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To think she's gearing up to cancel?

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SunflowerMabel · 03/08/2024 08:02

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

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Frenchsplit · 05/08/2024 09:43

There are a lot of posters on MN who haven’t left their child for a night until they’re grown up- it’s bonkers

Monkeysatonthewall · 05/08/2024 09:36

pictoosh · 05/08/2024 08:07

'Give your head a wobble' is a pointless expression anyway. I'm not sure why it has caught on so much here. It doesn't mean anything.

It's my pet peeve. Haaaaate it but it certainly helps identify a certain type of people here 😂

OneForTheRoadThen · 05/08/2024 09:32

I'm surprised by a lot of these responses about OP's child being too young to go away with a trusted friend. I'm a beaver leader and we take a group away every year, all between ages 4-7. Of course it depends on the child but the vast majority love it and usually don't want to go home.

I think it sounds like a fantastic trip OP and i hops your daughter really enjoys it.

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It is. And often delivered as though it's the last word in having the last word.

The only head-wobbling I can imagine is a little flourish of self-satisfaction as the poster hits 'post'.

AuntMarch · 05/08/2024 08:35

I hope they get/got off OK and you are feeling more relaxed OP!

I wouldn't send my 5 year old off... because he's only just done his first sleepover at a grandparents and would hate it. But he isnt your daughter! It is amazing how many posters don't recognise that different people in different circumstances can make a different right decision!

Theimpossiblegirl · 05/08/2024 08:34

She'll have a lovely time. My DD used to go with friends to their caravan at this age. Two is easier than one as they are company for each other. She always had such fun.

Ignore the naysayers. I can't actually believe the horrible things some posters are saying and I've reported a few, as have others. You sound like a great mum.

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SunflowerMabel · 05/08/2024 08:28

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Oh gotcha, poor wording on my part then. They very much do like each other 😁

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Of course they do but they're only 5.5, they're not going to be able to arrange their own days out or go alone are they?

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Chaoseverywhere · 05/08/2024 08:21

The trip sounds fantastic and you sound like a great mum. I hope she has a wonderful time!

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pictoosh · 05/08/2024 08:07

'Give your head a wobble' is a pointless expression anyway. I'm not sure why it has caught on so much here. It doesn't mean anything.

Monkeysatonthewall · 05/08/2024 07:35

Marseillaise · 04/08/2024 23:43

She hasn't admitted she doesn't know the woman. She said she's known her for about 2.5 years, the children have had sleepovers as well as dozens of days out together, and on several occasions the woman has taken has taken her (OP's) daughter out on her own without her mum for day trips etc.

Why on earth do people come on here and make up their own facts purely to give themselves something to attack the OP for?

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Exactly.

I don't know why but each time anyone uses 'give your head a wobble' as part of their 'advice', you can just tell they're not a nice person 🙈
They're the sort of people that feel better about themselves by coming here and criticizing everyone's lives and choices.

Lovingsummers · 05/08/2024 07:16

Some friends can be the family you wish you'd always had. I wouldn't have sent my child away at that age with anyone (probably more a me thing) but I know people who have sent their children off with aunts and grandparents and cousins. My mother would have done it. I hope your DD has a lovely time.

burninglikefire · 05/08/2024 07:10

A lovely update OP - sounds like she will have a great time!

PrettyParrot · 05/08/2024 07:05

I bet she has a fab time OP :)

BowlOfNoodles · 05/08/2024 06:30

Buddhalover · 05/08/2024 05:50

This is first time on MN and frankly I've been shocked and disgusted at some of the comments and replies on here!
So, it might have sounded a bit flakey regards the arrangements, but really, some of the attitude absolutely stinks! Glad all is well, and DD will get to go on a little holiday, that I'm sure she will love and benefit from. Also, if things should go tit's up, then not too far away to collect. Good luck.

I actually felt uncomfortable reading this thread it was brutally harsh! Especially suggesting It was because she can't cope with having a sens child so it dumping her child! NO Sandra what she means is having a sens child affords her less opportunity to treat her daughter to trips!

MBM18 · 05/08/2024 06:28

I don't reply on threads too often but OP you sound absolutely lovely. Unfortunately due to one of your children having SN your family life is going to be different to others on here so you continue doing what you think is best for you and your family! It's so easy for others to say they'd never send their child when they're not in your position (I also have a 5 year old DD).

I think someone already mentioned young carers charities but I wanted to recommend one, obviously not sure where you're based and if they can help, but take a look at HoneyPot.

Buddhalover · 05/08/2024 05:50

This is first time on MN and frankly I've been shocked and disgusted at some of the comments and replies on here!
So, it might have sounded a bit flakey regards the arrangements, but really, some of the attitude absolutely stinks! Glad all is well, and DD will get to go on a little holiday, that I'm sure she will love and benefit from. Also, if things should go tit's up, then not too far away to collect. Good luck.

SecretWitch · 05/08/2024 02:15

I think your dd is going to have a fab time!

Let us know how she got on ( if you feel like updating)

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