To be annoyed at people who turn off 'read' receipts on WhatsApp?

That's not really the same...

Tracking a parcel is not putting pressure on someone and getting into a state if they don't reply on your terms

People have always looked as texts, emails, letters without instantly replying! Because of the 'last seen' system, people are now aware of it.

Turning it off means people don't see if I open WhatsApp and thinking I'm ignoring them - and vice versa.

Mine are off but it still says when they've opened the message btw

"I'm not trying to control anyone. I just want to know my message has been seen! And I found it weirdly secretive because I didn't understand..."

Do you now understand the issue with your statement now? Because wanting to know when someone reads something is controlling. Your post appears to show you still are denying this?

For the most part people responded to you in the way they did because of your choice of words and attitude. "I find it weirdly controlling that someone doesn't want me know they've read my message."

If you had phrased this differently you would have got a much better response, you didn't come across well in your original post.

I do this because I have 40+ staff who have zero boundaries and text me whenever they feel like.

I answer in normal working hours or if I can see it's an emergency but otherwise I'll leave it and they don't know I've read it so it's easier otherwise they send ???????? if they can see I've looked at it.

This is a bit worrying don't you think? Sometimes people may read your message but want to reply later. Why are they not allowed to do that?

I turn mine off and also my last seen online because I don't want the aggro of people getting the hump if I don't reply right away !
I sometimes will read on the go and reply when I get home etc so would rather have it all unavailable

I HATE WHATSAPP
We all have our own way of going mad & if I could change how this makes me feel.... trust me, I would.

I can't stand anyone who has their last seen on and is on WhatsApp quite often but didn't reply or open your message.
I mean, wtf.
This boils my blood. I've stopped messaging the people that do this.
You can reply to everyone else but ignore me, it's how I believe it to be. So I'm taking myself out I'd this situation but not texting you again.

I also hate the reading of a WhatsApp and not replying.

I wish this didn't annoy me and I've turned off my last seen and my online so I can't see other people's.

I've had mine off for years, and will never turn it back on. I like to reply in my own time, and can't be dealing with "it takes a minute to reply - I know they have read it!" Bullshit.

If anyone needs an answer straight away or the information is that important they can call me directly.

Personally I would love to get an old Nokia phone again and just use old fashioned text messages. Then I wouldn't get addicted/distracted by other apps. But everyone uses watts app so it's a bit of can't beat them join them situation.

There’s another reason this baffles me.

How is a conversation supposed to end if people complain about being left on read?

I didn’t actually realise how many people found it upsetting until I saw it on here. so I don’t think anyone I mix with has been upset by it.

I also had to explain to my last boyfriend that I am not bothered about it. If it’s something that requires a reply, then it’s different - but people seem to be messaging each other during the working day or any time really and being upset that they’re left “on read”.

I have had a couple of threads about friendship and it came up a lot that people are angry about messaging expectations. I was talking about people who haven’t been in touch for months or even years!

But there were quite a few angry posts from people saying they didn’t have time for those who expect instant replies. Neither would I.

It had genuinely never occurred to me that people are being bombarded with ridiculous expectations from their friends or family.

although it’s a great shame if people are being classified as irritating when we are not the ones expecting Instaplies!

Why is 'left on read' even a thing? Surely if someone reads but doesn't reply straight away you just think they're busy and they'll get back to me when they can?? I do anyway, you can't expect instant responses to things people are busy.

This. I am constantly online for work and want time off being pressured into responding.

I do this too.

So I have the blue ticks enabled but I would have read it before it shows anyway, so using the blue ticks as evidence of me reading it is pointless.

I find it very controlling that you want to see exactly when someone has read your message. And that you didn't put a poll with this post because you knew how it would go.

Yeah I would think your view is the controlling one OP and not the other way round

I have mine on but don’t have an issue with the friends that do have it off. If they reply great, if they don’t then I will either phone if I absolutely need a response or just ignore it. If they miss out on something then that’s on them

I do have the last seen online switched off which I also know annoys people. But obsessing over that is worse than the blue ticks stalking imo

Isn't it all a bit pointless anyway? I read message from the notification and only open them when I'm ready to reply. So, I've often seen them long before I actually reply. I do it that way because then the notification stays up to remind me.

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@PrincessOfPreschool

just whhyyyyyyyy

communication really is being wrecked by the crazy.

Why do you need to know they’ve seen it or not?

I don’t get that at all.

Surely they’ll just reply when they can - whether that’s as soon as they’ve read it or they’ll read it and respond later.

Mine are turned off. My online status and notifications are also turned off. People don't need to know if i've read their message and I like to reply at my own pace.

If its something urgent, then they'll usually call not whatsapp.

I think controlling is a leap. But I agree it is annoying 😁