MIL massive stroke 3 days before holiday

You’ll be fine in Santorini with your child. I travelled a lot alone with mine - no issues

Definitely go. Grandparents would not want their children and grandchildren to miss out on a holiday.

If my mother was dying I would actually find it preferable to just have my siblings and mum’s relatives around me, rather than having to navigate usual family life and kids/childcare. Not everybody is needy and unable to cope without their spouse next to them.

OP - absolutely go if your husband is ok with it, you can FaceTime him, he will be busy and with his brother. I wish you all the best.

I think you should all go. Your dd is the priority. Your dh being there will change nothing, and his brother is encouraging him to go.

Sorry just re read the OP - go with his blessing and have a wonderful time. It won't be the same but it will be a fond memory.

When my mother died, her grandchildren (our daughters and their husbands) were on holiday in Greece. We decided that my mother would have been devastated to be the cause of a ruined holiday so we didn’t tell them. After all, it made no difference to Mum and saved their holiday. What we did do though, was delay the funeral until they were home and we had brought them up to speed.
So, go and enjoy yourselves as much as you can. I think your husband should go too for the reason above but, of course, that is his decision and not my business.

You say you for your insurance late- how late? If you got it less than 14
Days ago you can get a full refund on it due to cooling off period.

I'd go and leave DH at home

Why are you nervous? It's perfectly safe and normal thing to do as an adult

What does your DH want you to do?

I love my MIL but I'd still go on the holiday because there is nothing I could do here. To all those saying don't go so you can support your husband, support with what? He'll be visiting his mum who won't know he's there in hospital.

Is it not covered by insurance as she was already ill so it could be seen as expected.

That would be decisive for me. Not trying to be mean and of course it's still going to be a hard time for your DH, but in your shoes I would go rather than let my child miss out on her holiday.

You should all go, what is he going to do if he is home, it's not like she is going to recover in the space of the holiday and need help, if she dies then surely he can sort out funeral remotely with family.

You clearly don't go. Wtaf at the posters on here saying go. I hope you realise ageing happens to us all and you might be the one in a hospital bed one day I'd also e pect your DH to think wtf if you went.

I agree that you should go. There is nothing that would be improved by you and your DD being in the UK right now and you don't have (for good reason) the emotional connection.

Even if she does die in the coming days, you won't miss a funeral on just a week, it gives your OH space to focus on what needs to be done as he's feeling unable to come - and then you're back once he's through that twilight period to give him a huge hug.

Go, if DH has support there. Santorini fine alone with a child. Definitely go

My father's mother was seriously ill just before we were due to go on our first family holiday abroad.
She hadn't been the best mother to her 4 children.
We all went on holiday, with the full blessing of the family and had a lovely time. We only stipulated that should she die, they funeral was delayed until our return.
She died the day we returned.
My Dad was upset but did not regret going on holiday.

Its a family decision, no one on here can sway you either way.

All i'd say is MiL is unlikely to know very much about what is going on, there is family who can visit and should the worse happen and she dies, you'll all be back for the funeral.

However, it does appear you don't want to travel on your own.

The fact that your husband has a complex relationship with his mother is actually more reason for you to stay to support him through it. The dying/death of a parent who fell short in their nurturing of their child can throw up all sorts of unexpected and acute emotions. The fact that he himself has ongoing undiagnosed health issues is another factor which needs consideration. The difficulties with travel insurance suggest his symptoms are not insignificant.

Not an issue, been travelling alone with my child since he was 3.

You should definitely go.

My father was taken ill three years ago and the hospital consultant said it was likely he would not live longer than a few weeks.

He is still here with us, sadly bed bound in a nursing home though.

@NoSourDough What a horrible position for you to be in. So sorry to read this.

Firstly, you will be fine on your own, with a 12 year old. Santorini will be fine. Lots of holiday makers go there every year and it's as safe as anywhere else.

However, I agree with another poster that you might be able to change the dates and go later in the year - although many Greek tourist destinations, do start to shut down early in October and if the October break is later in the month, that might not be an option for you. Best to check if you go down this route.

How do you think your daughter will feel about being away on holiday if your MIL dies before you get back? That I think, is probably the most important thing to consider before deciding what to do. As MIL is unresponsive, there is nothing that anyone can do, except wait, but I think she is old enough for you to discuss it with her and see what she wants to do? That might make it easier to come to a decision? Either way, you will be back before any funeral might happen, even if MIL passes quickly

Your DH would not be a bad person, if he decided to come with you, everyone reacts to these things differently. But it sounds like he would feel very guilty if he did come with you, even although his Brother has told him just to come with you, so that's not an option from the sounds of it.

Thinking of you all

All 3 of you should go. She sounds horrid and her dying doesn't change that.

Santorini is lovely but the most expensive island we've been to so expect that and you'll be okay.

You should all go. Any mother would want you to go as a family. Your BiL can manage for a week.

Given that your husband is happy for you to go, I would. Keep in contact with him to see how things are going.

@NoSourDough you’re going on a package holiday not trekking the Himalayas, and your dd is 12, not 2.

this is the BEST time for you and her to travel, before she gets all teenager and stroppy 🤣

you will have a wonderful time with her, it’ll be a little adventure for you both without the danger or worry.

Your H says do it, it’ll give him the space to do what he needs to do without feeling guilty about leaving you. You’ll be on the other end of the phone to support him, and it’s ONLY 10 days.

Go!! ☺️

Go. And you’ll be fine as the lone parent. Ypu won’t be the only one in the hotel either. I took my kids on my own in the 80s to a country that wasn’t at the time a huge tourist destination, we were absolutely fine. Also took them to mainland Spain and ( I think) Tenerife.