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That publicising this event today is out of order

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Thedoctorswife1 · 30/07/2024 19:21

A local soft play chose last night and today to promote a Taylor swift themed event- it wasn’t out there before hand, just emerged yesterday evening. I think this is out of order given what’s happened in Southport. I sent them a polite private message - alerting them that the Southport event was also Swiftie themed and that they should reconsider their advert. It’s been “seen” but no reply.
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TheresaCrowd · 31/07/2024 17:20

Just because it wasn't advertised in advance, doesn't mean it wasn't planned.

Of course it was, events don't just happen at the click of a finger.

pinkyredrose · 31/07/2024 17:20

Thedoctorswife1 · 30/07/2024 19:55

so the event isn’t near Southport, reading these responses it seems it’s just me who thinks this is out of order. I don’t think the event shouldn’t happen but timing of the promotion seems really off. Just to clarify, it wasn’t scheduled at all before last night so it just feels a bit wrong. Looks like IABU though

Can you share the advert?

Beekeepingmum · 31/07/2024 17:17

Maybe the Taylor Swift tour should be cancelled too? Who would go to that given the association of the music with child killing.....

distinctpossibility · 31/07/2024 16:58

I happen to think the fact it was a Taylor Swift themed event in Southport will turn out to be 100% related. The killer chosen that event, got a taxi there ffs, deliberately and I suspect it was incel related (they are utterly disgusting about Taylor online). Selecting this event- not, say , a football camp - guaranteed a high proportion of female children and female staff and parents would be affected.

However, similar events should of course go ahead elsewhere. Taylor Swift is a popular singer and role model.

Boomer55 · 31/07/2024 16:52

One event is nothing to do with another. Southport was beyond sad, but the world, and life, keeps turning.🤷‍♀️

VainAbigail · 31/07/2024 16:40

I sent them a polite private message - alerting them

You sound like an utter busybody.

Binglebong · 31/07/2024 15:19

I think the objection I'd not holding the event, it's that they didn't delay the publicity for a day or two. If I were doing this event I would pull scheduled posts for two days.

Alther · 31/07/2024 10:58

BibbleandSqwauk · 31/07/2024 08:34

Do you advertise an event and THEN start planning it? Usual practice is to research, organise venue, staff, insurance, resources etc then advertise. This will have been weeks / months in the planning.

Exactly

This wasn't thrown together today or yesterday

BibbleandSqwauk · 31/07/2024 08:34

Do you advertise an event and THEN start planning it? Usual practice is to research, organise venue, staff, insurance, resources etc then advertise. This will have been weeks / months in the planning.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 31/07/2024 07:36

was the event attacked because it was Taylor swift themed though?
if not then why is it even relevant what the theme was - the media may as well say it was a children’s dance event

it they said that would you think all dance events should be cancelled

I really think this is a bit of a reach tbh

Pottedpalm · 31/07/2024 06:51

If it wasn’t already planned it would be pretty daft to just come up with a Taylor theme, given that anyone upset by the connection might not send their child. So I would think it was already planned, and should go ahead.

Sethera · 31/07/2024 06:27

Amid the horror of the news, I hadn't even registered that the Southport event had been Taylor Swift themed. As pps have said, unless it is actually in Southport I think it's unimportant in the scheme of things.

WillimNot · 31/07/2024 05:52

I agree @Thedoctorswife1 it's in poor taste

AGoingConcern · 31/07/2024 05:41

How do you know this wasn’t already scheduled & planned, OP?

MillyMollyMandHey · 31/07/2024 05:33

People getting upset at things like this is the problem. They should be upset at what’s caused this vile deed to happen, not handwringing over ‘offence’.

TeaAndTattoos · 31/07/2024 04:17

I’m from Southport I couldn’t bother myself to get upset over someone else having Taylor swift style party we have bigger things to be worried about right now. Thank you for the support though we need it right now ❤️

3CustardCreams · 31/07/2024 04:07

I think other people here are being a bit harsh. Given that you say this event was not planned or advertised prior to the Southport incident - yes it would seem to be a bit in bad taste.

MargaretThursday · 30/07/2024 20:30

If it was on fb the advert may have been already scheduled.

Calling · 30/07/2024 20:24

I don't think people should try and stop it.

Binglebong · 30/07/2024 20:12

I would have waited a few days before advertising it if it wasn't already out there.

Lilysgoneshopping · 30/07/2024 20:06

A bit on the fence really. Where and when is it due to take place?
As horrible as the Southport murders were, life still has to go on fro the rest of us x

Blueroses99 · 30/07/2024 20:03

I agree with you OP, seems odd to promote this particular type of themed event after the tragedy, if it wasn’t planned or promoted before.

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Thedoctorswife1 · 30/07/2024 19:55

so the event isn’t near Southport, reading these responses it seems it’s just me who thinks this is out of order. I don’t think the event shouldn’t happen but timing of the promotion seems really off. Just to clarify, it wasn’t scheduled at all before last night so it just feels a bit wrong. Looks like IABU though

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SaintHonoria · 30/07/2024 19:54

Don't be so ridiculous.

Having a similar event isn't being disrespectful at all.

Life goes on and we must never curtail our enjoyment of things and pander to evil people.

LlynTegid · 30/07/2024 19:53

I think it could have waited, or been branded as something else.

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