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to ask why people still do not believe that Islamophobia doesn’t exist and therefore doesn’t need an official definition?

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AdvicePleas · 02/08/2024 00:43

This is a question for the general public , After the recent events , where a horrific unimaginable event that has left a community and parents shattered , reeling from the loss of their babies - the first thing that a significant group did was to attack who they thought were to blame.
and it was the Muslim community.
without verification , confirmation , the hatred was palpable -it was always there.

As a muslim ; every time something like this happens, I know all of us pause and are frightened whether the perpetrators are Muslim and - when they are not - then there are no fingers pointed to whether their religion is to blame for their actions.
the entire community isn’t put to trial.
I am so sad for the senseless loss that the parents and families are going through.
My heart goes our to them,
as my friend who is a hijab wearing Muslim said earlier today -thank god he wasn’t Muslim otherwise they would have come and killed us in our sleep. It hit me to the core how much some people hate us?
I feel this is an injustice to my 70 year old mother who prays 5 times a day, loves her god and has not harmed a single person in her life , my sister who is a confidant professional woman but will not travel out of multi cultural areas for fear of being attacked.

still the government refused to put an official definition for Islamophobia?
having grown experiencing huge levels of it in the early 90/ , I feel that those that do not believe that the Muslim community are hated by other for simply being Muslim are just ignoring it or are part of the problem .
I feel sad for my children , who don’t speak the language their parents speak, only belong to this country but look visibly different and belong to a religion that is hated so much and the government can’t protect them.

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VerySadCase · 02/08/2024 14:48

NewGreenDuck · 02/08/2024 14:39

And many Muslim women don't feel they have a choice. There is a huge amount of pressure on them to conform and wear hijab, with many threats or actual violence to women who don't conform. The same way that forced marriage or FGM is, apparently, illegal in the UK but still goes ahead. And, yes, I do realise that those are found in other cultures / religions. Men make the rules, it's still the case. Religion, all types, were founded, thought up by men, they made the rules.

Well, of course I don't support women not having a choice. Where that is happening, it definitely needs to be tackled. Just as all forms of misogyny and coercive control in our society need to be tackled.

But not all Muslim women are oppressed and being forced to wear the hijab. Many want to. I have one Muslim friend who chooses to wear it in spite of the protestations from her Muslim husband and Muslim father who worry that it will make her a target for racists. Do you want her choice to be taken away? Why does it bother you that she wants to wear a headscarf?

NewGreenDuck · 02/08/2024 14:44

They seem to manage it in France.

VerySadCase · 02/08/2024 14:42

Polarnight · 02/08/2024 14:39

Yes. I wish they'd not allow people to wear indecent clothes showing arse cheeks hanging out the back of shorts either.

Both - burqa or highly sexualised clothing is built around the needs and desires of men in the prevailing culture.

So you want the state to control what women wear. Who should be tasked with deciding what is and isn't suitable attire, I wonder? Will it be MPs, of which the majority are currently male?

Seems like you might have more in common with the Taliban than you thought...

Polarnight · 02/08/2024 14:39

VerySadCase · 02/08/2024 14:12

You support the state dictating what women can and can't wear?

Yes. I wish they'd not allow people to wear indecent clothes showing arse cheeks hanging out the back of shorts either.

Both - burqa or highly sexualised clothing is built around the needs and desires of men in the prevailing culture.

NewGreenDuck · 02/08/2024 14:39

And many Muslim women don't feel they have a choice. There is a huge amount of pressure on them to conform and wear hijab, with many threats or actual violence to women who don't conform. The same way that forced marriage or FGM is, apparently, illegal in the UK but still goes ahead. And, yes, I do realise that those are found in other cultures / religions. Men make the rules, it's still the case. Religion, all types, were founded, thought up by men, they made the rules.

VerySadCase · 02/08/2024 14:34

NewGreenDuck · 02/08/2024 14:26

Do you support religions telling women what to wear?

No, I support individual women making choices about what they wear.

I know lots of Muslim women who choose to wear the hijab and lots that don't. I think it's right that all should be able to decide for themselves.

RoyallyEFFEDOFF · 02/08/2024 14:26

Fairyliz · 02/08/2024 06:11

But how do you get to know ordinary Muslim women when they keep themselves to themselves, only want to mix with their own community, not allowed to come out for a drink etc?
It all adds to the feeling that they are different which scares people. Add this to the fact that there are some Muslim extremists who seem to hate Britain and want to destroy our culture. Can you really not see why people are wary of Muslims?

