact/updates to put you at ease.

Clafoutie · 03/08/2024 14:05

So glad it is all still on OP. Your daughter will have a great time. Ignore the horrible posters on here, you’re doing just fine Flowers

MeAgainAndAgain · 03/08/2024 14:04

A nursery near me used to take the older children away for 2 nights every year. So that’s younger than OPs daughter. And they were all fine!

BlackStrayCat · 03/08/2024 14:03

Pleased for you OP. I, too, remember your original post.

I think you are just a worrier (like me)

FWIW a mother I know has a holiday flat abroad and the fiftenn years I have known her, she always brings a friend as it makes it easier for her and happier for her DD. Do not stress!

Bluestarling · 03/08/2024 14:03

My son went camping for three nights just after joining beavers....he was 6. Had a couple of reservations about it but he was fine and had a ball !

sleekcat · 03/08/2024 14:02

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:47

I've had a response!

She has apologised for not getting back to me sooner, she was camping last weekend when I text her and didn't get around to checking her messages. We're both a bit like that sometimes so usually i wouldn't bat an eye, it was just the fact the trip was coming up that concerned me.

She said she went to text me today and that's when she saw today's ones.

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

She doesn't sound like she was looking for an out.

I think I was worrying about nothing as far as her cancelling goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

Ah great, hope she has a lovely time!

Liv999 · 03/08/2024 14:01

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:47

I've had a response!

She has apologised for not getting back to me sooner, she was camping last weekend when I text her and didn't get around to checking her messages. We're both a bit like that sometimes so usually i wouldn't bat an eye, it was just the fact the trip was coming up that concerned me.

She said she went to text me today and that's when she saw today's ones.

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

She doesn't sound like she was looking for an out.

I think I was worrying about nothing as far as her cancelling goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

Brilliant news, I hope your little girl has an amazing time

SaltedCaramelIcedLatte · 03/08/2024 14:01

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:47

I've had a response!

She has apologised for not getting back to me sooner, she was camping last weekend when I text her and didn't get around to checking her messages. We're both a bit like that sometimes so usually i wouldn't bat an eye, it was just the fact the trip was coming up that concerned me.

She said she went to text me today and that's when she saw today's ones.

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

She doesn't sound like she was looking for an out.

I think I was worrying about nothing as far as her cancelling goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

Fantastic, I hope your DD has a lovely holiday!

Sahara123 · 03/08/2024 14:00

I hope she has a lovely time . My third daughter is my most confident and would happily have gone away at that age, and continues to be adventurous to this day . You're not far away if needed.

Readingallthetime · 03/08/2024 13:58

Motherland2624 · 03/08/2024 12:50

This is crazy people should take a test before having or being responsible for children

Ah another person who woke up this morning and thought to themselves "I know, I'm going to deliberately be mean to someone on the internet, I fancy making someone feel bad today, such fun!".

Hope your daughter has a wonderful time OP!

OnAndOnAndonAgain · 03/08/2024 13:57

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:47

I've had a response!

She has apologised for not getting back to me sooner, she was camping last weekend when I text her and didn't get around to checking her messages. We're both a bit like that sometimes so usually i wouldn't bat an eye, it was just the fact the trip was coming up that concerned me.

She said she went to text me today and that's when she saw today's ones.

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

She doesn't sound like she was looking for an out.

I think I was worrying about nothing as far as her cancelling goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

Don't let what people on here think change your mind

If you are happy that she'll be well looked after and have a great time let her go

6pence · 03/08/2024 13:56

She will be fine and if she’s not, you can pick her up.

Just make sure your friend knows to contact you if needed and not to struggle on with an upset child.

ShillyShallySherbet · 03/08/2024 13:53

I’m so glad all is well OP, if you still feel happy sending her and she is excited about it and happy to go then I’m sure it’ll be fine. I’d have got to the same conclusion as you when I didn’t get a reply. Personally I wouldn’t want someone so disorganised and inconsiderate to take my child away but that’s just me, doesn’t make you a bad parent if that’s ok with you. Just a more relaxed one than me!

NoCoco · 03/08/2024 13:53

@SunflowerMabel is dd happy to go? You probably aren't after some if the bad mother comments on here!

bakail · 03/08/2024 13:50

So you're going to be a dreadful mother and let her go? Grin

Calliopespa · 03/08/2024 13:49

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:47

I've had a response!

She has apologised for not getting back to me sooner, she was camping last weekend when I text her and didn't get around to checking her messages. We're both a bit like that sometimes so usually i wouldn't bat an eye, it was just the fact the trip was coming up that concerned me.

She said she went to text me today and that's when she saw today's ones.

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

She doesn't sound like she was looking for an out.

I think I was worrying about nothing as far as her cancelling goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

How do you feel op. You don’t need to send her …

Original poster
SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:47

I've had a response!

She has apologised for not getting back to me sooner, she was camping last weekend when I text her and didn't get around to checking her messages. We're both a bit like that sometimes so usually i wouldn't bat an eye, it was just the fact the trip was coming up that concerned me.

She said she went to text me today and that's when she saw today's ones.

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

She doesn't sound like she was looking for an out.

I think I was worrying about nothing as far as her cancelling goes 🤦🏼‍♀️

OP posts:
Calliopespa · 03/08/2024 13:46

YouLookLikeStevieNicks · 03/08/2024 13:38

Some of these replies are awful and so judgemental. You know your daughter best OP, please ignore the horrible responses.

I hope you hear back from her soon.

Yes some awful replies.

I don’t think it’s anything too sinister op. I suspect the little girl doesn’t want dd now and the mum feels dreadful. Hopefully your text will open her up now.

Delphiniumandlupins · 03/08/2024 13:43

Good message OP. Hope she gets back to you soon.

TartanJambo · 03/08/2024 13:41

This mother is being extremely unfair not getting back to you. I'd be frustrated and getting angry in your position.

Hope you hear from her soon. Leaving you in limbo is just plain inconsiderate

Apolloneuro · 03/08/2024 13:40

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:38

What point?

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That some people’s secret hobby is being unnecessarily unpleasant.

banality101 · 03/08/2024 13:40

Well I would (and have) have let my DC go on holiday with adults I know and trust. FFS some posters are acting like you are planning to traffic her.

YouLookLikeStevieNicks · 03/08/2024 13:38

Some of these replies are awful and so judgemental. You know your daughter best OP, please ignore the horrible responses.

I hope you hear back from her soon.

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SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:38

Apolloneuro · 03/08/2024 13:37

Point proved.

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What point?

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Apolloneuro · 03/08/2024 13:37

Jazzjazzyjulez · 03/08/2024 13:36

I wouldn’t let my 5year go away for a week with my own mother, who has known him since birth. Never mind someone I’ve known 2.5 years and see occasionally.

Point proved.

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