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AIBU about parents moving away

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Kakakate · 01/08/2024 20:16

So back story, I have a 3 month old DD and a single mum. I moved to where my parents are located when I found out I was pregnant because I wanted to be close to my support network.
Both of my parents seemed really happy for me to be moving to them and excited for them to be around DD when she was born.
fast forward a few months and they’ve just announced they are going to move to the Isle of Wight.
They moan when they haven’t seen DD in two days, but they are moving like 8 hours away now?
AIBU to be annoyed by this? I feel a little smacked in the face by it, I can’t fathom opting to move that far away from my DD and granddaughter at this age if I was to have one in future?

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EmeraldRoulette · 01/08/2024 20:31

Do you think the plan was already made when you moved?

Menolady · 01/08/2024 20:30

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable as they should have told you this was a possibility before you moved closer to them.

Is the Isle of Wight somewhere you’d consider living too?

Interl0per · 01/08/2024 20:29

It's really not that easy to commute to/from IoW, especially with young children. This was a problem in my family when I was young.
They may not realise this, if they've got the summer island in their minds

madameparis · 01/08/2024 20:27

I think they should have told you this was their possible plan, before you rerouted your whole life to move to be closer to them. Unless this is a sudden decision?!

Interl0per · 01/08/2024 20:26

(Speaking as someone originally from IoW, and who loves it there):

Have they just been there on holiday by any chance? It's pretty common for people to visit in the summer and want to come to live. I understand you're upset, and also their right to move if they want to, but maybe encourage them to have an extended visit in November/January, to see what it's like out of season...

SoOriginal · 01/08/2024 20:25

I’m sure they don’t want to move away from your DD, but I imagine they’ve lived their life for their family and want to enjoy their twilight years.
It’s a shame they didn’t realise it before you moved nearer to them, I’ll admit that would annoy me after I’d intentionally moved closer to them.

cansu · 01/08/2024 20:22

I guess they perhaps have always wanted to live there?? Maybe they find the reality of being grandparents more tiring than they had anticipated. I can understand you being hurt but I think you need to plaster on a smile.

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