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Help me annoy our neighbours

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NeighbourTrouble63 · 31/07/2024 20:48

Lighthearted (ish!)

I don’t say this lightly but we have the most truly horrible couple (‘young professionals’, although they don’t act like it) that I have ever met living beside us - even since the day that we moved in they have completely blanked us, anytime I have simply waved over or said ‘good morning’ I get ignored. In the 4 years that we have lived here neither of them have ever even made eye contact with me. It is bizarre and I have no idea what their problem is. I feel like they automatically see us as below them since we are renting (I have just gotten through a messy divorce, it is only my very sensible teen DD and I living here)

They have constant, wild parties going on into the small hours. It’s a 1930s semi so very poor sound insulation - we hear everything. I went round and politely knocked their door one Friday party night as DD had just had an operation and really needed her sleep - the door was slammed in my face. Their Range Rover (definitely heavily financed) is constantly parked right over the pavement, forcing buggies and wheelchair users onto the busy road.

They are vile people and I want a petty yet harmless way to get my own back when we move out in a few months. Any ideas?

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Allyoudoistalktalk · 01/08/2024 18:01

NeighbourTrouble63 · 31/07/2024 21:05

I’m not horribly judgmental - I know blatant rudeness when I see it (and a financed Range Rover). They are the nouveau riche type and judging by their conversations (which sadly we hear far too much of) they want the world to know about it.

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Here to ask wtf Noveau Riche means?

and

why financing a car is bad?

i think my breathe is financed at this point .. im
in a bit of a bad financial hump… it will pass..

also what does heavily financed mean ? how do you know..

if your whole street talked about me like this then i wouldn’t want to talk to any of you either ..

planning revenge after you move out..

I think there are better choices to be made in life than this…

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 01/08/2024 17:27

Sidebeforeself · 31/07/2024 21:21

Keying the car?! That’s awful.

It is, but…….
Shove a potato up the exhaust pipe then.

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NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 17:22

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 13:32

Right, so you agree that your neighbours are free to ignore you if they choose?

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Of course they’re free to, they’re (supposedly) grown adults - that doesn’t change the fact that intentionally blanking someone for no apparent reason is the height of rudeness. A touch of common courtesy would be nice. The rest of the neighbourhood can manage it so why can’t they?

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Calling · 01/08/2024 16:26

OP, I have some large metal wind chimes that you can have!

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 13:32

NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 11:41

Nobody has to be anything. The vast majority of the population thankfully however have basic manners and the ability to utilise common courtesy - it’s how society functions. This cannot be a foreign concept for you?

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Right, so you agree that your neighbours are free to ignore you if they choose?

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NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 12:39

montysma1 · 01/08/2024 07:47

Dear god, I would ignore you as well.
You clearly despise them and their car ( does anybody really say nouveau riche), so why on earth would you give or want a friendly wave or hello from people you disapprove of?

I don’t judge a book by its cover - these people have been vile ever since the day that we moved in, they have 0 reason to be so rude. DD and I are quiet and respectful, we cause no bother and never have. They know absolutely nothing about me or what I think of them.

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NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 11:41

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 08:50

Why?
Nobody has to be friendly with their neighbours.

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Nobody has to be anything. The vast majority of the population thankfully however have basic manners and the ability to utilise common courtesy - it’s how society functions. This cannot be a foreign concept for you?

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Ineedaholidayyyy · 01/08/2024 11:17

It's quite evident on this thread that a lot of you have never had to live with noisy, horrible neighbours. Late night parties every weekend into the small hours is not nice to deal with. Anything loud outside of 10pm and 9am (I think) is considered as antisocial behaviour and can be reported.

I've had this problem , lived next door to a musician who did this every weekend when I had a baby. Parties none stop, loud music, constant loud sex about 5 times a night. It kept me awake every weekend. The selfish twat then had the audacity to report us for noise after my baby cried all night when he was ill. I was raging when I get a letter from the council.

He's gone now thankfully, he was actually thrown out by the landlord as he trashed the house. Be grateful for having good neighbours!!

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 10:24

Muffit · 01/08/2024 09:39

Because no man is an Island, and even if you don't like ypur neighbours, you need to communicate with them if as you suggested they are too noisey.Otherwise how can you get them to stop?

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Environmental Health would be my first port of call.

MovingSwiftlyOn · 01/08/2024 09:47

5foot5 · 31/07/2024 21:13

They possibly don't acknowledge you because they feel they've nothing in common or are just not interested in neighbourhood friendships. Who knows?
@Emmerald This is no excuse for bad manners. You don't have to want to be bosom pals with someone to be able to manage a polite "Good morning. Lovely weather we're having" or whatever. Simply ignoring someone is downright rude.

