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Am I selfish to consider having a child alone?

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Mildredpettigrew · 02/08/2024 12:37

I'm not good at getting men to want to date me/have a relationship with me unfortunately despite being considered attractive, nice and so on.
So I've accepted it may never happen.

It feels kinda hurtful to see all the married couples and children and consider that they may never happen, but that's how it is.

I've dated lots, they just don't feel the spark. I've tried my best, I'm very slim, attractive, have hobbies, financially independent, kind, told I'm funny, intelligent etc. They just don't feel a spark.

I know having a baby alone is controversial. I may have to look into other alternatives, because meeting someone may well never happen for me.

OP posts:
Edingril · 02/08/2024 12:41

It's not about you think of it from the child's point

MrsSkylerWhite · 02/08/2024 12:40

How much time will you be able to spend with the child?
If they are in full time childcare, with just one parent who isn’t with them much, I’d say not ideal.

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Mildredpettigrew · 02/08/2024 12:39

completeworks · 02/08/2024 12:38

I really have sympathy with wanting to do this.

I struggle to square the idea of bringing someone into the world purposefully denying them their father.

Children tend to need both their parents, ideally.

I get that.

So because I'm failing to attract a man, I should probably consider the rest of my life alone then.

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completeworks · 02/08/2024 12:38

I really have sympathy with wanting to do this.

I struggle to square the idea of bringing someone into the world purposefully denying them their father.

Children tend to need both their parents, ideally.