But then is that not our job to include Muslims and make activities for all
i.e in work places, schools etc, make sure any party or celebration is including those of different religion/race/culture
I can’t imagine it’s encouraging for Muslims who want to integrate if they feel left out of everything

NewGreenDuck · 02/08/2024 14:26

Do you support religions telling women what to wear?

VerySadCase · 02/08/2024 14:12

Sdpbody · 02/08/2024 08:54

I do believe all face/head coverings should be banned in the UK.

It also bothers me to see women and their daughters in full black swim wear that they must be boiling in, when their husbands and sons are there in a pair of shorts.

That is something I am strongly against.

You support the state dictating what women can and can't wear?

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Korblimee · 02/08/2024 09:02

HereBeFuckery · 02/08/2024 08:28

The poster who mentioned the IRA and pointed out that all Catholics did not feel the need to apologise for the IRA's acts has a great point.
By coalescing into a single, identified, named organisation, the IRA (not "Catholics") became the people blamed for those acts.

When extremists who act in a way they associate with Islam commit terrorism, they is no one 'THESE GUYS' organisation to blame. It was Al-Qaeda, then ISIS, then ISIL, then other names popped up and honestly, it's all a blur.

I think it's fair to fear extremists who want others dead. Since we don't have a name for all extremists who act in a way they associate with Islam (because they aren't an homogeneous group!) it becomes difficult to know 'who the enemy is', IYSWIM. The blame and fear gets transmitted onto the one identifiable characteristic - Islam.

Anyone who works with, is friends with, talks to, likes Muslims knows that Islam is not the problem, it's the extremists who do terrible things. But we don't know what to call those people, and they are amorphous and faceless, which breeds more fear and distrust. Islamophobia is the fallout.

This is so tragic, as the extremists acting in a way they associate with Islam (note, they are TO ME, not Islamic/Muslim/faithful, as they don't represent Islam in the true sense) presumably don't want negative consequences for the religion they associate with. Not to mention Muslims being tarred with the broad brush of 'those scary people I don't have a name for or concept of'.

Being able to ask questions and be honest goes a long way towards breaking down fear and distrust. It takes courage and curiosity.

This is an extremely helpful post. I have Muslim colleagues who I consider friends. Varying degrees of observance and some drink, some don’t. One used to join everyone for after work drinks and enjoyed virgin pornstar martinis.

But I am fearful of Islamic extremists and it’s unclear where extremism begins. I wouldn’t consider the 3 Islamic organisations who sued Charlie Hebdo in 2006 to be in anyway extremist but think their actions in the name is Islam encouraged more extreme reactions. France values its culture of free speech, who are they to challenge that in any name?

Dulra · 02/08/2024 09:02

Sdpbody · 02/08/2024 08:54

I do believe all face/head coverings should be banned in the UK.

It also bothers me to see women and their daughters in full black swim wear that they must be boiling in, when their husbands and sons are there in a pair of shorts.

That is something I am strongly against.

Any other items of clothing you would like to ban?

face/head coverings - do you want to ban hats? glasses, sunglasses?

ACynicalDad · 02/08/2024 09:00

There is a perception that many Muslims haven’t done anything like as much as Hindus and Sikhs to integrate and instead want to change the country to their ideology and culture rather than largely accept a largely tolerant liberal country. I am inclined to agree, unless that changes we will always have problems.

MauveCrow · 02/08/2024 08:55

Sixpence39 · 02/08/2024 07:53

What on earth are you talking about? Nobody is talking about blasphemy laws or whether or not religion is 'right'. OP is talking about mosques being burned and Muslims being attacked in the street because they are being scapegoated for crimes they have nothing to do with. Can you imagine how scary that would feel? Way to make it about you though.

You can't make laws against Islamophobia without making legitimate criticism of Islam illegal as well, as the line would be impossible to draw.

We already have laws against attacking people or property, and inciting people to attack people or property.

We do not need extra laws to make criticism of fairy stories illegal.

I hate all religion and my right to do so is also protected in law, banning Islamophobia would infringe on my rights, and would not be a progressive move.