My thoughts exactly

Muffit · 01/08/2024 09:39

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 08:50

Why?
Nobody has to be friendly with their neighbours.

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Because no man is an Island, and even if you don't like ypur neighbours, you need to communicate with them if as you suggested they are too noisey.Otherwise how can you get them to stop?

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 08:50

Muffit · 01/08/2024 08:43

Then they should conmunicate with the OP instead of ignoring her.

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Why?
Nobody has to be friendly with their neighbours.

Yougotwhatstuckwhere · 01/08/2024 08:49

I'm sorry you have shit neighbours.
I also have shit neighbours next door, more Angry Shouty twerp.
I don't condone keying cars etc, but I would definitely go with hoover/music/instrument playing as early as permissable the day after the party, and keep it up for as long as possible, with short 15 minute breaks so they think you've stopped 😁
I'm another English person who loves Ireland, North and South 💚

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 08:48

NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 08:23

The most that they would hear from us is everyday conversation. We don’t host parties, nor do we scream at each other and any of DD’s music is always through earphones. The two of us are very quiet

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Maybe they've heard you discussing how their car must be on finance and how they never acknowledge you? 🤣

Muffit · 01/08/2024 08:43

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 08:10

Maybe they can hear you too, if the walls are so thin?

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Then they should conmunicate with the OP instead of ignoring her.

Breadcat24 · 01/08/2024 08:42

Paint/ chalk a football goal on the wall of their actual house? Oh hang on- only an arse would do that. How do I know? Because my lovely neighbour did this to our house yesterday.
It meets your criteria for annoying though.

Muffit · 01/08/2024 08:41

I think the dog idea is a good one.Do you know anyone you can have over with a very barky dog?Someone who's available to come after l the loud party?
You're not responsible for a dog, as it takes a lot of work.
That way nobody can do something unkind to the dog as it doesn't live with you.Plus they don't know when said barky dog will drop by for a visit Which early morning.

My neighbours hate when my motherinlaw vidits with very badly behaved barking dog.The 've told me and I try to keep visits short.
For you could be an idea.

Lampslights · 01/08/2024 08:36

NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 08:30

Good try but I’m not jealous of their parties or their car in the slightest - they’re not people that I want to associate with, the odd ‘hello’ is simply common courtesy. I have a much nicer and newer car (and I am actually capable of parking it in my own driveway, not blocking the entire pavement)

As for your NI comments - bigotry isn’t welcome here. The entitlement and ignorance of (overwhelmingly English who have never even visited) MNers to generalise an entire nation is astounding.

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Odd. They didn’t say you were jealous (and it would be envy not jealousy). And that’s great on the car. Congrats.

Sugarcoldturkey · 01/08/2024 08:36

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You're completely unreasonable to be bringing this up on a light hearted thread. What's next? Someone living in Scotland wants advice about their MIL and you go on a rant about William Wallace? Or a poster is from Paris and you lecture them about 1066?

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NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 08:30

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Good try but I’m not jealous of their parties or their car in the slightest - they’re not people that I want to associate with, the odd ‘hello’ is simply common courtesy. I have a much nicer and newer car (and I am actually capable of parking it in my own driveway, not blocking the entire pavement)

As for your NI comments - bigotry isn’t welcome here. The entitlement and ignorance of (overwhelmingly English who have never even visited) MNers to generalise an entire nation is astounding.

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NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 08:23

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 08:10

Maybe they can hear you too, if the walls are so thin?

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The most that they would hear from us is everyday conversation. We don’t host parties, nor do we scream at each other and any of DD’s music is always through earphones. The two of us are very quiet

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Sidebeforeself · 01/08/2024 08:22

Christ I hope I never cross any of you lot! Im highly amused by the poster who can magically tell from the fact that some of us are questioning the bit about the Range Rover being on finance, that we must also have cars on finance!

I didnt even know I had a car!

Werweisswohin · 01/08/2024 08:18

NeighbourTrouble63 · 01/08/2024 08:10

Nowhere is setting anyone up mentioned.

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What?
All of these 'pranks' would be setting someone up. 🫣

beeloubee · 01/08/2024 08:17

Goldcushions2 · 01/08/2024 08:11

So many inventive suggestions.
My friend years ago told me a story about her friend who had very loud annoying neighbours when she was renting as a student and they got into the habbit of throwing bird seed into their back and front garden and on their car.
She was an early riser and the noise was something else combined with bird mess on the car. Gave them a great laugh.
They also stuck a small potato in the exhaust of the car.
Stops it dead, but doesn't do any harm.

Small potato in the exhaust...that's criminal damage..way too far and I think it is dangerous actually