MIL massive stroke 3 days before holiday

Wow your husbands mother is most probably dying and you are going to go on holiday! Why do you not feel the need to be there for your husband? If I were your husband I would probably say go if you asked (because I would assume that was your preferred choice) but I would fully expect you not to and to be around to support me and if you went I would certainly hold some resentment.
It would also show your daughter that supporting family in bad times is what family is all about.

What about if DH feels sad and guilty that his DD would miss out on the holiday she's so excited about? Surely you wouldn't want to add that burden to him?

OP is your DH has said to go, you should go. He has his brother's support should the worst happen, and you'll be around for the upcoming months when your support will be invaluable to him.

Have you asked them to change the date? As suggested before I think this is a good option to explore. Even if you have to pay a little bit extra.

If not in your situation i'd consider going. Has he dealt with death before? As this would influence my decision somewhat (mine hasn't so not sure he'd be okay when something happens to MIL/FIL). I'd be sure DH was certain it was ok. I'd also leave it that I was at the end of a phone day and night and i'd also leave all the hotel details with phone numbers there with him easily accessible and let his brother know the same. Also make sure you have access to a credit card/money if you need to book an emergency flight back.

I've never been to santorini but i'm sure at this time of year its full of brits and is perfectly safe.

Go. Santorini will be lovely, and very easy. And honestly (I sat at first husband's bedside for weeks when he died), with an unresponsive, older relative, who might last days, or weeks, if I were your DH, I'd be coming with you. If your MIL has any awareness of those around her, she might be mightily distressed by being so helpless in front of those she's cared for. And she'd probably dislike getting in the way of longed-for and precious holidays.

wouldn’t give it a thought. You’ll be fine. Not abroad but I’ve taken all 3 of mine many times when husband has had to work.

I’d go with your daughter. There’s absolutely no point you all staying. I’m very sorry your DH is going through this but his brother will be there, he’ll be fine.

Go. Without a doubt. As a single parent I always took my 2 children alone (younger than your child) and it was fine.

I would stay. There is no way I would leave my husband in this hour of need - what if his mum dies whilst i am away? No way, i wouldnt be that person

It really depends on what your DH wants in this situation; whether he'd rather you and DC stay close by for support or if he's fine with you going. He might welcome being on his own at this time. Or not. Only he knows.

If he's truly comfortable with you going on your holiday without him, I would definitely go. It will be a good distraction for you and your DC as well as a chance to bond over an adventure. Yeah, I'd definitely go!

I'm sorry you are all having to go through such a sad and difficult time.

I think your DH should go too.

If I was the MIL in hospital I'd be mortified if my son missed a family holiday just to be around waiting for me to die!

But if your DH won't go then you should still go!

I just wouldn't enjoy myself knowing dh was at home with a possibly dying parent. Family holidays should have all members present imo.

Just one of you have d&v and claim on the insurance re book in a few months when the situation will be clearer.

Go. I would tell my partner to go in similar circumstances.

I would go with your DD and let your husband take things one day at a time.

Thank you - just to add, how would you feel about travelling alone with a child? We are going to Santorini. Would you feel safe? I’m a little nervous.

Go! I've been to Santorini - 3x actually - with my son solo. It's very safe, will be packed to the gills though now at the height of summer.

It's a stunning island. Good bus service too and it has beaches!

I would go. Could you see if a friend or family member could come with you if the airline will let you change to another traveller? May cost but would save you being on your own with DD.

Only you know the people involved.

Is your DH just trying to be stoic or would he genuinely prefer you went? He may prefer to have your support at home or he may prefer the space, or feel guilty about your DC missing a holiday which might be an extra emotional burden he doesn’t need.

What would your MIL want? Many people don’t want fuss and drama and would hate to think of her DG and DIL missing a holiday. Others would feel family should be together.

Would you and DC enjoy the holiday knowing what’s happening at home. You’ll be absolutely fine in Santorini alone, it’s more about how you feel emotionally.

On a practical level I’d check the availability and costs of last minute flights if anything changes - say MIL dies and DH feels he needs you back - would you be able to fly back?

Santorini is very safe

Absolutely go

I wouldn’t go if this happened to us as I would be really upset myself as I think a lot of my MIL and I know my husband and siblings would need my support. Also have a child similar age who would want to be around his Nanna, he wouldn’t be able to concentrate on the holiday and would have a million questions.

However if your DH wants you to go and your DD still wants to go then you aren’t doing anything wrong.

Don't be a dick, of course she is a little concerned, if only because yesterday she hadn't even considered the idea.

A holiday with just her is different to being with her husband. There are other things to be considered not least that everything is on you.

If your husband is happy you should go

Take your child on her first holiday. It’s a hard decision but go. I was similar a couple of years ago but it was my parent. Didn’t know whether to go or not but decided they would want us to and if they did survive they as be cross that we didn’t go. My parent waited until we were home before they passed which in hindsight I was pleased about. No the holiday wasn’t the best for me but my kids loved it! I’m glad I went. If it hadn’t been for the three kids being so excited I would have cancelled but it’s hard to do that to excited kids. The rest of the summer was quite boring for them with me making funeral arrangements etc so I was pleased they’d had a holiday at least.

Your dh can't go, he wants to be there as very likely mil will die in the next 10 days. She might not but not worth the risk.

As dh happy for you to take dc i would go so that dc does not miss out. Won't be the holiday you planned but best option in the circumstances.

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