Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

96% of replies are that you are being unreasonable and controlling. But you keep coning up with excuses why you are right. Accept that you are wrong, apologise to your husband and move on.

And if you need cold towels and paddling pools for dogs in 26 degrees of heat, then you need to think about whether they are suitable dogs for you. 26 isn't going to be an unusual temperature for the UK in the summer.

Yeah, one of mine is double coated. Keep them groomed and use a fan. That’s it.

Towels should be damp, not freezing. That’s not good for them.

It’s still ridiculous. And the ‘after all the effort I put in’ is simply you trying to be a martyr and force him into doing as you have said.

OP, you say that your DH is selfish because his decision to cook lunch has affected the whole household. But can you not see that your extreme phobia of what is actually very mild heat is also affecting the whole household?

I hate the heat, I open/close blinds and windows to facilitate our home being as cool as possible. I also keep doors closed appropriately to help keep important rooms as cool as possible.

This does not mean I ban usage of the cooker. I just means I'm a tiny bit more vocal about "keep the kitchen door closed" so that the heat is contained as much as possible in one space.

You are very controlling IMO

Oh don't be so BLOODY RIDICULOUS🤣🤣🤣

Please stop putting frozen or very cold towels on your dogs , it buggers up their own cooling system.

It's like if you go into a air conditioned shop then come back out into the heat then go back in again . It takes a while for your and your dogs temp to reset each time .
By all means put a dsmp towel town for them to lie on , or use a slightly damp cloth to wipe the pads on their paws but that's it.

And yrs of course your DH can use the oven / hob to cook his lunch .
The only thing I'd be annoyed about was if he didn't cook me some .

And close the kitchen door (if you have one - we don't).

It's not even that warm op just wet a towel and put it round your neck and get on with it

Your oven must be really poorly insulated if putting it on for half an hour or so increases the temperature in the kitchen by nearly 4 C.

Or more likely it's nothing to do with putting the oven on and simply because the outside temperature and sun has cause the kitchen to get warmer.

But if he frequently cooks meals for one in the oven, an air fryer would probably be a good investment.

I've got a photo of my dog snuggled underneath her blanket on the sofa in 40 degree heat. She's stupid. I think, OP, you are attributing your feelings to everything in the vicinity. Your DH isn't feeling the heat like you are. The dogs, chances are, aren't feeling the heat like you are - dogs put themselves where they feel cool, they don't need humans to do it for them.

Yabvu

Oh poor dogs..... I think they'll live with your DH using the oven though!

You're not liking being told YABU and controlling are you?

Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.
Who's giving you praise for the cool house and telling you you're 'doing well?

Do not countries not eat hot foods then by OPs logic?

You do realize a fan does absolutely nothing to lower temperatures?

Is your entire house open plan, or does your kitchen have a door on it? I don't understand how the entire household has been affected by the kitchen being warmer as a result of your H cooking himself lunch?

Unless there is some spectacular backstory, then yes YABU. I know it's hot. But kitchens are literally designed for cooking. Cooking tends to generate heat. This is not an unforeseen consequence and I don't see why it would impact keeping other parts of the house - or your dogs - cool. Unless you are literally trying to put frozen towels on your dogs in the kitchen whilst they lay in front of the range?!

Well then you got the wrong dogs for this climate.

It's 28 degrees and the dogs have cold towels, it's not 48 degrees and they are outside

@SharpOliveHam is this really how you think?! Honestly? This is insanely controlling and dramatic.

You need to sort out your anxiety about the heat, this is a you issue. Your DH should be able to make himself a hot lunch if he wants.

I find it weird that he's cooking a fry up in the oven, surely just leave the frozen sausages and do the other bits in a pan? It's sensible to not put the oven on in this heat.

I can understand your point OP, my house heats up ridiculously and I try not to use the oven on hot days as it heats up the whole downstairs and won't cool off quickly. If it was the only cool place for my pets I'd be worried too.

I think if you've expected him to read your mind, then you've come off as controlling and BU but if you've had previous conversations about keeping the house cool by shutting blinds, not having oven on etc then he is BU.

Also, unless the dogs have diagnosed health issues (in which case I would certainly be sympathetic), they will cope. Yes, it's hot, but as long as they have shade and plenty of cool water they'll be fine. Dogs in the Middle East and Africa survive far hotter temperatures.

“but darling, surely it’s not a crime to cook a sausage in this 26’C heat…”