Am I being too precious about baby nap timings at nursery?

Honestly, I would prefer a nursery that gets the babies outside every afternoon to one that sticks rigidly to multiple different nap schedules.

My little boy started at 11months and was still on 2 naps a day. I let them manage it however they needed to as he was full time. Just after he turned one he started to drop the morning nap and that was around 6-8 weeks later so he was around 13 months old and I would say he was ready to drop the nap so you might find they drop it anyway.

I’d say it’s all part of starting nursery, nursery will work with you to some extent but every nursery I e worked in all babies go for a nap after their lunch which is approx 12.30pm.

at 2.30pm most nurseries have their babies out a walk , doing activities or having snack.

id play it by ear, some children’s routines totally change when they start nursery as they are far too nosey to go for a nap while he room is so busy.

I think that if you're going to outsource childcare to a multi child setting (and there's nothing wrong with that - I did too) you're going to have to get used to their routines. They can't possibly tailor nap time for every child.
Your baby will soon get used to the new routine.

Try for a first nap 9-9.45 or 9.30-10.15

May then nap at 12.30 and perhaps for 2 hours

Possibly a little nap on the way home too

Yes it’s not ideal having to wake them after 45 min but as pp says they are not going to nap well if they are out of sync with the other babies, plus this routine (short morning nap longer lunch one) works better for transitioning to one nap later on

My son was transitioning away from two naps when he started nursery. They aim for a lunchtime nap but quite a few days they'd say he couldn't last and had been for a morning nap. Sometimes it would happen in the pram in their garden but it would see him through then he'd nap again in the afternoon. He has moved towards one nap and has adapted quite well, although doesn't get the same amount of sleep overall as he did on two naps. At the weekend, he still tends to need two naps - a short morning catnap then a long early afternoon nap.

My DS started nursery before he was one, and they would put him down for a morning nap, but after a couple of weeks he refused to go to sleep if he knew everyone else was still playing. He'd probably have kept a morning nap for longer if he hadn't been in nursery, but I think nursery was the catalyst that encouraged him to drop it sooner because of his FOMO. Your DD is approaching the age when she's likely to drop a nap anyway, so it may not ending up being a huge problem. And when she drops the morning one, she'll be ready for the afternoon one a bit earlier.

The no afternoon nap thing is probably because they want to be able to take the babies out for little outings in the afternoons and if one baby has to stay in nursery to nap, they wouldn't be able to do it.

This was our situation and we had no option to change nurseries as all the rest of the nurseries around us were absolutely dire. Is your DC going full time? Mine went 3 days per week and ended up dropping the morning nap at nursery but kept the two naps going at home until she was around 18months. We tried to support longer sleep overnight to compensate as well and managed to get her sleeping until 7.30am which helped. I think that it would have been harder to manage if she was FT at nursery as the home / nursery balance is different. In my experience, they very quickly get into the nursery routine and adapt to what the other children are doing.

I'd say it's part of going to Nursery. Very quickly the morning nap would get dropped, even at home. Normally they get shorter, so asleep 9.30 wake at 10.30, then make them shorter. More sleep as they grow, isn't necessarily a good thing. It's good that the Nursery aren't just expecting an older baby to still sleep most of the day.

Id use a different nursery, your baby will need two naps for a good while yet and dropping it early isn't going to be easy or fun for anyone. It's against her natural rhythm. It sounds like a small nursery setting if they are all in together, mine has different rooms and spaces for different ages and run different schedules. That way they tend to have a very similar routine to everyone else and things like toilet training happen on our schedule not theirs.