It’s better to quit than be sacked

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Tigerbreadbum · 31/07/2024 18:49

I have a new job 2 months ago, completely different from what I did before and I’m doing really badly.

it’s fairly basic admin but very well paid, flexible, great employer with lots of benefits. On paper all good. I had a catch up with my boss today and she had a long list of mistakes I’ve made. I feel utterly useless and embarrassed. It’s just basic stuff like no replying to emails, setting up things wrong. She kept asking if I felt I needed more training etc but it’s not technical stuff I’m struggling with, it’s just basic tasks.

Its probably relevant that I have ADHD which I disclosed at interview and I’m just struggling with focus as it’s so many bitty tasks.

Do I accept that this just isn’t the right job for me? I feel like everything I do now will be scrutinised and it’s making me so anxious

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BESTAUNTB · 31/07/2024 18:58

Give it more time. If your boss felt you were a lost cause she would have done the, “sorry but this isn’t working out good luck for the future blah blah” thing instead.

It is not difficult to get rid of people after such a short period. But she obviously didn’t want you gone!

Reinga · 31/07/2024 18:57

A lot of people with ADHD have strong rejection sensitivity and can interpret any feedback as criticism (i know, I'm one of them!)
It sounds like your employer wants to help, not push you out the door. Maybe you should think about strategies that might help you before you throw in the towel?
ADHD can make certain jobs more difficult, but it can have a lot of pluses too. I bet you're creative and have bursts of motivation where you can take on the world, no problem! I hope it works out for you, OP. Best of luck.

owladventure · 31/07/2024 18:57

Access to Work can fund coaching to help you develop strategies to manage your difficulties in this role.

You can apply directly yourself.

SuperBatFace · 31/07/2024 18:56

@Tigerbreadbum ask for another sit down with her. Tell her how you feel - you can tell her you feel embarrassed. This will be down to your ADHD so work with her to come up with a plan.

Lots of random little tasks? The list won't be totally non exhaustive so write them all down and just check them each day to ensure you've either done them or had a look to see if they need to be done.

What would you say you're struggling with the most?

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Tigerbreadbum · 31/07/2024 18:53

My boss is absolutely lovely and I think she does want to support me, even checked how I was feeling and if I was in the right headspace to receive some feedback before going ahead. There was about 10 things but all along the same lines. I think I’m just embarrassed really.

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HippeePrincess · 31/07/2024 18:52

ask for support with an access to work application, ask for reasonable adjustments that you think you may need.
try and find out why you are making mistakes, I don’t reply to emails unless I leave them on unread and I find them distracting so I set aside email reply /dealing with times and don’t log into emails when I’m doing something else.
I would accept the training too, double check you know what you are supposed to be doing and make yourself “how to” guides inc screen shots if applicable til its second nature.

PrettyPines · 31/07/2024 18:50

Sounds like your boss wants to help you op, it would be a shame to quit before you've even given yourself a chance to settle in!

Was it a long list of mistakes or just the things you've mentioned? Sorry to hear you're feeling insecure.

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