what sort of wedding band would fit with this engagement ring?

allthehillsandallthetrees · 2024-08-02T14:19:42+00:00

Would like some suggestions or input from those more savvy than me about jewellery as I am struggling to find a wedding band that can fit alongside my wedding ring. It is a low setting so I can't really get anything that will sit underneath it, as it were, unless very thin indeed. If I go for a thicker band then it sits so far below my engagement ring and leaves a large gap. Is a spacer ring an option? Wear it on a different hand? Any other ideas? I would prefer to avoid a wedding band that has an atypical shape or one that is designed to fit around the ring as I would like something more traditional.

Blingismything · 02/08/2024 21:45

You could practice with a cheap silver band before you decide. Here are a couple of photos of a similar set up.

what sort of wedding band would fit with this engagement ring?

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 19:47

Pinkypinkyplonk · 02/08/2024 17:43

Honestly@allthehillsandallthetrees your engagement ring is absolutely beautiful and should stand alone. Move it to your other hand. Get a wedding band which you love, maybe matching, which you could add an eternity ring to in years to come…..

I think I will wear wedding band on right hand (I am right handed) and keep engagement ring on left hand given that emeralds are a softer stone than others (diamonds for example) so would prefer to wear on non-dominant hand.

Thanks again!

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 19:44

Pinkypinkyplonk · 02/08/2024 17:43

Honestly@allthehillsandallthetrees your engagement ring is absolutely beautiful and should stand alone. Move it to your other hand. Get a wedding band which you love, maybe matching, which you could add an eternity ring to in years to come…..

Thank you that's really kind of you. I love it, and feel very lucky to have been given such a beautiful ring, especially one with history (not that I know what the history is!). Yes I am going with this - it has been decided - will move it to the other hand.

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 19:42

Cherrysoup · 02/08/2024 17:32

Neither are my real engagement/wedding rings as both far too big, but the amber ring just out and therefore isn’t swallowed under the wedding ring. I wonder if you could resign the ring so it’s the other way round? The shape is awkward and I know what you mean by wearing an atypical shape wedding ring on its own.

Thank you for the picture. It's a possibility, I am going to look into it, but as it's such an old ring I am reluctant to play around with the setting. If it was modern then I would have no hesitation.

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Pinkypinkyplonk · 02/08/2024 17:43

Honestly@allthehillsandallthetrees your engagement ring is absolutely beautiful and should stand alone. Move it to your other hand. Get a wedding band which you love, maybe matching, which you could add an eternity ring to in years to come…..

Cherrysoup · 02/08/2024 17:32

Neither are my real engagement/wedding rings as both far too big, but the amber ring just out and therefore isn’t swallowed under the wedding ring. I wonder if you could resign the ring so it’s the other way round? The shape is awkward and I know what you mean by wearing an atypical shape wedding ring on its own.

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 16:59

stclair · 02/08/2024 16:46

Different shape but had same problem. A jeweller made the wedding ring which is attached to the engagement ring so all in one now.

Another fantastic idea. Thank you for your suggestion! 100% going to look into this. You have a lovely ring - I bet it's super sparkly with all those diamonds!

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 16:58

UnashamedLabelHo · 02/08/2024 16:41

have you tried on a normal band? Sometimes it will just work together and the cluster will go over the band naturally.

tried to show you but I can’t take a very good photo! Edited to add that my engagement ring is not very tight so I can get my wedding band under so sizing could cure your issue of things not fitting beneath.

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Wow what a beautiful ring! I like this very much. Yes I have tried on a couple and whilst they sort of fit, they don't fit as well as I would like. They rub.

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stclair · 02/08/2024 16:46

Different shape but had same problem. A jeweller made the wedding ring which is attached to the engagement ring so all in one now.

UnashamedLabelHo · 02/08/2024 16:41

have you tried on a normal band? Sometimes it will just work together and the cluster will go over the band naturally.

tried to show you but I can’t take a very good photo! Edited to add that my engagement ring is not very tight so I can get my wedding band under so sizing could cure your issue of things not fitting beneath.

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 16:39

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 02/08/2024 16:37

Some inspiration here but they are more contemporary in style.
https://shaunleane.com/collections/engagement-ring-sets

Two wedding rings [bit pricey in platinum but cheaper than gem set] one to wear with a recess to fit your beautiful emerald, and a second band for occasions when you don't want to wear your engagement ring.

These are truly beautiful! A little out of our price range though. Good food for thought, I guess I could always ask a jeweller to make something similar

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 16:38

PangolinPan · 02/08/2024 15:47

My friends spacer is a thin gold ring from an antiques/cheap shop with a space that the jewel fits in C shaped rather than O, then her wedding ring is under that. Just means that her wedding ring can lie flat.

