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FumingAintTheWord · 02/08/2024 00:12

I have a truly horrible manager and the one above her is just as bad. They bully people, are always on a power trip and out to get the loveliest members of the team. I'm leaving this team in the autumn so I've sucked it up but this week has been really, really hard and I was hoping for your light hearted stories of a manager coming unstuck ( nothing too awful! I don't wish badly on people ) to cheer me up. I just want to know it's possible that people like this don't get away with it forever!

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MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 03/08/2024 17:27

Senior manager joined, the previous manager was amazing. Really made you feel valued and cared for and he was madly missed.

New manager was vile, bullied my lovely manager relentlessly until she left (having worked for the business for over 20 years by that point) and was just passing all her work to the remaining managers below her. She dealt with a customer who made a blatant lie about me (could be proven, essentially said I had done something naughty at a customers house, but I lived 300 miles away and was in the office when this allegation was made) and instead of calling out the liar she apologised for my behaviour and attempted to reprimand me. Horrible woman..

Anyway, was clear she had lied on her resume and simply couldn't do the job hence delegating it all to everyone else. She ended up being asked to leave after a month, and we all breathed a massive sigh of relief.

CrappyManagers · 03/08/2024 17:19

I had a new-to-role line manager, who had 2 very different mentors - so you knew who she had been with by the way she treated you after. It was very disconcerting.

When she asked 'how i thought she was doing as a manager' I said to her 'that i was confused as sometimes I thought she was trying to be my best friend and at other times I felt she was micromanaging me'

She siad : ' I'm not your friend, and let me know when you think I am micromanaging you, and I will tell you why'

(totally outing to anyone who knows me, hence the name change)

ZittiEBuoni · 03/08/2024 17:07

Horrible bully of a big boss, who was also shagging my cold and unapproachable line manager - both treated the department like their personal fiefdom and were universally loathed.

One of the great days of my life was when the company director came into the office to explain, in hushed and ultra-serious tones, that the bully boss had been suspended and was being investigated for bullying. We all sat there stony-faced listening to his talk, at the end of which several of us RAN to the ladies and screamed with laughter until the tears ran down our faces.

He didn't come back, and his horrible side piece asked for a transfer too.

Ah, the satisfaction is coming back as I type. Justice is rare but so sweet.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 03/08/2024 16:53

Post uni, job that I thought would be my forever career. My lovely (but dippy and incompetent) boss was forced out by the director, who then brought in his friend (neither of whom had any experience in our type of work). Directors friend had me in his sights from the start, as I was about the only person competent and brave enough to challenge him when he was about to do something which would have been really inadvisable. Cue a campaign of bullying by him and director for months, culminating with me driving around the north circular one day and having to pull over because I was crying so hard I could not see the road. I resigned the next day. Our internal clients kicked up a massive storm, they had all seen what was happening and apparently had all been approached by manager and director who were looking for evidence against me (I had no idea that had happened). And clients had all said I was the only person who knew what I was doing in the team and they valued me highly. Anyway, about 6 months after I left, manager and director were fired, and what happened to me was cited as part of the reason.

5 years later I took on a consulting role with the company for 6 months between overseas postings. It was when bullying at work was beginning to be a recognized problem and I worked on the policy for this. Met the director at an event - he had gone on to be the head of our EAP company after being out of work for a long time, at a massive cut in salary. He had to acknowledge me, and we had a delightful conversation where I told him about the work we were doing on bullying, and he squirmed like a worm on a fishing hook. It was brilliant - over his shoulder I could see all the people who had been around at the time wetting themselves laughing.

Sharontheodopolodous · 03/08/2024 16:53

Narc boss (married to the nicest lady in the world)
He liked his staff young-the younger and prettier the better (I'm old and not pretty so my face didn't fit)
He would follow them around and make a pest of himself,would be a total wanker on a power trip with everyone and was just a downright nasty cunt
Loads of the girls complained to hr,but he'd then drag them into the office to give them a warning and nothing would be done about him
Loads of staff left but one day,he was standing next to me,not doing any work and making everyone's life hell by barking at them and making us all uncomfortable
He just suddenly walked out,sat in his car for an hour and drove off
Didn't come back to work for over a year and then put up a post on fb saying he'd given his notice to the bigger boss and would miss us all as we where 'his family'
Not one comment and when the leaving card came round,not one person signed it (I was on holiday that week but wouldn't have signed if I hadnt)
He pops in sometimes to see 'his family' and everyone scatters-not one of us speaks to him

Cerialkiller · 03/08/2024 16:13

Immediate manager (apparently he had got the job by changing his email signature to 'senior' and no one said anything so it stood) and one of the company directors were both awful to everyone in unique ways.

Immediate manager was manipulative and a narc, would shit talk everyone behind their backs and seed discord. Me and a friend only twigged by comparing notes. He was doing the same to management so making himself look great compared to us. There was a great rumbling at one point where some of this information got out and it started a snowball effect with everyone reporting the lies up to the directors. They were massive cowards who were still charmed by the man so they only moved him sideways and out of my department thank good. He was on the road most of the time and not getting his narc supply though so he was grumpy about it and complained whenever he was in.

