To be annoyed at people who turn off 'read' receipts on WhatsApp?

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Yes they can. They can highlight the message then click info on the 3 dots in the right had corner. Try it lol

Mine are off as I also get contacted my work contacts during non working hours. I don't want them knowing I've seen the message until I'm in work

I totally get what you’re saying, I’m also a bit of a magnet for people I feel bad for. But I will end friendships if it gets too much. This girl is a kind person at heart, she’s just lonely, but I know where my line is and should she cross it I will act. Thanks though, I appreciate your point.

I stayed friends with someone like that and she completely flipped out when I went away with a guy I was dating for a weekend to somewhere without reception. It was almost scary, she was like a jealous girlfriend. I gave her another chance but in the end she just couldn’t handle me having a life outside of her. It’s sad but she needs to learn it will turn people off and the fault is with her - not others - so monitoring their behaviour is not where her focus should be. It should be on her own! Felt like a weight had lifted when I stopped being friends with her and don’t miss her. I’ve realised I had a habit of picking up friends I felt sorry for and always regretted it.

Sending an email or message is good as you can send anytime. Reading or responding to it is whenever the recipient wants. If you want an immediate or faster response, best to telephone

Mine are off because sometimes I read them, but I don't have time to reply so I don't want to seem rude.

I never knew you could turn the tick off! Done it now. Thanks

Christ if anyone pulled me up about "read" ticks I'd have to reasses our relationship

I didn’t even know you could turn them off, so I’ve learnt something! I also don’t have people demanding I reply straight away (or demand that of anyone else) so have never thought about it. It can be useful to know if a message has been read in certain situations, but can’t say it consumes me.

I have some difficult family dynamics. In order to support me not going absolutely mental; I need to be able to control when I see messages from certain people and when I reply.
You can’t just turn off read receipts on WhatsApp from certain people; it’s all or nothing.
I have these people archived so I can choose when I see their messages and I don’t have read receipts on so I can choose when I reply without being hassled.
(and obviously my life would be better without them in it, but that’s a different thread!)

So many of you saying you need people to have them on, wtf??? That is a complete you problem. You do not need anyone to have them on, their phone, their life, their business how and when they reply. I’m not on anyone’s timescale, I don’t need nor want anyone to know when I was last online so they can message me about a message I haven’t replied to that doesn’t even need a reply to then have it turn into I’m ignoring someone. That is drama that is not happening in my life. You will get my reply when I’m ready. How did you all cope before last seen and blue ticks? Ridiculous

I'm sure this has been made clear, but:
1 grey tick - sent but not received
2 grey ticks - received but either not read or no read receipt
2 blue ticks - read

Someone does not need to have read receipts turned on for you to see if your message was received.

It is not controlling in any way to turn them off. It absolutely is controlling to be annoyed if people do turn them off, and I'm astounded OP doesn't seem to have acknowledged this. Being annoyed about others maintaining some small aspect of their own privacy is controlling, regardless of why it annoys you. They have not prevented you from seeing if your message was delivered.

Mine’s off because of people like you tbh. It’s none of your business whether I’ve read the message or not. I bet you get all flustered when you’re left on read. People have other stuff in their life than replying to messages. I don’t want people to know if I’ve read it and cba replying.

I find it weirdly controlling when people need to know when I’ve read their message.

What does it matter if you know if you've seen it?
Just because I've seen something it doesn't mean I've had time to reply.
If it's important then ring them. If they're not busy they'll answer.

I recently cut contact with people…but to avoid more drama just ghosted them…so I turned the read notification off so they can’t see if I have read or not. It does it for all people on WhatsApp not just one singular person though.

So I wouldn’t take it personally. It’s most likely one person (not you) they want to avoid 😂

🤭 surely there are other things to be upset about? Why does it matter if they’ve read it or not? When they have and they are ready or able to reply, they will. If they don’t and therefore miss out on something, that’s their problem not yours. Perhaps you’re the one with the control issues needing to know as and when someone reads your messages…life’s too short..let it go 🤷🏻‍♀️

Didn’t realise you could turn the blue tick off. I am now off to turn it off so the pressure to reply straight away does exist anymore 😊

Trouble was they wouldn’t answer the telephone either. Or call me back. Would have been good to know if they’d read the email.

If it's urgent would you not call instead of email?

When you have controlling people in your life, that use every means to control and bait you, its wise to turn off the read receipts. Sadly it is all or nothing, you cannot select just one person. However sometimes, even with friends, you simply do not have time to reply and the fact they do not know you have read it, gives you breathing space or time to decide your answer. You may unfortunately find this an inconvenience or be excessively annoyed if you are controlling. Look deep within and quell the feeling.

It's just an observation and in my experience it's usually accurate based on the people I know. Obviously I'm sure there are exceptions, I'm not claiming this is a scientific study 😂 The people I know who have read receipts turned off are often the type to overthink these things. My DH is the most laid back person I've ever met and he didn't realise read receipts existed.

"I'm not judgemental, just observant. I have friends that are uptight and friends that are laid back, I accept them as they are. But very laid back people don't tend to bother turning off read receipts as they don't really care if people know they've seen the messages or not!"

Hmmmm. Not observant really. Just unable to look at reasons why some may choose to turn the read receipts off. Observant people would have noted the many reasons on this thread alone, and realised it's not being uptight.

I'm not judgemental, just observant. I have friends that are uptight and friends that are laid back, I accept them as they are. But very laid back people don't tend to bother turning off read receipts as they don't really care if people know they've seen the messages or not!