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To having been born in the 1970s and see how much the world has changed?

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Deeperthantheocean · 01/08/2024 23:23

Yes, so a '70s child so have lived through everything beyond the days of MN world, with advice and experiences of parents and grandparents.

I feel so fortunate to have embraced technology. I am in awe of how the world has been revolutionised it as mostly to the greater good of mankind in many ways.

Just from a personal perspective, I feel it's so sad that the school playgrounds we used to go to to play the sports with our friends are all now barricaded, the youth clubs we went to and had a 10p drink and 12p bag of crisps for a night our aged 13, also the innocent early 1980s school discos we did just dance and had fun with our dowdy outfits. My Mum made me a rara skirt from an old skirt to look more modern, amazing talent among so many others.

So, back to my title, oh boy the works has changed so much! My generation knows how much our parents' generation had it hard and those before then so much harder. Poverty was working to be able to work and buy food on rations, that was women also.

Now we do generally have to work as parents but please don't forget our Mums and grandmother's also did, but after looking after children. Unsociable hours, after hours, basically anytime husbands were home to listen out for anything.

OP posts:
user1471516498 · 03/10/2024 19:00

All of this sepia toned nostalgia is making this 1970's person feel like a right old gimmer! 50 is the new 30!

Ringlet · 03/10/2024 18:47

Floatlikeafeather2 · 14/08/2024 00:19

I think you're a bit confused, OP. I was born in the 50s and it was my grandmothers who had the drudge of bringing up families on rations, doing war work etc. My mother was 8 when the war began and 14 when it finished. You seem also to have forgotten the 60s and the huge women's lib movement and how that affected our lives. I was at university in the 70s and started my family in the early 80s and I have never been downtrodden as a woman. I agree that, as a general rule, we have so much to thank our lucky stars for, but you seem to have got your generations in a real muddle.

I was born in 1972 but my mum born exactly same time as yours 🤣

Ringlet · 03/10/2024 18:46

Teenagerantruns · 03/10/2024 18:40

I was born in 1967, think it was a great time to grow up, loved the youth clubs of the 70', walking home from school and playing out until dark. love the Internet and my mobile now but appreciate growing up without it, having to make plans in advance, before my parents to let me use home phone(which was weirdly always in the cold dark hall).
I was even thinking today that the year l spent travelling in1989 is so different to my kids experiences, we basically got on a plane and wrote home once a month, now it's a daily whatsapp

Ah another Gen X er who remembers free break time milk!! 💪

your year of birth was great for music btw - Massachusetts, anyone?

Ringlet · 03/10/2024 18:44

Deeperthantheocean · 01/08/2024 23:23

Yes, so a '70s child so have lived through everything beyond the days of MN world, with advice and experiences of parents and grandparents.

I feel so fortunate to have embraced technology. I am in awe of how the world has been revolutionised it as mostly to the greater good of mankind in many ways.

Just from a personal perspective, I feel it's so sad that the school playgrounds we used to go to to play the sports with our friends are all now barricaded, the youth clubs we went to and had a 10p drink and 12p bag of crisps for a night our aged 13, also the innocent early 1980s school discos we did just dance and had fun with our dowdy outfits. My Mum made me a rara skirt from an old skirt to look more modern, amazing talent among so many others.

So, back to my title, oh boy the works has changed so much! My generation knows how much our parents' generation had it hard and those before then so much harder. Poverty was working to be able to work and buy food on rations, that was women also.

Now we do generally have to work as parents but please don't forget our Mums and grandmother's also did, but after looking after children. Unsociable hours, after hours, basically anytime husbands were home to listen out for anything.

Omg I was born in 1972 and can relate to di much of this

Anyone remember free school milk at break times then suddenly having it taken off is circa 1980?

Just 3 TV channels ?

I remember it all 🙌

Teenagerantruns · 03/10/2024 18:40

I was born in 1967, think it was a great time to grow up, loved the youth clubs of the 70', walking home from school and playing out until dark. love the Internet and my mobile now but appreciate growing up without it, having to make plans in advance, before my parents to let me use home phone(which was weirdly always in the cold dark hall).
I was even thinking today that the year l spent travelling in1989 is so different to my kids experiences, we basically got on a plane and wrote home once a month, now it's a daily whatsapp

Floatlikeafeather2 · 14/08/2024 00:19

I think you're a bit confused, OP. I was born in the 50s and it was my grandmothers who had the drudge of bringing up families on rations, doing war work etc. My mother was 8 when the war began and 14 when it finished. You seem also to have forgotten the 60s and the huge women's lib movement and how that affected our lives. I was at university in the 70s and started my family in the early 80s and I have never been downtrodden as a woman. I agree that, as a general rule, we have so much to thank our lucky stars for, but you seem to have got your generations in a real muddle.

