To be annoyed at people who turn off 'read' receipts on WhatsApp?

What a strange assumption!

The fact that you have both thought about it and made that judgement on others based on their WhatsApp settings tells me you are a little judgemental in life, and if that was any of my so called friends I would be distancing myself from them.

I know, but she doesn’t have many friends (because she’s like this!) and I feel bad for her. She’s just lonely and a bit needy.

I have mine on, as generally I like people to see I've read it, but I wish you could turn them off on some numbers as certain friends would see I've read and if I didn't reply would message again for a response. I also use it for clients, and would rather they don't see when I've read it, so I can reply in work hours. Now I normally read messages from notifications, so they don't know if I've read them. My boyfriend has them off and it drives me mad as I don't know if he's read it or not, so I get where you're coming from

The only times I've really cared about this have been when DC have been travelling in farflung parts of the world. So yes, it is controlling to want them on; and yes, of course they had anyway turned them off.

Is it really that important in the grand scheme of things....

My friend only recently did this when she realised her husband could see she was online all the time. The reason she was online all the time is because she is having an affair and they conduct all messages through WhatsApp as she can archive the chats so they don’t appear on her phone when he messages her.
she was waiting until she thought he was asleep to message her side piece. Her husband wasn’t asleep but he noticed every night when he went to bed she wouldn’t come up for hours. He had other suspicions like the sudden over time. So looked at her WhatsApp to see she was online all the time.
When he asked her about it she said she was chatting with friends and has since changed all her settings so you can’t see anything about her activity.
This is what she told me by the way. I had no clue you could do any of this as hadn’t thought too deeply about it before.

I turned them off because I feel pressurised to reply and I don’t want to feel like that. Some people are very entitled and controlling and badgering for quick replies to non important stuff and I can’t take the stress of them.

My friend has hers off because she has an awful ex husband and she doesn’t want him to know when she has read his messages

my ex had his off as part of his many efforts to cover his tracks for affairs….

there are loads of reasons to have them off!

I have mine on….. I use peoples what’s app etiquette to help me form opinions of how close I should be to them…. For instance if I ever got grief from someone for not replying when I had read message I would be distancing myself.

Didn’t know you could turn them off. I’d love to know how to turn ON read receipts for emails though. That would have been very useful recently when someone I needed to speak to urgently seemed to be ignoring me.

Twofold: I don’t worry that others will be offended that I’ve left them “on read” and I don’t get anxious if someone else has left me “on read”. Double win. My life is so much better since I turned them off.

hold down the message you last sent and click info tells you if it’s been seen or read!

I used to have a friend who would want instant replies and get shirty if I didn’t. She used send ‘???’ to men on dating apps too if they took too long to reply (I’m talking a few hours to a day). She got too much to handle - like a jealous girlfriend. She’s the kind of person who’d want you to keep your ticks on because she would sit there just watching and waiting instead of going out and living life. Sad. But don’t miss her at all.

Your friend sounds awful! Dump?

It's one of those things that instantly tells you a lot about a person. As soon as I see someone has the ticks turned off I assume they are not a laid back person and are likely to be a bit uptight.

This. It’s called privacy.

I hate the idea of someone sitting there waiting to see if there are blue ticks. ‘Always on’ culture is bad enough - we should not be expected to reply as soon as we read something.

You sound like the kind of person to get annoyed if someone waited a few days to reply - which is exactly the kind of behaviour people like me want to avoid.

Communicating under a feeling of duress or obligation is not fun or healthy. And sitting there checking your blue ticks is kind of weird and needy.

I didn’t know there were ticks! I’ve never noticed them! Once I’ve sent a message it’s gone into the blue yonder as far as I’m concerned, if I wanted a really quick reply on something important I might call.

Other people must be so annoyed with me, I hardly ever reply with any promptness and now they all know I’ve not bothered to get up and sort out whatever they were asking for.

I can’t believe people keep track of when their messages were read, seems like another level of stress and anxiety in life that no one needs

I didn’t know you could switch them off! Thick head ‘untechy’ me 😊. Tbh I’d find it annoying if I didn’t know if my message had been read but I accept it it’s their choice.
I’m retired now, but many years ago, with children and a demanding job, I think I would have reduced my availability so I do get it.

I’ve turned off read receipts and last seen because I have friends who like to stalk me on WhatsApp, and I really don’t have time for that shit.

I’ve turned them off. You’re not entitled to my time and attention just because you’ve texted me.

Most texts these days are a bloody nuisance I don’t want to delay with anyway.

My phone is for my convenience not everyone else’s.

As far as I know, that only happens in WhatsApp groups, not individual conversations

FYI, if you click on your msg and then press info, you can see if it has been read whether they have blue ticks on or not.

Calling someone dear, is the most unattractive thing in this thread.

You find that weirdly controlling? I find it weirdly controlling that you need to know they've read it.

Yes.

I honestly thinks it’s very much personality based.

In my experience, the people who are open books/laid back/easygoing tend to leave the blue ticks on because they haven’t given it a huge amount of thought.