Director was an even bigger disaster. He was a slimy arsehole, afraid to compliment you incase you asked for a pay rise, made promotion and pay promises that he didn't keep, used any good performance to beat everyone else up with, any way. While I was there he was recently married to second wife after cheating on first wife (who had three young kids under 5 by him) so I was already wary of him. Second wife was nice enough and would get involved with company working sometimes.

Boss disappears for a few days, then comes in and moped around for WEEKs before we find out (via a shouted argument between boss and his co-director) that boss is moping because his new wife (the affair partner) was cheating on him and has run away to be with (hunky blond) him boss with their 9month old baby.

To make matters worse. They had been doing a tax reduction thing weren't they had put a large chunk of the company in second wife's name. In the weeks of moping, boss had been working up to telling his co-director that they would need to pay her off or sell the company. The shouting match was they say he finally admitted it.

Apparently other director, refused to take any of the financial burden of bosses decisions and as a result boss basically had to give new wife everything in the devorce to save the company. He lost 2 houses but was able to keep one car but not much else.

MrHarleyQuin · 03/08/2024 16:11

There was one partner in a law firm I worked for who I saw really yelling at junior staff several times - which I found shocking and unacceptable at the time. A few months later he was hospitalised with an ulcer, then never came back to the firm afterwards.

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 03/08/2024 16:05

Awful bullying boss. Told people he hoped my DD died when she was tiny and in hospital. Got fired for fraud then became a raging alcoholic as work was literally his life. It couldn't have happened to a nicer guy

ThatsGoingToHurt · 03/08/2024 15:56

Had a Head of HR who was useless. He was nicknamed ‘Teflon’ by the business as the he never did any work but was a master of dumping work into other people. To make it worse he was constantly dumping work on me and bitching to others about me. He made numerous derogatory comments about younger female member of staff. However, the MD saw through him and wanted to get rid and his role was made redundant and he was shunted into the central HR team. After 6 months it was announced he was leaving (we all suspected he was being given the shove). An email went round to the whole HR team about signing a card and a collection. No one responded. He was the only person in 10 years who I knew left without a present and a gift as in his 18 months with the company he had managed to piss everyone off with his laziness and his sexist comments.

Littlebluebird123 · 03/08/2024 15:35

Unfortunately I don't have one about the worst managers I've known. But one who was heading in that direction.
I requested a meeting via email as a particular decision they'd made hugely negatively affected me and another staff members safety and I wanted to explain that and find a way to go forwards. He was enraged that I'd made it 'formal' and called me into an immediate meeting. He basically told me off for questioning his judgement and that I should have just spoken to him. I pointed out he'd left the premises before I could so that's why I'd emailed. He told me I should never question him again. (Bear in mind, I didn't question him in front of anyone, I'd kept it private.)
Basically he was cross that I'd got it in writing as he knew he was wrong.
He continued to make snide digs and tried to make life difficult but I only had to work with him for another month so whatever.
A few years later he was in the news as he'd made a career ending move. Can't say I was sorry.

Hedgesgalore · 03/08/2024 15:10

Dd had a part time job through uni. Her manager was vile to her and she'd frequently come home quiet and on the last occasion crying and upset.

Dh spoke to her, gave her all the right things to say. Told her he'd be there if she wanted him, no would do it herself.

She went in and when the manager next started for no reason, she properly stood up to him. He backed down after that and she never had a problem again.

Dd looks angelic and is a very gentle sould but by god she has a backbone of steel.

Lilysgoneshopping · 03/08/2024 15:06

Section leader at a retail outlet. Nasty Bully to younger staff members. I didn't like her but she never bullied me because I was about 20 years older than her and took no shit.
Turned out she had given a large refund to a friend on an item that we didn't even stock.
A few colleagues including me gave a quiet cheer when she was sacked 😁

Muchtoomuchtodo · 03/08/2024 15:06

I had a new boss who was much less experienced than me. I didn’t mind that, I was very happy in my post and didn’t even consider applying for hers.

She was a real ‘Do as I say, not as I do’ person. She was constantly on at me for not doing as much work as some of the others on the team - they were full time, I was 2.5 days a week and I was given a lot of the more complex work due to my experience.

She made my working life miserable. I recently left and now have a really lovely manager, several others have too. I’m still waiting for fate to bite her on the bum!

justpeachy1234 · 03/08/2024 14:56

A new boss decided they hated me from day 1. I was perviously very well liked/ valued.

I found out they were holding interviews to replace me (I wasn't leaving) while creating this narative about how incompetent I was. I assume they were planning to push me out. Luckily I knew someone who they offered an interview to and I was able to report it to HR.

I got a huge settlement to leave quietly.

I found out a few weeks later that the boss didn't pass probation and was sacked with no notice 🤣🤣🤣 the perfect karma!

Trinity69 · 03/08/2024 14:49

I once had a manager who after being uncontactable for the day, a colleague and I made an executive decision, which he then decided was wrong. He took his glasses off and screamed in my face. I cried but didn’t leave.
I worked with his wife’s cousin who could obviously do no wrong, even when eating Thai soup for lunch and sweating and having a runny nose all over the office. 🤮
I once mentioned to a colleague that I thought he smelt of booze but he thought it was his aftershave. Spoke to HR about how much of an arse he was and they said it was ok because he occasionally took us out for breakfast. Eventually left.