MissingMoominMamma · 13/08/2024 23:55

Deeperthantheocean · 02/08/2024 01:27

Apologies, thread's point was do we all realise how lucky we are and appreciate how hard life was for our parents and grandparents?

Hence, ours have been made so much easier in so many ways with technology but also means you can never be a second away from being contacted.

So, good old days (not forthgoing with the abuse that went on) when it took so much longer to do everything, or now everything is so fast and everyone is in a hurry.

Have just been watching Life on Mars so got me thinking. Xx

I love Life on Mars. I remember getting quite tearful with nostalgia the first time I watched it.

I was too young to realise how shit the 70s really were- for me it was long summers and mum at home. Even the power cuts were exciting for a child.

MissingMoominMamma · 13/08/2024 23:51

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I remember crisps being 2 and 1/2p a bag, and I was only born in 1966!

Engagebrain · 03/08/2024 19:31

I'm just concerned that all this technology is leading up to revealing we've been living in a simulation!

Pussycat22 · 03/08/2024 19:09

The world will go on without us. We are all insignificant really.

Jeannie88 · 03/08/2024 18:58

taxguru · 02/08/2024 09:48

Yes, agree with most of that. I had a horrendous time at secondary school due to bullying which made me suicidal and turned me from a straight A* pupil at 11 years old into leaving school after failing all my O levels and CSEs. I truanted just to avoid being kicked and punched by the bullies, not to mention regular fag end burns on my arms! I know bullying is still a problem, but these days it seems to be more of a mental thing which (I know some will disagree) isn't as bad as being kicked and punched and burned on an almost daily basis!

Once I escaped that hell hole, I taught myself (and via evening classes) my O levels and A levels. It was hard because I had to borrow books from the library which wasn't easy as I was working full time in a crap job (due to no qualifications!) and couldn't afford to buy my own text books etc., so struggled with limited resources.

I'd have moved hell and Earth to have had access to the internet where I could do research, download free resources, view reference books, etc. It annoys me that we now have such brilliant resources at our fingertips yet choose to use them to watch brain numbing tik tok videos etc!

I completely agree with you here. Undiagnosed behaviour was just seen as naughty. Also, domestic violence, open racism and sexism, so many inequalities ignored 🙁. Society has moved forward for the better in most ways with protection laws. Xx

mondaytosunday · 03/08/2024 06:45

Discos were in their heyday in the 70s so not surprising you went! I remember buying chocolate bars for 10c but everything was cheaper! There weren't any youth clubs where I grew up.
The playgrounds in my local parks are open and recently refurbished.
Sure there are things one looks back at fondly but there was also the energy crisis and war.
I do think people are aware of how previous generations had it - my mother was born in the 1920s and worked, as did all her older sisters (one a doctor and one a lawyer even).
Children don't have any responsibility or the drudgery of adulting - I'm sure my kids will be feeling the same about the 2010s as you do about the 70s when they are our age.

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/08/2024 06:40

Octomingo · 02/08/2024 09:20

I think a lot of this depends on personal experience too.

I was ridiculed for having the 'wrong' clothes in primary in the 90s. Mocked for having cheap trainers/wrong brand coat in high school in the 90s. No social media then.

Didn't need social media to knock my self esteem either- other kids were perfectly capable of doing that. Magazines and TV provided lots of opportunities to compare yourself and find yourself wanting.

Yes sm can be dangerous, but kids are well versed in how unrealistic it is than adults often realise.

I agree as a child of the 70s. At 5 I was sent to school on group photos day in a much loathed hand me down t-shirt while some of my classmates wore the much coveted non compulsory uniform. It wasn’t a money issue. My mother just didn’t care about my appearance and I blamed myself. Most, pretty much all parents, including middle class parents were neglectful but today’s standards.

As for youth clubs at 13, no deffo not me. At this age I was starting to do bits and bobs with boys. By 14 I went to the local pub, mostly on special occasions eg NYE etc and did a bit of clubbing, especially on holiday. Down the Veronica’s in Tenerife at 14 getting free drinks all night from the bars, objecting to the midnight curfew my parents imposed and back home occasionally smoking cannabis. I bought my first packet of cigarettes on holiday at 14 and by 15 I was getting pissed down the pub once or twice a week.

