I desperately need help to understand how best to help and parent my badly behaved daughter. I’m at the end of my tether and it’s really impacting my mental health.
She’s only three but her behaviour is far worse than typical toddler tantrums. She purposefully defies instructions, screams and shouts when she doesn’t get her way, breaks things, purposefully hurts people (hitting and biting) and does things she knows will upset her parents and siblings. She shouts and screams and kicks and cannot be calmed down. Nursery agree she is challenging but very bright. Her behaviour is no where near as bad there.
There is no suggestion of neurodivergence at stage and nursery say her behaviour isn’t typical of what they see in ND kids, but I appreciate shes too young to tell for sure.
The logical conclusion then is that the bad behaviour is reaction to the way we are raising her. We try so hard to be fair. We do loads of activities to keep her entertained, she sleeps well and has a good diet. She doesn’t watch much tv and rarely has an iPad. We’ve tried distractions, time out, behaviour charts and rewards and ignoring all bad behaviour. I’ve read books and follow various ‘good parenting’ gurus on SM.
Does anyone have any idea of what we can do to help her? Health visitor isn’t interested as she’s hitting all milestones.
Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do you support and help your kid? She gets so upset and it’s such an impact on us all.