Aibu to want to homeschool my child with everything going on

You're muddling up being nice and agreeing with you. It's fine for the majority to disagree with you on this one. It's a huge, life altering choice for your child so not one to make due to anxiety.

They are stiill extremely rare events
And as terrible as they are we remember them as they are so rare .

I'm just slightly rethinking that I know in America school shootings are sometimes cited as a factor in parents choosing to homeschool.

I don't know how valid that is as guns are a bigger thing in the United States, mass shootings still occur outside schools so I don't know how realistic statistically it is.

Needless to say the UK is different as regards mass school/group killings which are far far rarer.

How on earth do you or any parent know they are hiding their issues? How many of us know things about our own parents that they think they have hidden

Children know

How long are you planning to lock your child away for? All her life??

As many have said, it is, thankfully, an extremely rare, however tragic. occurrence.
During the 80s we were working in a military environment and were constantly on our guard against terrorist attacks. My daughter recently found out that we never put the children in the car before we had checked round and under it, then switched on the ignition. I once taught in an open-plan school, all hexagonal units, and because of a situation we had armed guards outside the school and patrolling inside it, which could be a little disconcerting.
This was life as it was then but having taken precautions we never allowed the bastards to win, we still went about our normal family life,

Our DD is home ed due to SEN but I agree with others that this event isn’t a good reason to make a decision on that now. Apart from anything else your daughter isn’t even a year old. A lot can change in 3 or so years. The world can seem a very scary place at times I agree & it’s natural to want to shelter our children from that. But it is also our job to build resilience in our kids. That’s something I worry about home Ed as my Dd has less exposure to certain experiences. Home Ed is also really hard!

I get the anxiety OP - it's a horrible way to feel, think and live. But I do think it's a good idea for you to see a GP and talk it through so it doesn't spiral further. I hope you have real life support around you too to help.

Home schooling would not have protected the children in Southport.

This is a you issue and it shouldn’t impact your daughter. I’ve not come across many home schooled kids but the few I have stand out a mile…terrible social skills, utterly unaware of the world around them, little experience of people with circumstances different to their own.

It's not that we think you're going to lock her up and throw away the key. It's that she is far, far more likely to be killed or injured from normal daily activities (especially travelling in a car) than to be stabbed at school (which is incredibly unusual in the UK).

Statistically, those of us living in what we might call the Western World have never led such safe lives - we are far far more likely to die from our own overindulgence of the cornucopia of riches than modern life has given us than at the hands individual violent people. Events like what happened in Soutport are dreadful, rare and almost impossible to mitigate against fully. We cannot live our lives, or order our children's lives around something that is exceptionally rare.

We now simply know far more about 'all that's happening in the world' - anyone who knows anything about history would say that we live in bloody paradise compared to most of human history.

I’m honestly soo scared to send her to school.

You said this though? So it isn't a leap to assume you would be too scared to send her anywhere

There were probably home educated children there. Home education doesn't mean your child is kept away from everything and everyone.

I think you're having an understandable reaction to this event which is wishing you could keep your child in a protective bubble forever but choosing to HE for this would be the wrong reason.

If you home school your child you are probably quite likely to use activities like these and send them to groups, where they may be in buildings that don’t have the same safeguarding restrictions in place eg mag locks, intercoms so actually could be less safe than a school building

By definition that's not once in a lifetime then is it? Many people alive now were also alive during dunblane, hungerford massacre, that nutter with a shotgun in Plymouth a few years ago etc..

Anxiety seems to be endless excuse on here, deal with that if you are that anxious how on earth could you successfully home-schooling a child?

Let alone putting your issues on to her none of it makes sense

Your child will be safe at school. All schools round here have locked gates outside drop off pickup time. And there is no way to access any of the classroom's without getting over a locked gate with high fences or going through reception which has a push back screen.
Besides if you say no to school where do you draw the line? Will you allow her to go to the shops? The park? A friend's house? How will you react when she's a teenager and decides to go to uni 100 miles away?

I'm all for home schooling but I'm concerned that doing it out of anxiety of taking your child anywhere is the wrong approach. Especially when home schooling means you are likely to be out and about a lot at different classes, groups and community locations. Unfortunately there is an element of risk in life no matter what you do, you just have to remember you're very unlikely to be caught up in something like that.

As per PPs, you need to manage your anxiety. She is more likely to be abused by a relative/family friend than stabbed at school or an activity.

You need to address your own anxiety, so it doesn't negatively affect your child. Those events are terrible but so incredibly rare. Schools are very safe and secure - nothing is 100% safe, even staying home. Driving a car is probably the most statistically dangerous thing you'll do with your child, and I bet you do that.

Absolutely don't do this for these reasons. Don't allow your fears to hold her back from exploring life in her own way. The situation was horrific but stuff like this is so so rare and even when it happens the chance of your little one being there at the exact second something awful happens is even more unlikely. Don't create an anxious child because you are anxious. It will only her her back in her life, career and experiences.

I am not necessarily saying home schooling will hold her back but your reasons behind it will.