Just trying to process this and what better place than a anonymous forum! Years ago when my kids were little I joined a swimming class and a group of mums looked really lovely and friendly so after exchanging pleasantries I asked what school their children go to extend the conversation, I couldn’t care less what school they went to and the most vocal of the group got a bit weird and asked me in a very aggressive tone why I want to know and the rest looked on and didn’t say anything. I posted about this at the time under a different username and was told I was being very weird by asking a group of strangers what school their children go to! I took this on board and never asked again.
Now I understand this was a weird question and I take on board what others said at the time even though it was simply a conversation starter for me. But issue now is I keep seeing and thinking people are wrong for asking me certain questions. E.g. I’ve done lots of classes for the kids this week and last week and people keep asking what street I live on and what school my kids go to. I’m not rude like that lady was to me but I generically give them an answer such as in so and so town but not the exact name of school or street. Most people don’t say anything and don’t press further and the conversation then goes back to the activity we’re watching and I don’t ask them anything in return but there’s one woman who is kind of giving me really weird vibes as she asks me really intense questions. I don’t feel comfortable telling her my whole life story in the 20 minutes we’ve known each other! She doesn’t get the hint when I give her genetic answers and keeps pressing me for the actual name and when I give it to her she wants to know more and more. She keeps asking me things. It’s obvious I’m ignoring the question and changing topic but she doesn’t get the hint!
so my AIBU is is this something you would get uncomfortable about and how you would treat it?