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AIBU?

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To think she's gearing up to cancel?

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SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 08:02

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

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JLM1981 · 03/08/2024 19:48

Josette77 · 03/08/2024 19:29

I have more faith in ds being well taken care of by friends than by grandparents.

I hope DD has a fabulous time!

These responses are so bizarre to me...

People seem extremely paranoid. OP is an hour away. Her DD can come home if needed.

Nothing about this sounds irresponsible or extreme.

And as for sn's parents, that's a huge range. I'm one myself. That means I have experience with my ds. People chiming in about their own experiences is not beneficial to OP. We don't know her experience.

I've met parents who have it much harder than me, and parents that have it much easier.

OP letting her daughter have a nice time doing something they can't do as a family is awesome.

This. Some of the responses on here are a bit much. Good luck OP I hope you get a response back. It sounds a bit anxious wondering what's going on x

Airtentmamma23 · 03/08/2024 19:46

My nephew has stayed for up to 6 weeks at a time away from his Mum every year (he lives abroad, we don't see him between). He's staying 40 days and asked if he can stay 80 days next time. He's 7...

Kids are different. The mum is dbs checkedand works for police, long-ish term friend and dd is happy to go. I think it's fab. Enjoy! (P.s. I'm much more concerned about beavers camps honestly as you gave no idea who the helper parents are).

pictoosh · 03/08/2024 19:44

Runnerinthenight · 03/08/2024 18:47

Well if there is, I do hope you will do all of us a favour and stay off it.

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Yep.
I wonder who was mean to you today @brightyellowflower?
Happy people don't talk to strangers like you have to OP on this thread. You haven't got a clue who you're talking to.

"But we know some people shouldn't have children."
Bleurgh...how determinedly nasty. I won't forget your username.

Hope she has a great time OP. xx

Runnerinthenight · 03/08/2024 19:39

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 19:28

Thats made my day 😂

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Happy to oblige!! 😂

Marseillaise · 03/08/2024 19:33

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It really doesn't have red flags all over it. Someone whose job is literally safeguarding children, who has looked after OP's child overnight a number of times, is taking her to a child-friendly resort with her own child of the same age. Nothing is totally risk-free, but you have to have a VERY large magnifying glass to find the red flags around that.

Josette77 · 03/08/2024 19:29

I have more faith in ds being well taken care of by friends than by grandparents.

I hope DD has a fabulous time!

These responses are so bizarre to me...

People seem extremely paranoid. OP is an hour away. Her DD can come home if needed.

Nothing about this sounds irresponsible or extreme.

I've met parents who have it much harder than me, and parents that have it much easier.

OP letting her daughter have a nice time doing something they can't do as a family is awesome.

Marseillaise · 03/08/2024 19:29

SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 13:38

What point?

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Maybe that some people round here make ludicrous claims about not trusting others to look after their children. Unless there is some specific history relating to @Jazzjazzyjulez' mother, why would anyone not trust their children to the person who managed to keep them alive to adulthood?

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SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 19:28

Runnerinthenight · 03/08/2024 18:47

Well if there is, I do hope you will do all of us a favour and stay off it.

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Thats made my day 😂

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NoNameNoOne · 03/08/2024 19:07

Hope your daughter has a lovely time! Glad it's all resolved x

BowlOfNoodles · 03/08/2024 18:59

Sorry you've had such harsh messages op!

KeepYaHeadUp · 03/08/2024 18:58

Glad it worked out OP. I'm sure your daughter will have a lovely time!

Runnerinthenight · 03/08/2024 18:47

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Well if there is, I do hope you will do all of us a favour and stay off it.

My3dahliasarebloominlovely · 03/08/2024 18:45

Brilliant. Your daughter will enjoy it I'm sure, and you aren't too far away. Of course you worried a bit when you didn't hear back, that's understandable. Glad all is well.

gavisconismyfriend · 03/08/2024 18:42

I hope your DD has an amazing time!

RisingSunn · 03/08/2024 18:30

I’m happy you’ve got a response OP.
I know some people have been snipey, but those people have raised some good points.
You have never been fully convinced of the trip and to be fair I believe she has ignored you for a week.

My only thoughts are - don’t be so overjoyed by a response that you push your inner reservations down.

Schoolchoicesucks · 03/08/2024 18:30

Glad it's all resolved and hope your daughter has a great time.

Cherandcheralike · 03/08/2024 18:27

It'll be fine, they'll have a lovely time.

AlarminglyAwful · 03/08/2024 18:06

I hope DD has a great time.

I have a couple of friend’s DCs/DCs friends I’d happily take away with us who are of a similar age so I don’t think it’s that odd tbh. (Conversely though, I barely trust (ASD) DS for more than a couple of hours because there are very few people that I know could handle him at his worst)

Ilovemycatalot · 03/08/2024 18:05

I see nothing wrong with your dd going hope she has a lovely time.

despiteappearance · 03/08/2024 18:04

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