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To be annoyed at people who turn off 'read' receipts on WhatsApp?

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PrincessOfPreschool · 01/08/2024 10:54

So basically you will never get blue ticks from them.

I know a few people who do this and it really annoys me because I now assume they've seen it but don't rant to reply. I keep my ticks on because sometimes I'm not able to check my phone frequently. I'd rather someone know I haven't seen their message yet, not that I'm ignoring them, or maybe I have seen it and just forgotten to reply - so they can prompt me.

I find it weirdly controlling that someone doesn't want me know they've read my message. Of course, you don't know when an email has been read, or a phone message listened to, but WhatsApp has that function which I think is great.

If you're someone who turns off the blue ticks, can you tell me why...

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DoopSnoggySnogg · 01/08/2024 11:03

It’s none of anyone’s business whether I’ve read their message or not! Same with people obsessively checking when someone was last active on WhatsApp. Hate all these stalker-like functions of social media/messaging.

WindsurfingDreams · 01/08/2024 11:02

I find it more weirdly controlling that people go back and check read receipts

OrigamiOwls · 01/08/2024 11:01

They probably find it weirdly controlling that you want to know when your message has been read

Commonsenseisnotsocommon · 01/08/2024 11:01

It's called freedom of choice, dear, and guess what... everyone has it! Stop being so controlling, it's not very attractive behaviour.

CaraLara · 01/08/2024 11:01

Tbh it's you that sounds weirdly controlling about it!!

Marblessolveeverything · 01/08/2024 11:00

All mine are off. It is completely unacceptable to want to know if someone has read something. Honestly sometimes I wonder how on earth we have got so far from reasonable boundaries.

HundredMilesAnHour · 01/08/2024 11:00

Berga · 01/08/2024 10:59

Mine are off, because it's weirdly controlling to want to know if I have read your message!

I turn read receipts off on everything, including MS teams. I prioritise my messages, not the sender!

Exactly this.

gettingbacktobeingmeagain · 01/08/2024 10:59

I've turned mine off so as to reduce the pressure to reply immediately - not to be controlling but to try and be less controlled by my phone. It is an attempt to have uninterrupted peace and the ability to focus on what I want/need to be doing, rather than feel I need to respond to friends and family as soon as they have sent/I have read a message. It's about mental and emotional headspace, and not being at everyone else's beck and call all the time.

Berga · 01/08/2024 10:59

Mine are off, because it's weirdly controlling to want to know if I have read your message!

I turn read receipts off on everything, including MS teams. I prioritise my messages, not the sender!

ImNotThereAmI · 01/08/2024 10:58

You say you think it’s weirdly controlling when someone doesn’t want you to see if they’ve read it. Have you ever thought that it might be seen as controlling to want to force someone to tell you they’ve read it?

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