I want to criticise people who bomb concerts, buses and tube trains. I want to criticise people who abused Jess Phillips(even though I dislike her politics) at her vote count. I want to criticise people who force teachers into hiding. I want to criticise people who send death threats to autistic children and their mother. Just as I want to criticise Catholic paedophiles, and Jewish supporters of genocide in Gaza.

Islam is a religion, it deserves no more protection in law than Alice in Wonderland, same for any other religion.

Sdpbody · 02/08/2024 08:54

I do believe all face/head coverings should be banned in the UK.

It also bothers me to see women and their daughters in full black swim wear that they must be boiling in, when their husbands and sons are there in a pair of shorts.

That is something I am strongly against.

cupcaske123 · 02/08/2024 08:53

speckledfrogg · 02/08/2024 08:49

Unfortunately, in both the Muslim and non-Muslim community this isn't the case.

Yesterday I took my daughters to a park which is outside of the area I live and in a majority white British community.

Two boys threw water bottles at me whilst I was leaving. I wear hijab so it's obvious I'm Muslim. They couldn't have been older than 11 or 12.

Honestly I was lost for words as I have never been a victim of discrimination or racism in my life.

Whether that incident was related to the murders or not, I don't know.

But as we've already seen far right groups are focusing on the attackers more than the victims themselves.

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. 💐

TipsyJoker · 02/08/2024 08:52

Chucklit · 02/08/2024 02:51

Bull fucking shit, they are not tolerant. I've had my nose broken for "being a goth", been spat at in the face several times, been slapped in the face in the street, had someone rub a burger all over my face, been chased several times with my heart absolutely racing with fear, I've been pulled backwards by my hair. I was egged from a passing car while heavily pregnant. People here are not fucking tolerant. I am 34. The disgust towards my appearance is still happening. What I have described is nowhere near what people up and down the country experience due to racism.
Now we're in balaclava thug land. I physically turn my head away from them walking down the street with my daughter so that they won't spot me and target us. We can't go shopping in our local town centre because balaclavas on bikes are daily assaulting "normal" people and the police can't control how widespread it is even there, nevermind across our region. Our biggest park, people are wary of going to, especially after dark. Merseyside. And the town centre is Birkenhead. Friends of mine have had to get dentures fitted after a thug punched out their front teeth. For looking different.
Tolerant my arse. I’m sorry for the long response but there is no fucking way I can let that slide without speaking up.
Do not assume that the whole of the UK is tolerant. I hope I've made it clear that it is not. This isn’t just a problem here, it's all over.

Some areas are of course worse than others, no-one is denying that and whilst what’s happened to you is inexcusable, it’s still a minority group of people. The majority of people do not behave like that towards others. Thats my point which you seem to have missed. If the majority of people were intolerant then you’d be experiencing these issues every day, all day long. Most people would condemn these actions of these people. That’s my point. Most people just want to get on with living their lives in peace and don’t care about other folks race, religion, appearance, etc. And if you look at the laws in their country, they are definitely trying to be progressive and to protect minorities. Hate crime laws, equality laws, etc. if you’d been able to identify and have these people who assaulted you arrested, then they would’ve been prosecuted because what they did was a crime and we do not tolerate that in the UK.

Dulra · 02/08/2024 08:51

NewGreenDuck · 02/08/2024 08:32

Well ISIS, ISIL and Daesh all mean Islamic state. So I think we can safely say they are Muslim.

They are extremist illegal terrorist organisations, there has been many over the decades from all walks of life not sure what point you are trying to make? or was your statement meant to be directed at a poster that you may have forgotten to tag?

speckledfrogg · 02/08/2024 08:49

allmyeffort · 02/08/2024 08:24

How about thinking of the three little girls who were killed rather than 'thank god he wasn't Muslim'.

Unfortunately, in both the Muslim and non-Muslim community this isn't the case.

Yesterday I took my daughters to a park which is outside of the area I live and in a majority white British community.

Two boys threw water bottles at me whilst I was leaving. I wear hijab so it's obvious I'm Muslim. They couldn't have been older than 11 or 12.

Honestly I was lost for words as I have never been a victim of discrimination or racism in my life.

Whether that incident was related to the murders or not, I don't know.

But as we've already seen far right groups are focusing on the attackers more than the victims themselves.

