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Neighbours using our drive as their path

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Peedoff24 · 02/08/2024 19:19

We live in adjoining terraces, both with driveways. All other houses in our terrace have walls or hedges between them. We don’t but there is a decorative border type thing to delineate them. So it’s very obvious when you step off their property into ours.

They fit 2 cars onto their driveway but this is only possible because we don’t have a wall. They need to open their car door across our drive to be able to get in and out. This I don’t mind.

However, because it’s a squeeze to get between their cars they and their visitors, deliveries etc use our drive as a pathway to get to their front door. It’s got to the point that people literally step out of their door, step over the decorative stone thingy and then walk across our drive to the street.

We have a ring doorbell so get alerted every time somebody does this. It’s now got to the point that our drive is used as their pathway even when they only have one car parked and therefore plenty of space on their drive.

These are neighbours that don’t acknowledge my presence if we see each other since I complained when they had builders dumping rubbish on part of our garden.

WIBU and petty to go and buy some trellis and put it up to stop them from doing this? It would also mean they’d have to rethink their parking!

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PermanentlyFullLaundryBasket · 02/08/2024 21:23

SaintHonoria · 02/08/2024 21:11

It's trespassing.

Can we all come round yours for a little walkabout in your drive?

Absolutely. Happens all the time round here. But because I like the people I live next to, and view life as too short to play these sort of stupid games, I am quite chilled about it.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 02/08/2024 21:23

We have OSP for two cars but only have the one .
No fences but the paving is different so you can tell which house .

If you stop them parking two cars will they end up with one on the road? Would that not be more annoying ?

If they reverse in, the driver is getting out onto your side or the passenger is ?

You could always tell them you;ve put weedkiller or chemical down "I don;t want it getting on your shoes and into your house"

pizzaHeart · 02/08/2024 21:15

Sunnydiary · 02/08/2024 19:49

I doubt a trellis will stop them. A proper fence or wall is what’s required here.

This ^
I think you might get yourself in a difficult situation with a trellis as it won’t stop them entirely, you need something to make going into your garden impossible - and that means fence.

Pombearprincess · 02/08/2024 21:13

Also let them carry on doing this for several years then try to reclaim it, you might want more space in the future, and it'll be worse.

IncompleteSenten · 02/08/2024 21:13

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 02/08/2024 20:54

Why can’t they stop being bad neighbours? Why is it always on the person at the receiving end to keep the peace 🤨

Absolutely.
Pisses me right off that it always seems to be suck it up and let thoughtless people carry on being arses. Why?
Particularly when as in ops case, they won't even bloody acknowledge her! Fuck that.

SaintHonoria · 02/08/2024 21:11

PermanentlyFullLaundryBasket · 02/08/2024 20:54

Turn off the Ring notifications except for the doorbelll? Because they are really annoying anyway.
I can't see it is hurting you other than a phone chirping. And it isn't worth falling out with someone that you live cheek by jowl over.

It's trespassing.

Can we all come round yours for a little walkabout in your drive?

Zimunya · 02/08/2024 21:10

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This is brilliant! Love it.

ChockysChimichanga · 02/08/2024 21:09

PermanentlyFullLaundryBasket · 02/08/2024 20:54

Turn off the Ring notifications except for the doorbelll? Because they are really annoying anyway.
I can't see it is hurting you other than a phone chirping. And it isn't worth falling out with someone that you live cheek by jowl over.

I didn’t want to fall out with my neighbours. I just didn’t want their guests to continually use our drive to get to their gate because he chose to have a huge car which took up the whole of his drive.

And it’s fucking annoying to have strangers constantly walking up the middle of your drive and in front of your window to access your neighbour’s gate.

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ButterCrackers · 02/08/2024 20:54

Install the tallest fence allowed asap

PermanentlyFullLaundryBasket · 02/08/2024 20:54

Turn off the Ring notifications except for the doorbelll? Because they are really annoying anyway.
I can't see it is hurting you other than a phone chirping. And it isn't worth falling out with someone that you live cheek by jowl over.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 02/08/2024 20:54

HeddaGarbled · 02/08/2024 20:27

Don’t start a stupid enmity with your neighbours over something that’s no skin of your nose. You’ll regret it.

Why can’t they stop being bad neighbours? Why is it always on the person at the receiving end to keep the peace 🤨

Mirandawrongs · 02/08/2024 20:50

another vote for put a fence up.
3ft is enough of a deterrent but you can go to 6ft.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 02/08/2024 20:31

billybear · 02/08/2024 20:17

im the end house open plan small front garden, was totaaly fed up dogs pooing/kids riding accross our lawn,etc etc. b and q black metal clips together fence, amazing ,stopped the lot.some people evan asked why i put it up,get your boundry back,

Sounds like the same fence we were about to put up because of the same issue. We couldn't sink it into the ground, so I devised a way of using railway sleepers with the fence on them. Juuuust about to buy them & the horrible neighbours moved out.😄🎉🍾

BruceLikesCake · 02/08/2024 20:31

Fence it off!

HeddaGarbled · 02/08/2024 20:27

Don’t start a stupid enmity with your neighbours over something that’s no skin of your nose. You’ll regret it.

CatMum27 · 02/08/2024 20:27

Another vote for a fence or some other permanent boundary. As long as it’s on your property there is nothing they can kick off about, although I suspect they will try. Good luck!

Chipsahoy · 02/08/2024 20:25

We had similar. We put in trough style planters with spiky plants. That soon stopped them.

BenchyMcBenchFace · 02/08/2024 20:18

Aah, GIVE US A DIAGRAM!!

billybear · 02/08/2024 20:17

im the end house open plan small front garden, was totaaly fed up dogs pooing/kids riding accross our lawn,etc etc. b and q black metal clips together fence, amazing ,stopped the lot.some people evan asked why i put it up,get your boundry back,

Noshowlomo · 02/08/2024 20:05

Fence asap

Eckythumpand · 02/08/2024 20:03

Fence x

Blushingm · 02/08/2024 20:01

Diagram - cos I'm thick and can't picture it

PollyPeachum · 02/08/2024 19:53

Good fences make good neighbours.

Sunnydiary · 02/08/2024 19:49

I doubt a trellis will stop them. A proper fence or wall is what’s required here.