Turns out he was a raging alcoholic who got caught drink driving and as a result lost his job. Literally couldn’t have happened to a nicer fella.

WearyAuldWumman · 03/08/2024 14:47

By chance, I was there the day my bully was escorted from the building.

FumingAintTheWord · 03/08/2024 14:45

FumingAintTheWord · 03/08/2024 14:44

I love that she got promoted over you HAHAHA

You got promoted over her** even!

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FumingAintTheWord · 03/08/2024 14:44

nodogz · 02/08/2024 06:36

My ex-manager was an absolute head case and out of her depth. A truely unpleasant person who was a bully.

Before she came to my department some of her team came up with a genius idea to get rid of her. They all (say 15 team members) threatened to resign if she came back to her job after maternity leave - so she had to be shifted sideways. Anyway she thought this was hilarious and wasn't mortified!

She did try to bully me but I just grey rocked her until she got bored. Then I got promoted over her which drove her crazy. For years people reached out to me for advice on how to stand her.

Looking back she was living a very sad life outside of work. Not an excuse but an explanation

I love that she got promoted over you HAHAHA

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FumingAintTheWord · 03/08/2024 14:43

CormorantStrikesBack · 02/08/2024 06:37

The police turned up at work one day and arrested my manager and assistant manager for embezzling money out the company. Both went to prison, one is now a financial director for the local county council which makes me laugh.

another bullying manager was escorted out the building by security. She was vile, regularly made people cry. Someone whistleblew and after there was a fact finding set of interviews that was that, marched out and sacked.

Omg this is crazy! The first bit is so satisfying but the second is mad do the council know!?

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FumingAintTheWord · 03/08/2024 14:43

ElfAndSafetyBored · 02/08/2024 06:59

One of mine was marched out of the building one morning, never to be seen again. It was great.

A family member had a boss who bullied her because she has refused his advances at a Christmas party. When she finally went to HR they told her lots of people has reported his behaviour on her behalf but that they needed her to do it. They sacked him on the spot.

Always report bullying behaviour to HR (if you have one) - if enough people do it, these people are more likely to get dealt with.

I love this so much.

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ElfAndSafetyBored · 02/08/2024 06:59

One of mine was marched out of the building one morning, never to be seen again. It was great.

A family member had a boss who bullied her because she has refused his advances at a Christmas party. When she finally went to HR they told her lots of people has reported his behaviour on her behalf but that they needed her to do it. They sacked him on the spot.

Always report bullying behaviour to HR (if you have one) - if enough people do it, these people are more likely to get dealt with.

CormorantStrikesBack · 02/08/2024 06:37

The police turned up at work one day and arrested my manager and assistant manager for embezzling money out the company. Both went to prison, one is now a financial director for the local county council which makes me laugh.

another bullying manager was escorted out the building by security. She was vile, regularly made people cry. Someone whistleblew and after there was a fact finding set of interviews that was that, marched out and sacked.

nodogz · 02/08/2024 06:36

My ex-manager was an absolute head case and out of her depth. A truely unpleasant person who was a bully.

Before she came to my department some of her team came up with a genius idea to get rid of her. They all (say 15 team members) threatened to resign if she came back to her job after maternity leave - so she had to be shifted sideways. Anyway she thought this was hilarious and wasn't mortified!

She did try to bully me but I just grey rocked her until she got bored. Then I got promoted over her which drove her crazy. For years people reached out to me for advice on how to stand her.

Looking back she was living a very sad life outside of work. Not an excuse but an explanation

DancelikeFredAstaire · 02/08/2024 06:17

I had a manager who, for reasons I still can't fathom, hated me. Every thing that went wrong was somehow my fault. I reported him for bullying but was told that until I had proof then nothing could be done. Anyway 1 day I was hauled up to his office where him, his boss and HR wanted to discuss a serious error with one of the orders that had been sent out. As my manager continued to blame me I asked when the mistake had happened to which he replied " 10 days ago". When I calmly pointed out that not only was I on A/L at the time I was half way across the world so how could I have possibly been at work when the mistake happened. Both his boss and HR looked at him and his boss asked him if it was true. Cue lots of spluttering and back tracking. I was told to leave the meeting but the next day was called back to HR to discuss the bullying accusations and the manager was demoted and moved to a different site. I left soon afterwards but the last I heard he had been sacked for "gross misconduct"

Alanisadick · 02/08/2024 02:11

When I was a teenager working in Wimpy, of all places, my manager was an absolute twat. Literally had no life outside of Wimpy, would work all the hours he could. Money started going missing and for a short while upper management believed it was me, as it only happened on days I was working. But the only other person working on all those days was twat manager. Basically he was trying to frame me and look like the hero for finding the money hidden around the place all the time. Annoyingly I can’t remember how they clocked that it was him, but they did, and he was dismissed immediately. Little bellend.

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