MIL massive stroke 3 days before holiday

I've always traveled alone with my child (divorced ) even to remote countries. You'll be absolutely fine. Just go

Go, might make things easier on your husband to be able to just do what he needs to for a few days without worrying about you. He and his brother will likely want time together too.

This happened to my family when I was a teenager. We went on the holiday with one parent. The other came and joined us a few days later when it had become clear that actually death wasn’t imminent. My grandma didn’t end up dying until the October nearly 2 months later - even though she too was on palliative care and didn’t come out of hospital. I would go - your DC will thank you for it.

You'll be fine. There's nothing about that destination that's unsafe or unsuitable.

You're shaken up, which is an entirely normal reaction and that's probably what's making you fret. But you'll be fine once you get going, and turn your energies in to making sure its a good holiday for DC.

Thinking back to when my MIL was dying I don’t think that I could even if my Dh said to.

Only you can decide really.

My Mum died when we were on holiday and we didn't fly back early (it was 3 days before we were due to leave). My brother dealt with the immediate aftermath as there wasn't anything for me to do in practical terms and he was fine to manage the transfer to a funeral home etc.
If your DH feels he can't go then I would still go in your shoes, you will be fine

Definitely go, you'll have a lovely girls holiday. It's not like taking a toddler.

Why would she feel guilty? Mil is unaware.

OP if dh gets on well with his brother and you feel he’s not just being noble telling you to go, go.
I know when my parents die I want to be there, for my brothers and focused on my family of origin. DH, lovely as he is, won’t really feature.

Sorry you're all in this situation OP. A sad time. Your husband has told you to go and not sure why you feel nervous about travelling with your daughter- she's 12 after all. Take it a day at a time as regards MIL's condition.

Does your DD still want to go? If she does, then yes, I'd still go. You'll be absolutely fine the two of you, I often take DC (12 & 14) away by myself for an odd week when DH is working and we have a great time, it's not like she's a toddler which would be harder. Your DH might find it easier being able to fully focus on his mum, along with his brother, during such a difficult time. Ultimately, you need to do what you as a family think is the right thing to do though and so sorry you're having to deal with this.

I’m so sorry . Speak to the consultant. My reading ( medic) is that if she is unresponsive after stroke and palliative is that she is highly likely to die in the next 10 days.
If DH knows this and is ok for you to take DD on holiday - go. Say your goodbye first. If you would want to be there to support DH you should stay at home.

Go.

I'd go. Maybe I wouldn't if DH would be in his own, but assuming his brother and he will be able to support each other I think he'll be OK.

Go. You DC is probably going to lose her granny soon. Why add to her unhappiness?

There is no point planning to rush back if she dies. DH is aware of the outcome and the funeral will take time to plan. If he is happy for you to go then do it; there is nothing you can do if you stay.

OP, I am sorry to hear about your MIL.

Follow your DH request here, I think. Just go. Santorini will be fine!

I'd go but then we are a callous lot in our family. My grandma died and my parents went on holiday between her death and the funeral (delayed funeral). The holiday was paid for and it wasn't going to bring her back to stay home.

If I were you I'd go without DH. Santorini is perfectly safe. It won't be as fun without him. If he's happy for you to go then go.

It’s fine to take your child, your DH wants to stay with his mother and that’s fair.

Go, your DH has his brother to support him and your MIL won't know (or care?) whether you're there or not. Have as good a time as you can and follow your DH's suggestion. Odd that you're not covered for something like this - insurance companies are greasy weasels.

I don't think I would go.

How much is dd likely to enjoy her holiday? You'll be worried about your dh, you'll feel forever guilty if she dies when you're away.

There will be other holidays, but this is a time that will never be repeated.

It's a really tough one, and there is no right or wrong here, so don't feel guilty if you do go, you have your dhs blessing.

Of course Santorini is safe, it's a major family holiday destination.

I also think your MIL would want her GC to not be upset and enjoy their holiday.

If DH is fine with it, definitely go. My DF had three serious strokes and spent weeks in hospital. It would have been a relief if DH and the kids had been away and enjoying themselves as one less thing to worry about!

Go. If your mil and grandma to your dc dies, you will be back before the funeral. So do go.

If your husband is OK with it, just go. Of course you will be safe - it's santorini, not Mexico City x