Dulra · 02/08/2024 08:48

HereBeFuckery · 02/08/2024 08:28

The poster who mentioned the IRA and pointed out that all Catholics did not feel the need to apologise for the IRA's acts has a great point.
By coalescing into a single, identified, named organisation, the IRA (not "Catholics") became the people blamed for those acts.

When extremists who act in a way they associate with Islam commit terrorism, they is no one 'THESE GUYS' organisation to blame. It was Al-Qaeda, then ISIS, then ISIL, then other names popped up and honestly, it's all a blur.

I think it's fair to fear extremists who want others dead. Since we don't have a name for all extremists who act in a way they associate with Islam (because they aren't an homogeneous group!) it becomes difficult to know 'who the enemy is', IYSWIM. The blame and fear gets transmitted onto the one identifiable characteristic - Islam.

Anyone who works with, is friends with, talks to, likes Muslims knows that Islam is not the problem, it's the extremists who do terrible things. But we don't know what to call those people, and they are amorphous and faceless, which breeds more fear and distrust. Islamophobia is the fallout.

This is so tragic, as the extremists acting in a way they associate with Islam (note, they are TO ME, not Islamic/Muslim/faithful, as they don't represent Islam in the true sense) presumably don't want negative consequences for the religion they associate with. Not to mention Muslims being tarred with the broad brush of 'those scary people I don't have a name for or concept of'.

Being able to ask questions and be honest goes a long way towards breaking down fear and distrust. It takes courage and curiosity.

The poster who mentioned the IRA and pointed out that all Catholics did not feel the need to apologise for the IRA's acts has a great point.
By coalescing into a single, identified, named organisation, the IRA (not "Catholics") became the people blamed for those acts.

That is not quite accurate, Irish people (not Catholics) were blamed and treated badly during the IRA campaign in the 70s and 80s, but they didn't look "Irish" they were white so weren't so easily identified. My aunt worked as a nurse in England she put on an English accent when on the bus and out in public because otherwise she would have been shouted at and verbally abused and she was scared. I still remember being in pub in London in the early noughties and having a group of drunk men crowding around me and screaming and shouting at me for all the trauma and disruption I had caused them living in London during their childhoods because of the IRA.

I do feel for Muslim people, no one should be scared or abused because of their faith or blamed for the actions of others, respect, tolerance and dignity would go a long way.

VerySadCase · 02/08/2024 08:42

stuckdownahole · 02/08/2024 08:41

The notion that Saudi Arabia "isn't properly Islamic" is such a ridiculous argument but it's advanced all the time.

It's such a cheap attempt to avoid confronting some hard truths.

Who gets to judge what constitutes "properly Islamic"?

stuckdownahole · 02/08/2024 08:41

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:27

depends on the country.

also just because a country has a lot of Muslims or calls itself islamic Republic of so and so doesn't make it islamic.

for eg. saudi is the most unislamic I can think of in the world. they say they have shariah laws, they don't. the basis of their existence is against fundamental islamic principals.

there is no country in the world as of right now that is an "islamic country"

The notion that Saudi Arabia "isn't properly Islamic" is such a ridiculous argument but it's advanced all the time.

It's such a cheap attempt to avoid confronting some hard truths.

VerySadCase · 02/08/2024 08:40

allmyeffort · 02/08/2024 08:24

How about thinking of the three little girls who were killed rather than 'thank god he wasn't Muslim'.

Why would you try to insinuate that the OP doesn't care about the three little girls that were so tragically killed?

Has it not occurred to you that the OP might be horrified by the murder of three young children and concerned about threats to her own community if the perpetrator had turned out to be Muslim? As we have seen, Muslims were targeted because of assumptions that the perpetrator was Muslim even when this was based on deliberate misinformation, so her fears seem pretty legitimate to me.

I wonder what your agenda was in this post? Were you trying to suggest that Muslim people wouldn't be upset about the murders of three innocent children? Or are you just so incredibly stupid that you are incapable of holding more than one thought in your mind at any one time, and you therefore assume that others can't do that either?

NewGreenDuck · 02/08/2024 08:32

Well ISIS, ISIL and Daesh all mean Islamic state. So I think we can safely say they are Muslim.

MrsBrightsidde · 02/08/2024 08:31

Polarnight · 02/08/2024 08:13

Specific laws in blasphemy just for their religion. Or did you miss that. That's what the OP wants.

Where did OP say she wants blasphemy laws for Islam? What I saw was a definition for Islamophobia actually is.