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Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:32

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

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ButWhatAboutTheBees · 30/07/2024 23:27

ImplacableDiscernment · 30/07/2024 23:13

YANBU, he is selfish.

What did your DH do to help cool the house/dogs down?

Well the dogs will use the cooling mats if they need to cool down, smothering them in frozen towels will only make them hotter

And the house isn't exactly a steaming hot house at 26oC 🤣

PointsSouth · 30/07/2024 23:21

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 14:02

The kitchen is now 26c according to hive. I checked at around 12 pm and it was nowhere near that.

I just went and touched range and it is scolding to the touch still. The kitchen was lovely and cool for the dogs and now it is the hottest room in the house.

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No, what the range is doing is 'scalding'.

What you're doing is 'scolding'.

LuckySantangelo35 · 30/07/2024 23:17

ImplacableDiscernment · 30/07/2024 23:13

YANBU, he is selfish.

What did your DH do to help cool the house/dogs down?

@ImplacableDiscernment

he doesn’t need to do anything.

ImplacableDiscernment · 30/07/2024 23:13

YANBU, he is selfish.

What did your DH do to help cool the house/dogs down?

ImplacableDiscernment · 30/07/2024 23:09

We don't use the oven when it is hot. We use the air fryer if we need to cook or heat something up.

PrimitivePerson · 30/07/2024 23:05

Think I'll make a nice slow cooked venison stew.

About 14 hours in the oven should do it.

Wordysmith · 30/07/2024 23:02

MildredSauce · 30/07/2024 22:28

Absolutely is. I might be paraphrasing for effect, but not much!

Not sure if you're allowed to drop links but I guess if not I'll get deleted. Forgiveness rather than permission. A bit like this OP's husband with his chicken bangers!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5129673-aibu-by-peoples-reactions?page=1

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😂😂

Thanks for the linking! Off to read it now 👀

saltinesandcoffeecups · 30/07/2024 22:57

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 30/07/2024 21:49

Oh that would make sense
Maybe he uses the oven too and was scared of OP's reaction

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I can see the poor boy hanging out on street corners looking around furtively “uh hey man you got an oven I could use…umm I’ll share my sausages with you”

PrimitivePerson · 30/07/2024 22:52

RampantIvy · 30/07/2024 22:48

It wasn't even that hot either.

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I know!!! The hottest weather I've experienced is around 45 degrees, and people were still cooking in it. I've met plenty of people with weird foibles in my time, but never this one.

RampantIvy · 30/07/2024 22:48

PrimitivePerson · 30/07/2024 22:41

In my almost 50 years on this planet, I have never, ever met anyone who has ever considered it hot enough to ban use of the oven.

It wasn't even that hot either.

PrimitivePerson · 30/07/2024 22:41

In my almost 50 years on this planet, I have never, ever met anyone who has ever considered it hot enough to ban use of the oven.

Helplessandheartbroke · 30/07/2024 22:33

What have I just read??? The Xmas poster too.... my days....

MeinKraft · 30/07/2024 22:30

Maybe you and DH should invest in an air fryer.

MildredSauce · 30/07/2024 22:28

Wordysmith · 30/07/2024 22:15

Oh my days…too funny…is that a recent thread? @MildredSauce 😂

Absolutely is. I might be paraphrasing for effect, but not much!

Not sure if you're allowed to drop links but I guess if not I'll get deleted. Forgiveness rather than permission. A bit like this OP's husband with his chicken bangers!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5129673-aibu-by-peoples-reactions?page=1

Wordysmith · 30/07/2024 22:15

Oh my days…too funny…is that a recent thread? @MildredSauce 😂

MildredSauce · 30/07/2024 22:11

The fact that OP's voted more unreasonable than the woman who said her 1 year old told her "no more Christmas presents, mother, I'd rather contribute the cash to our family holidays" says it all....

RomanticOutlaws · 30/07/2024 22:02

Has anyone been able to clarify what type of cooker it was? I'm not sure if OP mentioned it.

Grammarnut · 30/07/2024 21:55

DiscontentedPig · 30/07/2024 15:39

I can't imagine making a fry-up just for myself whilst my wife was on a work call.

Turns out it was done in the oven, which is what the hoohah is about. Just because it is hot one does not stop using the oven. What if I want to bake a birthday cake, have baked potatoes and salad? OP is daft. DH should leave - and take the dogs.

DBD1975 · 30/07/2024 21:54

It's threads like this that make me so grateful for Mumsnet. I am laughing out loud reading this it is beyond hysterical, Mumsnet rocks! 🤣🤣🤣

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 30/07/2024 21:50

You asked if you were being unreasonable, clearly by all the responses on here you ARE being unreasonable, yet you just keep arguing about why you aren't unreasonable?! What exactly do you want from this @SharpOliveHam ? It is unreasonable to try to dictate to another adult what they can and can't eat/do in their own house. It is unreasonable to be so obsessed with the weather than people are only allowed salads!! Something like 40% of UK households own a dog and I am sure they aren't all eating salads and banning cooking in warm weather 😄Obviously the temp is your house has gone up because the outside temp has gone up from midday. I think you need to relax a bit tbh.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 30/07/2024 21:50

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 30/07/2024 21:47

Rachel Reeves to announce she’s giving free sausages to pensioners this winter

But only chicken sausages

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 30/07/2024 21:50

OP could stick a frozen sossie up her arse and one each up the dog’s arses to beat this oh so oppressive heat

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 30/07/2024 21:49

somanynamesbynow · 30/07/2024 21:19

Didn't the son fib about how he was spending his time, and also about his grades?

The poor boy - it was clearly all her fault.

Oh that would make sense
Maybe he uses the oven too and was scared of OP's reaction

DBD1975 · 30/07/2024 21:49

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 30/07/2024 21:47

Rachel Reeves to announce she’s giving free sausages to pensioners this winter

Brilliant 👍 🤣🤣🤣

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 30/07/2024 21:47

There's always one who will call a man selfish for being perfectly normal

I bet if OP had said her DH had acted this way towards her, told her she couldn't use the oven as it was "too hot" he wouldn't be reasonable and she'd be told to LTB