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Quick. Please help.

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Curiousto · 01/08/2024 22:15

Would you date a guy who thinks it's great that a 19yr old he met on a plane 15 years ago gave him a blowjob in the airplane seat?

He was 40 when this happened. They ended up dating for 3 months.

He's 54 now. He thinks it's something to be proud of.

I've got an 18 yr old daughter. I'm feeling rather repulsed.

I've been on several dates with him. Getting on well. Now this has come out and I'm wanting to kick him off the sofa in my home that he's currently sitting on next to me.

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Sublunar · 01/08/2024 22:32

Curiousto · 01/08/2024 22:28

Blanket. Overnight flight. Dark. They were on the two seats at the back of the plane.

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The back of the plane? Where the toilet is and where cabin crew hang out?

Thatcat · 01/08/2024 22:32

Do you really need to be asking this?
Gross.

ItsTheGAGGGGGGGG · 01/08/2024 22:31

I don’t understand why people feel the need to share these things when dating. Keep that bullshit to yourself at the very least

Ecstaticmotion · 01/08/2024 22:31

No. Maybe if he recounted it as a story that made him go and do a bunch of therapy and work on himself, boundaries, power, respect etc but recounted in any other way: no.

Juliet194 · 01/08/2024 22:31

I doubt that actually happened.

But whether it did or not, bin him off!!!

If it did actually happen, then...
Yes it's gross that she was 19 and he was 40.
It's rank that they did that in public.
Why on earth did he tell you? I don't want to hear about my current partners past sex life.

I would be tempted to make up a story about the time you had a threesome with two 6ft French men with six packs, how it was the best night of your life etc etc, and then send him on his merry way and never speak to him again.

SalemsPot · 01/08/2024 22:30

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WandsOut · 01/08/2024 22:30

No excuses - bin him now before you find all the "barely legal teen" porn on his laptop.

TinkerTiger · 01/08/2024 22:29

No.

Unless it was his private jet.

I’m joking. No.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/08/2024 22:29

Gross.

CatchHimDerry · 01/08/2024 22:28

🗑️

Pipecleanerrevival · 01/08/2024 22:28

Ew

UnbelievableLie · 01/08/2024 22:28

It's a weird bullshit story to make up to try and impress someone - he sounds short a few braincells

Bettysnow · 01/08/2024 22:28

Ugh he's vile!

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Curiousto · 01/08/2024 22:28

Saltedbutter · 01/08/2024 22:26

Ew. But how?

Blanket. Overnight flight. Dark. They were on the two seats at the back of the plane.

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HowardTJMoon · 01/08/2024 22:27

Ick

Isthatascratchonmygrandmother · 01/08/2024 22:27

Hard pass

MonsteraMama · 01/08/2024 22:26

For god's sake every time I think the bar can't get any lower...

No of course I wouldn't date him, I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire.

Saltedbutter · 01/08/2024 22:26

Ew. But how?

WandsOut · 01/08/2024 22:25

Disgusting - get rid of him.

FlakyGreyEagle · 01/08/2024 22:25

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VeryQuaintIrene · 01/08/2024 22:24

I mean, just...how, given how tightly everyone is packed in?? Is he really rich and could afford not to be in cattle class?! Anyway, yuk, of course.

whatkatydid2014 · 01/08/2024 22:23

How did that even come up as a topic of conversation? I mean I wouldn’t blame someone for getting a bit of a thrill over sex on a plane as I’m sure it’s something lots of people like the idea of but it seems such a weird thing to have shared with you and telling you the age of the woman he was with seems even weirder. I’d definitely also find that more than a little off putting.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 01/08/2024 22:21

Grim. Out he goes.

Bellatrixpure · 01/08/2024 22:21

it would a no from me.

sick

CryptoFascist · 01/08/2024 22:21

No, I'd be saying something along the lines of "Bob, that's really made me see you in a different light. Let's not see each other again"

How grim that he's still gloating about it 15 years later.
Why exactly would he think a woman that he's dating now would want to hear about his past sexual experiences? You're not one of his guy friends.