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I have found some nice spacers! thanks

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 02/08/2024 16:37

Some inspiration here but they are more contemporary in style.
https://shaunleane.com/collections/engagement-ring-sets

Two wedding rings [bit pricey in platinum but cheaper than gem set] one to wear with a recess to fit your beautiful emerald, and a second band for occasions when you don't want to wear your engagement ring.

Shaun Leane - Stackable Diamond Engagement Ring Sets

Modern, Romantic and Unique. Shop our statement Diamond and 18ct Gold Engagement Ring Sets from the House of Shaun Leane.

https://shaunleane.com/collections/engagement-ring-sets

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 16:10

UnashamedLabelHo · 02/08/2024 15:59

you can buy wedding rings to shape round your engagement ring.

pic attached is of gemset wedding bands but you can have them made just plain.

cropped so a bit peculiar!

Concerned about the way it will look when worn independently of my engagement ring, is what I meant.

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 16:05

UnashamedLabelHo · 02/08/2024 15:59

you can buy wedding rings to shape round your engagement ring.

pic attached is of gemset wedding bands but you can have them made just plain.

cropped so a bit peculiar!

I am just not a fan of these sort of shaped wedding bands and would prefer something more classic. Thank you for your suggestion anyway!

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UnashamedLabelHo · 02/08/2024 15:59

you can buy wedding rings to shape round your engagement ring.

pic attached is of gemset wedding bands but you can have them made just plain.

cropped so a bit peculiar!

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:59

JudgeBurrito · 02/08/2024 15:42

I mean it's got a large diameter, as opposed to being like a little solitaire diamond that's easier to pair with a wedding ring. It's quite Kate Middleton, what sort of wedding ring did she go for? (Just googled and it looks like hers sits under the engagement ring but is very thin)

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Oh I see, yes I suppose it does. Just had a look at hers as well - she seems to have chosen a thin and relatively inconspicuous band. I think this might be the way to go. Similar ish style. Thanks for your suggestions.

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:56

PangolinPan · 02/08/2024 15:47

My friends spacer is a thin gold ring from an antiques/cheap shop with a space that the jewel fits in C shaped rather than O, then her wedding ring is under that. Just means that her wedding ring can lie flat.

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Thanks!

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:55

Anewuser · 02/08/2024 15:38

I had a similar problem so just changed the engagement ring to the other hand and had my wedding band with tiny diamonds in it.

This seems like my best bet so far I think. Thanks

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PangolinPan · 02/08/2024 15:47

allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:34

Thank you for this. I know I mentioned a spacer in my OP but I have not seen a spacer before. Is it just any ring used for the purpose of spacing or is it a specific category / type of ring?

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My friends spacer is a thin gold ring from an antiques/cheap shop with a space that the jewel fits in C shaped rather than O, then her wedding ring is under that. Just means that her wedding ring can lie flat.

JudgeBurrito · 02/08/2024 15:42

allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:39

I don't know that it is as big as it looks in the photo. I think I just have fairly large hands!

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I mean it's got a large diameter, as opposed to being like a little solitaire diamond that's easier to pair with a wedding ring. It's quite Kate Middleton, what sort of wedding ring did she go for? (Just googled and it looks like hers sits under the engagement ring but is very thin)

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:39

JudgeBurrito · 02/08/2024 15:28

Yeah just go into an independent jeweller's and ask their advice. It's quite a big engagement ring so maybe a thin wedding band would look nice. You'll want something in the same metal though so the softer metal doesn't wear.

I don't know that it is as big as it looks in the photo. I think I just have fairly large hands!

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Anewuser · 02/08/2024 15:38

I had a similar problem so just changed the engagement ring to the other hand and had my wedding band with tiny diamonds in it.

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:37

sesquipedalian · 02/08/2024 15:24

My daughter has precisely the same problem. Some of the “atypical” wedding rings are quite pretty - you can get one that has diamonds in the curvy bit under the ring. If you are dead set on a traditional shape, then get whichever wedding ring you like best, and once married, wear your engagement ring on your other hand. Then get DH to buy you smoother, flatter ring to go with your wedding ring as an anniversary/ first baby/ significant birthday present.

I am still not sure about the other shapes, but I will keep an open mind during the search.

I like your suggestion re a smoother flatter ring later down the line. Will consider this.

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allthehillsandallthetrees · 02/08/2024 15:35

OldTinHat · 02/08/2024 15:24

You need to pop to a jewellers who make rings to order.

I had an engagement ring with an odd shape and had a jeweller make my wedding ring to fit and, then, a bit later, an eternity ring when I had DC.

Thank you!

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