To think 'no spark' means absolutely nothing?

I must have too much time on my hands today as I was genuinely sat trying to figure this out 😂

Nonsense. No one is obliged to be forensically accurate as to their reasons for not wanting to see someone again.

No spark is exactly the reason most people get dumped

There has to be chemistry

I don't think it's generic rubbish. It's just a more nuanced form of "I don't fancy you".

If you say "I don't fancy him" people assume you mean you don't find them good looking or something turns you off sexually.

Whereas to me the "spark" is a more all-round connection. It's about looks and subconscious body language etc but also about your compatibility in conversation and shared passions. Something that makes you really want to see them again, rather than being indifferent.

I don’t get what you want to get out of this?

If it’s someone telling you “they don’t feel a spark” then take it on the chin and move on.

If its say a friend saying they felt no spark with someone else - what do you want? Them to slate the person they were dating? To sate your interest?

I have been married neatly 20 years now
But I dated for years
I dated one guy for about 3 months and there was zero spark on my side

By the end of it he was irritating the fuck out of me ,even the way he breathed made me want to slap him ,he hadent done anything specifically wrong though
Obviously I couldn't tell him how I really felt as that would have been plain nasty
So I went with the whole it's not you it's me ,I'm not ready for a relationship just yet type conversation ,as it seemed kinder

I know 😂should have put from different directions. I knew what I meant 😂

It helps keep the spark alive?

Agree with this too! Although why are you going home in different directions?! 😂

I would use "no spark" if I found someone's conversation dull, because they weren't playful or witty. Humour is so important because it demonstrates intelligence and the ability to make abstract connections.

Even if you have similar interests to another person, it's possible to talk about them in a dull way, and I would find that off-putting.

I wouldn't then send them a message saying "sorry, but the conversation didn't flow and I see this as your fault and find you rather boring". That's just unpleasant. So "no spark" it is.

They definitely can - and do - last! And I see my DP every day and sleep in the same bed as him every night!

If someone is saying there’s no spark, then they’re saying they don’t find you attractive, or feel like you get on well or feel compatible.

People aren’t saying there’s no spark when they fancy someone, they’re sarong it when they don’t. Gut feelings and instinct are important when dating.

What is there to "believe" in??? 😂

When I was dating I went on several dates with men who were good looking, funny, generous, good family values / morals etc - basically perfect on paper. However there was no sexual attraction, hence, "no spark".

The first time I set eyes on OP I thought "Wow I really fancy this man and want to rip his clothes off" as well as everything else listed above. Hence there was a "spark".

True, sometimes it is developed over time the more you get to know someone, however it's not a lazy excuse at all. It's perfectly normal and reasonable.

But does it matter really, if you don’t feel like they are your person and you want to continue dating? Do we really need to hurt someone by saying “Your mum sounds awful, you smell awful and I don’t like your beard”

I didn’t feel the spark seems a better comment.

It’s basically shorthand for “I don’t want a relationship with you”.

It Could be for a million reasons. They find you attractive but but boring, they’ve met someone else they like a bit more, you smell funny to them, they don’t think your values align, they hoped you’d shag them and you didn’t,

I know someone who’s literally just said this to someone and while she foi f him objectively good looking - she wasn’t keen on his height. But you don’t say “you’re too short” you say “there wasn’t a spark”

Adding to my comment, you can have a spark with someone that you don’t find attractive. Some people don’t always go for their type or fall for someone they instantly find attractive.

It simply means ‘I have better options in play than you’.

“I just didn’t feel the spark between us” is basically a kind way of letting someone know that you did not have a romantic connection with them.

Finding someone attractive and getting on well doesn’t mean you will have a spark. There are probably many people you will meet in life that you get on well with and think are attractive/sexy, that doesn’t mean you want to date or marry them.

I do not know what you expect.

And there is no spark is just another way of saying I'm not attracted to you surely ?

Fair enough. But if it’s not about you, then why are you even bothered?

Also, butterflies can certainly last. I still have them seven years on. It does help that I don't see him every day, though, over every week even.

I’d imagine, as with most of us, you have friends who you know are objectively attractive men and women, and whom you have lots in common with and some sort of emotional connection - but you don’t want to bang them or have a relationship with them, and probably knew that right from when you first met them and started getting to know them. Sometimes it’s worth another date with someone you didn’t feel an immediate rush for, but sometimes you just know by the end of date one or two they aren’t somebody you’d see yourself having sex with or being in a relationship with.