To think she's gearing up to cancel?

Honestly. If they're happy to have her go with them and she's happy to go, let her go.

"Just pick the goddamn phone up like an adult and communicate.

Actually thinking about it, 15 years ago I worked as a manager and had quite a few 16/17yr olds working for me. When they phoned in sick, they got their Mums to ring. Erm, excuse me, you don't work for me, your 16 yr old does, put them on the phone. I starting to realise these 16/17 yr olds are now all grown ass women incapable of communicating properly!"

Someone who writes "pick up the goddamn phone" and "grown ass women" accusing others of not being able to communicate properly.

Fucking hilarious 🤣 "grown ass women" sounds like a shit TikTok reel

So u say I'm lying and it doesn't happen?

Is she local? Can you pop round?
I would try withholding my number and then calling her…. Just in case she’s not answering as she recognises your number.
I would ask calmly if there is a problem and if there is then you need an immediate refund.
It does sound a bit suspicious to me…

Quite. Also, anecdotes are less than helpful in this instance.

It's very bizarre that this mum is blanking you despite having booked a holiday for a few days time and taking your child. Could it be that something serious has happened in her life and this holiday is no longer in her immediate thoughts? Or is she really so mean that she's decided to cut you out and just doesn't have the guts to be straight about it? No one is just too busy to not drop a text with updates etc. whatever the reason OP I do think the best thing to do is make the decision yourself that your daughter isn't going and take all this wondering and worry away. I hope you're okay. Some of the messages on here have been pretty brutal and not necessary.

But it's not been a resounding no, far from it and you're being beyond hysterical.

@despiteappearance ok apologies I didn't mean you're 'trolling' in the sense that you're making anything up - but you're just jibing at the OP and being unpleasant and unhelpful.

And this is a genuine question to anyone else this applies to...

What on earth is with this , I'm not ringing them, generation? When did this start?

Just pick the goddamn phone up like an adult and communicate.

Actually thinking about it, 15 years ago I worked as a manager and had quite a few 16/17yr olds working for me. When they phoned in sick, they got their Mums to ring. Erm, excuse me, you don't work for me, your 16 yr old does, put them on the phone. I starting to realise these 16/17 yr olds are now all grown ass women incapable of communicating properly!

Same silly women who send a messenger on FB to say I"m outside. I love replying with, Well knock on the door then and I will answer it.

That's not the point. The point is that it's not " too young" for kids to go away at that age as some of the posters on here are bleating about.

The lack of contact is a different matter and very rude

Have you actually rung her yet @SunflowerMabel ??? The hours are ticking by. Today is almost half over!

What got my back up is the accusation that I'm shipping her off because I'm not coping with my disabled child. Why would you say that when there is nothing to indicate anything of the sort?

Plenty to indicate that and honestly, I don't know anyone who truly copes with their disabled children - it's great to have a break whether it's from them so you can be 'normal' and not high maintenance for a little while or to send the neurotypical child off somewhere so you aren't feeling guilty about them missing out and having to cope with a disabled sibling all the bloody time.
My own DD is going away for a week next week . Difference is, she's going to my parents. And she's not 5. And my parents will happily pick up the phone and keep me informed as much as needed.

The scary part about all of this is you've had an inital thread asking should you even do it - resounding 'NO" you shouldn't.

Now you're posting and again ignoring feedback. And ignoring your own gut instinct, which is there for a reason.

Don't wait. Cancel it yourself on the grounds she doesn't respond to you and you don't feel 100% confident you will be able to relax whilst she's away. I wouldn't even be arsed about the £300 at this point. You're in danger of being in the papers for '5 year old child goes missing whilst on holiday with schoolfriend' territory. Christ, even my gut instinct is screaming don't send her and I don't even know you!

OP's child isn't too young to go away with family or friends if everyone is happy about it. I certainly wasn't at that age, and nor were most of my friends. It gives countless children opportunities to do things they otherwise couldn't do and is frequently better than just sitting at home because parents work/have other responsibilities/no money to do things/etc.

I wonder if this mum is not answering you because you’ve asked about details in your first message but she hasn’t worked them out yet. It’s no good, absolutely not, and does put her in a different light but it’s still might be ok eventually. She might be somewhere else until today evening. Some people are very easy going in terms of travel and packing.
I would text her and put plainly that you are really worried about no response from her.

I’m sorry you are getting grief off some people OP. I think it’s a lovely thing both you and your friend are trying to do for your daughter and am keeping my fingers crossed that everything works out for you.