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Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:32

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

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EleanorMc67 · 30/07/2024 13:49

Having the oven blasting for one meal is environmentally unfriendly, costly, wasteful of energy - & completely daft on a hot day!! I totally get your sensitivity to heat too, as I was like that even pre-menopause! It's also bad for brain functioning, if you're working from home/studying etc. Cooler temperatures help your thinking to be more acute.

Get him an air fryer & enjoy your cooler house & lower bills ...

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 30/07/2024 13:49

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:46

My point is I’m the one going around making sure house and dogs are cool.

All this effort has gone to waste just cause my dh fancied a fry up.

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no you are being ridiculous in ‘all this effort’.

The effort is your choice. And needless.

Saying ‘I am doing all this over the top stuff so you must abide by my rules’ is controlling and ridiculous

purplecorkheart · 30/07/2024 13:49

I mean this in a nice way op but you badly need to get a grip.

You over-reaction to a non issue is frighting. You are being controlling. Honestly is there other issues going on in your life that is making you act in such an irrational manner?

YellowAsteroid · 30/07/2024 13:49

26 degrees is not hot. There's no hot wind outside, so open a window on the shady side of your house, put on a fan, and get a breeze going.

And thank your lucky stars your DH is doing what he can to stay alive & healthy, and not put on weight as he ages.

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/07/2024 13:48

He bakes eggs (it’s not a fry up if you don’t fry it) and you’re bothering your poor dogs. It’s not even that hot at 26. Batshit all round tbh.

sprigatito · 30/07/2024 13:48

There's a great little story by Daphne du Maurier you should read OP, it's called The Apple Tree.

Anonym00se · 30/07/2024 13:47

Aquamarine1029 · 30/07/2024 13:43

Are you aware that dogs don't melt?

Maybe the dog is menopausal?

mbosnz · 30/07/2024 13:46

And yes, you're the one feeling the heat, fretting about the heat, so you're the one that will be taking the steps you want to mitigate it.

Gioia1 · 30/07/2024 13:46

Op there are real issues in life. Grow up, learn that the world does not revolve around you.

FetchezLaVache · 30/07/2024 13:46

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:42

Yes I am placing towels I’ve cooled in the freeze on my dogs who won’t lie on cooling mats. Later on I will be the one getting their paddling pools out. Not dh.

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Do you realise how much of a martyr you sound?

Are you performatively cooling your dogs between posts to make sure your poor husband understands he has Done Wrong And Must Be Punished?

Seaglassandchampagne · 30/07/2024 13:46

You would really hate the aga in my house 🤣

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:46

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 30/07/2024 13:45

Why are you putting frozen towels on your dogs?

what dogs are they?

and again, so what about the paddling pool? That’s got nothing to do with lunch.

They don’t need a paddling pool because he cooked his dinner.

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My point is I’m the one going around making sure house and dogs are cool.

All this effort has gone to waste just cause my dh fancied a fry up.

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DaisyChain505 · 30/07/2024 13:46

100% controlling behaviour. If you want to keep the house cool get fans. Don’t dictate what people can and cannot eat.

Ponderingwindow · 30/07/2024 13:46

I don’t handle heat well at all. I even get hives sometimes.

We absolutely avoid using the oven on some days. it didn’t even occur to me that other people use it on hot days.

ShuviTupya · 30/07/2024 13:46

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FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 30/07/2024 13:46

ApolloandDaphne · 30/07/2024 13:44

He hasn't used the oven though has he? He used the hob I imagine for a fry up?

She literally said in the OP that he doesn't fry so yes, presumably he used the oven.
Anyway the fixation on the temperature is odd and of course he can use whatever appliance he likes in his home.

mbosnz · 30/07/2024 13:45

You know the old saying 'if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen'? I suggest you do so - literally! Stick a wet gauze on you, wipe down the animals with one, stick a fan on, sit down and settle down - you're just making yourself even more hot and bothered.

You are the one impacting the household with your over the top reaction.

Bluebirdover · 30/07/2024 13:45

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:35

Im doing everything in my power to keep the house cool. Not only for me but for dogs and he has just undone everything

Oh don't be ridiculous! It's hot but people up and down the country with dogs or without dogs are using the oven to cook in.

Stay out of the kitchen if you're that bloody bothered.

Zimunya · 30/07/2024 13:45

ApolloandDaphne · 30/07/2024 13:44

He hasn't used the oven though has he? He used the hob I imagine for a fry up?

Thanks for raising this. I, too, was puzzling over how you make a "fry-up" in the oven. (Totally realise I am completely missing the point of the thread!)

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 30/07/2024 13:45

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:42

Yes I am placing towels I’ve cooled in the freeze on my dogs who won’t lie on cooling mats. Later on I will be the one getting their paddling pools out. Not dh.

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Why are you putting frozen towels on your dogs?

what dogs are they?

and again, so what about the paddling pool? That’s got nothing to do with lunch.

They don’t need a paddling pool because he cooked his dinner.

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:45

ApolloandDaphne · 30/07/2024 13:44

He hasn't used the oven though has he? He used the hob I imagine for a fry up?

The range oven was on for 40 mins. Sausages were frozen.

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TheKeatingFive · 30/07/2024 13:44

Yup. Very controlling. Poor guy.

Seaglassandchampagne · 30/07/2024 13:44

YABU. People are allowed to cook food in their own houses.

You need to invest in products which will help you with your issues with the heat. A Dyson fan might help, or one of those handheld ones which mists water. You can also get bands for your wrists which go in the freezer until you need them.

An air fryer would mean your husband could cook without using the oven.

ApolloandDaphne · 30/07/2024 13:44

He hasn't used the oven though has he? He used the hob I imagine for a fry up?

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 30/07/2024 13:44

Oh dear baby jesus. When you cool stuff in a freezer, the heat that was in the stuff is exchanged into the room air. This is why the back of the freezer is warm. You probably added 2’C yourself by freezing bloody towels.