To think entertainers should not pick people out of the crowd

Agree, they should ask for volunteers

Don’t know why they do this as it is so easily solved by asking for willing volunteers to raise hands! I was at a show recently and at the beginning the act said he would pick volunteers and you must not say no as it would ruin the show for everyone! I was on edge the whole time but I would have 100% said no and probably got booed by the crowd.

Run through the scenario and show her how she has control. So if she is asked she simply says, no thank you. End of discussion. Reassurance that you will also step in it if the engagement continues.

It won't remove the anxiety but with practice will reduce it as she begins to understand and grasp she has control. It's a little resilience and some CBT methodology worked great with my oldest. Youngest would have been on stage before the question was finished.

There is a hell of a lot of opportunities for her to practice this and will only benefit her.

Ignorant.... ha!

Yours is such a fatuous comparison. Don't dismiss my argument by introducing one which is so clearly specious@C1N1C

Let me break it down for you.

You can grow up in society knowing stealing is wrong. That is innate, and taught from pre-school. Everyone gets this information.

However you can be in an industry like the redcoat / entertainment one, and not understand the 'introvert/extrovert' spectrum.

So in your theft example, there is no excuse for not knowing.

In the entertainment example, there is a small excuse for not understanding.

Otherwise why does ANY industry in 2024 still have tons of diversity training, lots of training about how to work with different personality types?

That is what they do so that is why we chose to do other things on holidays, it is not a surprise but some kids love it would it is up to the parents to decide

How odd! Anywhere I’ve been like this, they ask the people who want to to put their hand up and they pick from them. There’s always loads that want to, it’s not like it’s a teacher asking for homework answers.

I feel the same as your daughter. Had to sit in the front of a Fringe show a few years back as the only seats left. I was cringing when the comedian picked on DH and started bantering with him. Never again!

Totally agree - I'd be fine but my DS lives in fear of being picked on at shows,shrinks in his seat. Panics if seated at end if a row. My DP must have a certain face, because he is picked out ALL the time. He'd rather not but is used to it now. I actually would mention it to the hotel.

Well that's an ignorant answer. No means no. You're basically excusing bad behaviour because they haven't had official training.

"I had my purse stolen... surely in this day and age people should know the difference between right and wrong"
"Are you offering to provide free online ethics training for these people???" Love this!

Yes, not acceptable to refuse when someone says no. Why can't they ask for volunteers? I'm sure there are plenty of people who would want a turn. One of my DC is always desperate to be picked and the other would be horrified.

Was it an adult picked, if so then they can still refuse...were they completely embarrassed?
I think you should explain to your daughter that it's ok to say no. And that you will back her. That some people like to be picked and are show offs and some don't...

Surely in this day and age, an entertainer must understand the differences between introverts and extroverts.

Are you offering to provide free online diversity training for the redcoat industry @Theoneandonlyone ? Love this!

I completely agree with you. They should take the first 'no' and leave it at that. Your poor daughter.