I do have nostalgia for some of it. The freedom we had, which at times was actually quite dangerous. My 16 yo dd is so so sensible it’s unreal. I see some of the less sensible kids. A couple of boys a year older than dd and I feel quite protective of them as they get talked about like oddities when in fact their behaviour would have been run of the mill back then. One of them fancies my dd and turned up outside our house about a month ago trying to see her late at night but she was in bed and refused. According to dd’s friend they’d had quite a bit to drink. Idk if that was true but this to me is the sort of teenage behaviour much more normal in my era, not the sensible rigid rules of today mixed in with cancel culture.

tuvamoodyson · 03/08/2024 05:37

AinmEile · 02/08/2024 14:14

Why be so rude? You could have disagreed politely.

Exactly! ‘It’s not my experience, so you’re wrong!’ Probably all those drugs….

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 03/08/2024 03:50

I'm a late 70s baby. Home life wasn't great but one thing I will always be incredibly thankful for is that social media didn't exist when I was at school. I was bullied and life was hell but it would have been far, far worse with the Internet.

I do think the Internet has changed life for the worst, although there are of course benefits.

dottiedodah · 03/08/2024 03:32

I'm a child of the 60s.yes life is very different. For me it's things like hung for murder, being illegal to be gay ,and poor girls having to give up their babies if they weren't married. Thankfully much better now. From a personal view playing out, walking to school.

ATenShun · 03/08/2024 03:31

stonebrambleboy · 03/08/2024 03:16

I went to grammar school in 1969 the 11plus gave working class kids a chance to improve their lot. University grants enabled so many to access further education.
I signed up for a mortgage aged eighteen ( as a student nurse we were paid while training ) with my twenty year old fiance, unheard of now.
The only drugs I ever saw were at the hospital.
Happy days.

The 11 plus gave some kids a great start. For the rest of the population it inevitabely meant a second class education. I just missed out on the 11 plus by a couple of years, but know people who came into their own during their teens. They had been written off by the education system pretty much before they left primary school.

stonebrambleboy · 03/08/2024 03:16

I went to grammar school in 1969 the 11plus gave working class kids a chance to improve their lot. University grants enabled so many to access further education.
I signed up for a mortgage aged eighteen ( as a student nurse we were paid while training ) with my twenty year old fiance, unheard of now.
The only drugs I ever saw were at the hospital.
Happy days.

Gogogo12345 · 03/08/2024 00:50

Treesnbirds · 02/08/2024 20:14

Those round tomato ball crisps I think were 8/10p at our tuck shop- one of my fondest memories! 😁

Ugh they were awful

Persiancouscous · 02/08/2024 21:07

IDontHateRainbows · 02/08/2024 20:05

Apart from the IRA and smoking, not much has changed!

Just differences vaping and different terrorism. The world hasn't changed really. No point looking back with rose tinted spectacles

keffie12 · 02/08/2024 20:57

60s baby here! Borderline late boomer/gen z.

It had a lot of sh*te too. No, my childhood wasn't happy. I was bought up on affluent neglect/abuse.

However, let's look at all the external stuff. Sexual abuse was unrecognised. Corrupt policing, womens aid only started in the 70s.

They weren't wonderful times. It's life as it was then. Just as today, there is good and bad, so there was then.

No, I wouldn't want to go back. My life only started to improve when I finally left the ex in 2000.

FloralPunk · 02/08/2024 20:18

13p for a mars bar in 1979 in pur school tuck shop

Treesnbirds · 02/08/2024 20:14

Those round tomato ball crisps I think were 8/10p at our tuck shop- one of my fondest memories! 😁

IDontHateRainbows · 02/08/2024 20:13

FaintWhistle · 02/08/2024 15:33

Actually yes.

I think you make a good point here.

Same in my social circle. It was normal back then for a guy in his late 20s to be picking a 15 year old up for a date

Theres a lot of suppressed trauma

I remember a friend of 14 having a 28 year old boyfriend. She was the envy of us all as he whisked her off to Paris one weekend, parents fully approving.

IDontHateRainbows · 02/08/2024 20:05

Persiancouscous · 01/08/2024 23:48

Everyone striked in the 70s, power cuts, no bin collections etc.

Poverty were people didn't have carpets, shoes, nicked each others milk.

Everyone smoked, the average age of death was much younger.

Ira and bombings/ shootings

Sounds like a dream 😂

Apart from the IRA and smoking, not much has changed!