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Aibu to want to homeschool my child with everything going on

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Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:14

Has anyone heard of that horrid south port attack 3 children died from 17 year old boy stabbing them at a Taylor Swift dance class? 😭 with stabbings in uk AIBU to wanna home school her ? I’m honestly soo scared to send her to school. She’s only 9 months but I keep on thinking for her future . I’m in Northern Ireland I know this awful attack happened in England but it happens everywhere and I’m genuinely terrified for my baby.

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Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:23

Asking is it unreasonable to homeschool my child has now turned into apparently locking her up and throwing away the key. Ofcourse I’m not like that , I would take her anywhere she wanted to go but I’d be very anxious about it after that

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DysonSphere · 31/07/2024 10:23

I Home Educated my children.

Home educating for philosophical reasons, or even political reasons is one thing

Homeschooling out of fear that some random harmful event may happen to your children is not a good reason.

After all, some stabbings of children have happened outside in public places. So even if you homeschool something untoward could happen during a trip or whilst out and about in general.

Also, I point out that many home educating parents take great pains to ensure their children have social interaction and that often involves group activities in rented/volunteered spaces.

So logically this doesn't make sense OP.

WouldUSayImWorthy · 31/07/2024 10:22

Well you can feel anxious all you like; what you shouldn't do is restrict her life, opportunities, and freedoms because of your emotions. That's selfish and unfair.

Hundreds of thousands of kids go to summer activities during the holidays and are fine.

SanMarzano · 31/07/2024 10:22

Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:19

Okay maybe I’ve worded wrong , I’d never lock her up my goodness !! I’m just feeling anxious for her future , the world is unpredictable and scary . Homeschooling is definitely unlikely but I’ve heard of a few other mums doing it for that type of reason and wanted to know if it was necessary

The solution for you is treatment for your anxiety, not denying your child a normal life.

VickyEadieofThigh · 31/07/2024 10:21

Are you never going to take her out? Let her travel in a car, for example? Because statistically, she's much more likely to be injured or killed in a road traffic accident.

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Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:20

Biffbaff · 31/07/2024 10:18

Has anyone heard of it? Anyone who hasn't must be living under a rock. And frankly, get a grip on yourself. They weren't killed at school. Are you never going to take your daughter to a 2 hour activity?

Well my mum hasn’t heard of it when I told her 😅 so not everyone knows . And I never said that and I made it clear in comments I knew it wasn’t at a school . I never said I wouldn’t , but I’d feel anxious about it

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Dulra · 31/07/2024 10:20

Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:17

No, I wouldn’t lock her away. I’m just feeling anxious about her future with everything going on in the world .

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Home schooling if done right is perfectly fine if you want to ensure your daughter has a good education but if your motivation for doing so is because the world is a crazy scary place is slightly irrational in my opinion

Royalshyness · 31/07/2024 10:20

You cannot live like that. School teaches children so much more that reading and writing. How to share, socialise, make friends, communicate.

my heart goes out to the families of those beautiful girls - RIP and wish the victims who are injured a speedy recovery

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Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:19

Okay maybe I’ve worded wrong , I’d never lock her up my goodness !! I’m just feeling anxious for her future , the world is unpredictable and scary . Homeschooling is definitely unlikely but I’ve heard of a few other mums doing it for that type of reason and wanted to know if it was necessary

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Biffbaff · 31/07/2024 10:18

Has anyone heard of it? Anyone who hasn't must be living under a rock. And frankly, get a grip on yourself. They weren't killed at school. Are you never going to take your daughter to a 2 hour activity?

SanMarzano · 31/07/2024 10:17

Yes everyone has heard of this tragic event because it was front page news because these things are so rare. Being homeschooled wouldn’t have protected these children as they weren’t at school - are you planning to keep her locked in your house all the time? I think you know that’s not healthy or possible

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Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:17

Edingril · 31/07/2024 10:15

So you honestly think it is healthy to lock your child away just because an event happened? If this is real I would really suggest saving up for counselling for them now

No, I wouldn’t lock her away. I’m just feeling anxious about her future with everything going on in the world .

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MrsSkylerWhite · 31/07/2024 10:17

That would be a complete over-reaction to an incredibly rare event.
How does she cope when she has to go out into the world alone?

notanothernana · 31/07/2024 10:16

Statistically more likely your LO will come to harm by you or your family.

Life is scary, but this event is a once in a lifetime thing - like Dunblane.

Edingril · 31/07/2024 10:15

So you honestly think it is healthy to lock your child away just because an event happened? If this is real I would really suggest saving up for counselling for them now

Cappugcino · 31/07/2024 10:15

Thankfully these things are rare, which is part of the reason why they're so shocking. Of course it's normal to worry when you have a child, but please do seek some support also. To be concerned about the danger of school when they're years off of being due to start doesn't sound like it's going to do positive things for your headspace.

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Ella2001 · 31/07/2024 10:15

Also I know this didn’t happen at a school it was a dance class , but with the amount of stabbings and children being targeted I’d be worried of sending her anywhere :(

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SwordToFlamethrower · 31/07/2024 10:15

Absolutely. We are home educating our daughter. The world is nuts and I don't trust it with my precious child.