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To think she's gearing up to cancel?

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SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 08:02

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

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whereisthelifethatirecognize · 03/08/2024 16:46

Hope your daughter has a brilliant time, OP.

FrancisSeaton · 03/08/2024 16:40

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Christ on a bike - do you have nothing better to do on a Saturday afternoon?

M103 · 03/08/2024 16:31

I thing you are getting a hard time here OP. Hope your daughter has fun with her friend!

MissFahrenheit · 03/08/2024 16:30

Well done OP…. Partly for sorting out the issue but mainly for the way you’ve handled the judgemental critics you’ve had responding to you on this thread. I hope your DD has a fabulous time.

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SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 16:20

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Aye I bet you will, because you've clearly got nothing better to do with your time than to keep coming back to this thread.

Why couldn't you just give your opinion and move on? It's a bit weird..

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Easipeelerie · 03/08/2024 16:14

£300 is an awful lot to pay for a 5 year old’s part of a holiday. Are you certain she’s not using you to part fund her holiday?

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mummyofhypeeDD · 03/08/2024 16:10

@SunflowerMabel
My daughter went to a residential with rainbows at 5 and had a great time.
This trip to butlins will be fun for your daughter , you've paid for the dining so there will be food she enjoys, and she will have so much fun she won't have time to miss you. Both your DD and her friend will enjoy each others company. There are some very judgmental people on here but you know your DD best

mummyofhypeeDD · 03/08/2024 16:07

@SunflowerMabel

Leafygreen84 · 03/08/2024 16:01

Wisterialily · 03/08/2024 15:57

I really think she is too young and this is too much for her. Whether she intended to cancel or not I would not send her. Is there any way you can go?

Sorry but how the fuck do you know?? You’ve never even met this kid 😂😂😂

Wisterialily · 03/08/2024 15:57

I really think she is too young and this is too much for her. Whether she intended to cancel or not I would not send her. Is there any way you can go?

twentysevendresses · 03/08/2024 15:56

bakail · 03/08/2024 13:50

So you're going to be a dreadful mother and let her go? Grin

ffs is there any need for that?? Really?? The child is going to Butlins with a friend, not being sent to a prison camp! 🤦‍♀️

Hope your daughter has a fabulous time OP 🥰

Leafygreen84 · 03/08/2024 15:55

Op Ignore the hysterical responses here. Every kid is different, every family is different. You know your daughter best. A couple of days at butlins will be a lovely experience for them. If she’s unhappy you can always collect her. Hope she has a fab time!

FrancisSeaton · 03/08/2024 15:54

I'm glad you've heard back and it's all going ahead they will have a great time
And as for the so called perfect parents on here and what they think take no notice she will have brilliant memories of a lovely trip

Grmumpy · 03/08/2024 15:44

They will both have a lovely time. Lots of fun and friendship.

mcmooberry · 03/08/2024 15:41

Thank goodness it's going ahead, my children at 5 would have loved to do this, not too young at all imo!

mummyofhyperDD · 03/08/2024 15:38

@SunflowerMabel
I completely understand why you would arrange this for your DD so she could have the experience of going to butlins with her friend. We go to butlins often with friends and if DD wanted to take a 5 year old friend who wouldn't otherwise be able to go because of the additional needs of a sibling I wouldn't hesitate to take them

MeAgainAndAgain · 03/08/2024 15:30

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What?

wutheringkites · 03/08/2024 15:26

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How well does this scam work out for you?

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pikkumyy77 · 03/08/2024 15:23

Jazzjazzyjulez · 03/08/2024 15:08

I think it is pretty clear from this thread that most parents would not be.

Everyone can make their own calls obviously but I absolutely would not be an hour away from my kid for a week with someone I had only known 2 years.

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Thats odd.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 03/08/2024 15:18

OnAndOnAndonAgain · 03/08/2024 13:57

Don't let what people on here think change your mind

If you are happy that she'll be well looked after and have a great time let her go

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Many people here we've just being ridiculous and making things up eg one poster claimed it's a WhatsApp relationship lol.

This is what happens when we can't apply common sense and just call or reach out to confirm rather than coming to mumsnet first.

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 03/08/2024 15:16

Chipsahoy · 03/08/2024 15:09

Stop blaming your adhd. My boys and dh have adhd so I understand how it can affect you but you seem to be leaning on that as an excuse. You cannot send your child away with this woman whether she cancels or not. My youngest is your child’s age, the Mind boggles.

Of course she can, stop being so dramatic.

I hope your daughter has an amazing time.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 03/08/2024 15:16

I know you've already paid for food and board, if it is possible, a little bit of spending money would be lovely maybe enough for both ( or all as you don't say if there is siblings going too ) to have an ice cream - if you allow ice cream, or to spend in to amusement arcade.

and if you can afford it, a little gift for Mum upon their return ? maybe wine / flowers / scented candle

Differentstarts · 03/08/2024 15:14

Jazzjazzyjulez · 03/08/2024 15:08

I think it is pretty clear from this thread that most parents would not be.

Everyone can make their own calls obviously but I absolutely would not be an hour away from my kid for a week with someone I had only known 2 years.

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But the op didn't ask or need your permission to do so. The fact you don't even trust your own mother to look after your kid suggests to me your surrounding by pretty shitty people so unfortunately your kid will miss out on these experiences to gain independence. But other people have great relationships with others so can offer this to their children

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