To not invite my sister to my wedding

Op didn't get married on her dsis birthday. How many days does one 'baggsie' for oneself along with the actual date of birth?
Be warned she doesn't try and sabotage anything.. Mil rang the hire shop and tried to amend dh's outfit order.

She is already making it about her and will probably turn up.

i think you should re look at your plans. What does your fiance think ?

I don't think you can use the reason for not inviting her due to being a 'small' wedding. You could add her in (if you wanted to)

It is your wedding, you can invite whom.you wish. But you'll have to be upfront to her and your family on why you aren't inviting her. No massive details required but a "sadly we do not get on."

There will be a reaction and possibly long term consequences. I guess you have to decide which option you can live with.

I would hope she's matured a little since your 1st wedding...

A little bit weird you chose to overshadow her birthday by getting married the day before. Maybe I’m missing the point 🤷‍♀️

We uninvited mil from our wedding!! Hadn't actually invited her to start with she assumed to be coming even though we hadn't seen her for 6 months. It's your day op. Not about pleasing anyone but yourself and your dh...

Of course you can invite, or not invite, anyone you want to your own wedding. But I think you need to accept that not inviting your Sister sends a very strong message and will almost certainly be the final nail in the coffin in terms of your relationship. I don't think there's any point in excluding her from the wedding unless you're intending to go NC, it will just make things more difficult and unpleasant for you and the rest of the family otherwise.

I agree with pp, 60 people is not a particularly small wedding so don't use that as an excuse. If you don't want her there that's your perogative but you need to own it.

If you were having a small wedding it would be understandable but you're not, 60 is a pretty substantial number and it seems petty to leave her out. Obviously it's up to you but if she's as melodramatic as you say all you've done in excluding her is given her a reason to create drama.

You can do as you like but as long as you’re prepared for some people to refuse the invite, some animosity on the day and potentially breaking ties with your sister forever.

Of course it's your right to invite who you want but not inviting her when you are inviting 60 other people including lots of other family is a huge statement and going to cause family divisions and upset. Is it worth it?

YABU

Not a decent thing to do to leave one member of your immediate family out.

It's your day. If you don't want her there then don't have her. She can arrange her own party if she wants to see relatives, shouldn't be your responsibility to facilitate that with your wedding.

my wedding was me, DH, 2 witnesses and my 2 DC.. thats a small wedding. we didn't invite anyone because as soon as we got engaged the whole family took it upon themselves to make it all about them.

one sister wouldn't come if the other one was invited, another sister telling us she refused to sit next to so and so. we had his adult kids telling us that we needed to buy them and their partners new outfits for the wedding.

his sister actually messaged him with a date! told him this was the only date she was available therefore that was the only day we could get married

so we said stuff the lot of em.. we just wanted to be married, no fuss, no bother and thats what we did.

i have 4 sisters and to this day, 11 years on they still don't speak to me because i never invited them to the wedding!

60 ppl is not a small wedding we had that number and was by no means small. A small wedding would be 20 people. I think your making a massive statement excluding her and inviting everyone else. For a second wedding I'd have a service and go out for a meal. It's usual to have a big wedding second time around.

You don't have to invite anyone you don't want there! If you get asked why - just say you only want people you actually like, and who likes you, at your wedding.